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- Iseluleko Esihlekisayo Somakoti
- Iseluleko Esihlekisayo Samakhwenyana
- Iseluleko Esihlekisayo Kokubili
- Sifundeni kulezi zingcezu zeseluleko?
Imishado iveza ithuba lokuthi wonke umuntu anikele ngokwabo okuhlekisa kakhulu, futhi izeluleko ezihlekisayo zomakoti nomkhwenyana ziyaqhubeka nokuza. Njengoba wena nomuntu ozoshada naye nilungiselela ukusho izifungo zenu futhi nizama ukuveza uthando olungapheli nokubonga ngendlela enothando kakhulu, wonke umuntu ubonakala efuna indlela ehlekisa kakhulu emshadweni. Ngakho-ke, yini okufanele uyenze ngakho? Ake sithathe isikhashana ukubheka kolunye uhlangothi lwalezi zingcezu zezeluleko, futhi mhlawumbe sithole ukusetshenziswa kwamanye amaparele wokuhlakanipha angacelwanga.
Iseluleko Esihlekisayo Somakoti
"Amadoda afana nemililo - ayacishwa uma kunganakiwe." - UZsa Zsa Gabor. Lokho uZsa Zsa azame ukukusho lapha ukuthi, ngokufanayo nabesifazane, amadoda akufanele anganakwa kuphela ngoba manje asho ama-I dos awo. Ukuheha nokuqomisana akumele kuphele.
"Umshado yigama nje lokutholwa lokuthola ingane yesilisa esekhule ngokweqile engasakwazi ukuphathwa ngabazali bayo ..." - Lesi seluleko sisitshela ngendlela ehlekisayo ukuthi amadoda athanda ukuba yizingane kwesinye isikhathi, kepha futhi ayakufanelekela ukuba sihlonishwe, ngakho-ke qaphela ukuthi ungabaphathi njengezingane - futhi ngeke baziphathe njengabo.
“Indlela engcono yokwenza abesilisa abaningi benze okuthile ukusikisela ukuthi mhlawumbe sebebadala kakhulu ukuthi bangayenza.”- U-Ann Bancroft. Lolu uhlobo lokugqugquzela olubi kakhulu, kepha uma kungekho okunye okusebenzayo, kuvunyelwe.
“Ukushada kufana nokuba nomngani omkhulu ongakhumbuli noma yini oyishoyo.” - Abesifazane bakhuluma kakhulu kunamadoda, futhi amadoda kaningi avele angakwazi ukuzwa yonke into, noma avame ukuyithatha njengengabalulekile.
Iseluleko Esihlekisayo Samakhwenyana
“Wonke umuntu wesilisa ufuna unkosikazi omuhle, oqondayo, onomnotho futhi ophekayo. Kodwa umthetho uvumela unkosikazi oyedwa kuphela ” - Lesi seluleko sikhombisa ukuthi asinakulindela ukuthi owesifazane oyedwa uzoba nakho konke. Kepha abesilisa kufanele bafunde ukuthanda omkabo njengoba benjalo futhi babone ukuthi bahluke kanjani futhi bahle kangakanani.
“Zimbili izinto ezidingekayo ukuze unkosikazi ajabule. Okokuqala, mvumele acabange ukuthi unendlela yakhe. Okwesibili, mayibe nayo. ” - Abesifazane bavame ukuzinza entweni uma bekholelwa ukuthi baqinisile, futhi lesi seluleko sembula amadoda ukuthi indlela elula yokuphuma iwukuvumela nje.
“Ukulalela unkosikazi kufana nokufunda imigomo nemibandela yewebhusayithi. Awuqondi lutho, kodwa noma kunjalo, uthi: "Ngiyavuma!" - Ngokufana nenye yezeluleko ezihlekisayo zangaphambilini, lokhu kuveza ukuthi abesifazane abagcini ngokukhuluma kakhulu, kepha bakhuluma ngokwehlukile kunamadoda, umbono wabo ngomhlaba uyehluka, futhi ababili badinga isikhathi esithile ukuthola ulimi oluvamile.
"Uma owesifazane ethi" Ini? ", Akukhona ngoba engakuzwanga, ukukunikeza ithuba lokushintsha okushilo." - Futhi, abesifazane kubonakala sengathi badinga ukufakazela ukuthi baqinisile kancane kunamadoda, noma kunjalo kubonakala ngokombono wendoda. Futhi indlela eshesha kunazo zonke, kepha hhayi efanelekile, ukuzinikela. Kodwa-ke, umqondo ongcono ukuxhumana okuqinisayo nangenhlonipho ngokungafani.
Iseluleko Esihlekisayo Kokubili
“Oganene naye: Umuntu ozokumela kuyo yonke le nkinga obungeke ube nayo uma ungahlala ungashadile.” - Indlela ehlekisa ngempela ekhombisa ukuthi umshado ngumsebenzi omkhulu wokulungisa ukungaboni ngaso linye. Kepha, izinzuzo zivame ukudlula izinkinga.
“Yonke imishado ijabule. Ukuhlala ndawonye kamuva yikhona okudala zonke izinkinga. ” - URaymond Hull. Okushiwo nguHull ukuthi, mhlawumbe, ukunamathela emithethweni yesikhungo somshado ngokuqinile kungaba yimbangela yezinkinga eziningi ezingagwenywa ngokuguquguquka okuthile.
"Uthando aluboni. Kodwa umshado uyabuyisa. ” - Yize lesi seluleko sasihloselwe ukuba sidabukise kancane, sibuye sibe nolunye uhlangothi lwaso, okuyiqiniso lokuthi emshadweni, sazi omunye umuntu eduze kakhulu kangangokuba siwaqonde amaphutha abo, futhi, empeleni, sibathande.
“Empilweni, kufanele ngaso sonke isikhathi sigcine amehlo ethu evulekile. Kodwa-ke, ngemva komshado, kungcono ukubavalela ngezinye izikhathi! ” - ... Futhi ubekezelele amaphutha ophathina bethu bempilo, esikhundleni sokuxosha oshade naye phezu kwabo.
Sifundeni kulezi zingcezu zeseluleko?
Ekugcineni, njenganoma iyiphi into ebalulekile empilweni, kungaba neseluleko esisodwa kuphela esifanele ukusithatha, futhi leso - ungalokothi wenze noma yini ephikisana nezimiso zakho nezinkolelo zakho. Uma wenza kanjalo, uzolahlekelwa ngokwakho, futhi ngeke uzilungele wena wedwa kepha futhi nomlingani wakho kanye nomndeni wakho. Ngakho-ke, zonke lezi zingcezu zezeluleko ziveza okuningi ngesimo somuntu nokuthi imishado ivame ukuphuma kanjani, kepha azisho into eyodwa ngokucacile, futhi lokho - hlala uzihlonipha wena, obathandayo, nokwehluka kwakho. Le ukuphela kwendlela eya enjabulweni.