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- Ungathandana kanjani ngemuva kwesehlukaniso?
- Ukuqomisana ngemuva kwesehlukaniso akufani nokuthandana ngaphambilini
- Lalela amathumbu akho
- Yehlisa umthwalo wakho ngaphambi kokuphola ngemuva kwesahlukaniso
- Kufanele ulinde isikhathi esingakanani emva kwesehlukaniso ngaphambi kokuqala ukuphola futhi
Idivosi isiphelile, (wethemba) ukwelashwa, usuqale impilo entsha manje kwenzenjani? Asidalelwanga ukuba sibe sodwa ngakho, ukufuna ukuphola nokuthola omunye umlingani kungokwemvelo. Ngabe ukuphola ngemuva kwesehlukaniso kubukeka kanjani ngalesi sikhathi?
Umugqa wesiliva ngokuthandana ngemuva kwesehlukaniso nokuthola umlingani omusha yinjabulo yokukwazi ukwenza uhlu nokukwazi ukubeka noma yini oyifunayo kulolo hlu. Unendwangu engenalutho futhi uyakwazi ukuklama impilo yakho entsha.
Ungathandana kanjani ngemuva kwesehlukaniso?
Kungabonakala kukhungathekisa ukubuyela echibini lokuqomisana, ikakhulukazi ukube ubukade usebudlelwaneni bakho bangaphambilini isikhathi eside. Ungakhohlwa ukuthi kunjani ukuphola futhi. Kuthatha isikhathi ngaphambi kokuba ukujabulele ukungashadi okusha nokuthi kungenzeka ukhethe umlingani omusha. Into yokuqala ehlupha ingqondo nenhliziyo yakho isizungu. Ngenxa yesizungu nokushoda kombono, ungenza amaphutha ngokuthandana futhi ngemuva kwesahlukaniso. Kodwa-ke, uma ugcina inothi lezinto ezithile futhi unyathela ngokucophelela emhlabeni wokuphola ngemuva kwesahlukaniso, uzokwazi ukuthola uthando futhi.
Ukuqomisana ngemuva kwesehlukaniso akufani nokuthandana ngaphambilini
Khumbula ukuthi usumdala manje nokuthi ubusebenza kanjani esikhathini esedlule kungenzeka kungakusebenzeli. Thembeka kuwe uqobo. Cabanga ngemingcele yakho. Yiziphi izihlukanisi zedili lakho, yini ongayekethisa kuyo futhi yini ongafuni ukuphila ngaphandle kwayo? Angikwazi ukugcizelela kuwe ukuthi ibaluleke kangakanani imingcele. Ngithanda ukusho ukuthi, "Imingcele ayibalulekile kuze kwenzeke umcimbi onobuthi."
Lalela amathumbu akho
Esinye sezeluleko ezibaluleke kakhulu zokuphola ngemuva kwesahlukaniso ukuqala ukusebenzisa ukuzindla uma ungakakwenzi. Uma uzivumela ukuthi uqale ukuhlelela emzimbeni wakho nokuthi uzizwa kanjani, kwenza kube lula kakhulu ukwenza izinqumo. Lalela amathumbu akho futhi uma uzwa ukuthi kukhona amafulegi abomvu akhuluma nawo, ungawanaki. Uma ngingaveza obala, empilweni yami angizange ngilalele lawo mafulegi abomvu futhi akuholeli ndawo okuhle. Lapho sifuna ukuba sebudlelwaneni ngenxa yesizungu singazishalazela kalula izinto bese sizisola ekugcineni.
Yehlisa umthwalo wakho ngaphambi kokuphola ngemuva kwesahlukaniso
Into eyodwa ebaluleke kakhulu ekubeni nobuhlobo obusha obuhle, awukwazi ukuletha umthwalo wakho wakudala ebudlelwaneni obusha. Yingakho ukwelashwa kubaluleke kakhulu. Udinga ukwazi izimbangela zakho zangaphambilini futhi uma uvuselelwa ubone ukuthi lo akuyena umlingani wakho wangaphambili lo ngumlingani wakho omusha.
Isibonelo, ake sithi owedlule wakukhohlisa ngakho manje unezinkinga zokuthembana. Ebudlelwaneni bakho obusha, uzizwa unovalo ngokuthembela. Umlingani wakho omusha wephuzile ukukushayela ngolunye usuku kusihlwa, ingqondo yakho iya ngokuzenzekelayo kubo bayakopela. Buyisela ingqondo yakho emuva ukhumbule ukuthi lona ngumlingani wakho omusha futhi akukho abakwenzile ukukwenza ungabethembi.
Kaningi abantu baletha imithwalo edlule ebudlelwaneni obusha futhi babonakalise ngokwakha isimo esifanayo nobudlelwano babo obudlule.
Wake wasizwa yini isisho esithi, "Indaba efanayo umuntu ohlukile?" Usebudlelwaneni obusha ngokuphelele futhi kulokhu awudingi ukwenza amaphutha afanayo owenze esikhathini esedlule.
Kufanele ulinde isikhathi esingakanani emva kwesehlukaniso ngaphambi kokuqala ukuphola futhi
Awukho umugqa wesikhathi onzima futhi osheshayo onquma ukuthi kufanele ulinde isikhathi esingakanani ngaphambi kokuphola ngemuva kwesahlukaniso. Kufanele uthathe isikhathi esiningi (noma isikhathi esincane) njengoba udinga ukudabuka ngobuhlobo obudlule futhi uzakhe kabusha. Lapho uthola umuzwa wokuthi ungaphezu kobuhlobo bakho bangaphambilini futhi ufuna ukuqala ukufuna okusha bese ucabanga ngokuthandana.
Khumbula, isifiso sokuthandana nothile akufanele sivele endaweni lapho ufuna ukugcwalisa ubuze obusale ngemuva ebudlelwaneni bakho bangaphambilini. Kufanele ifike lapho usukulungele ngempela ukuvula ikhasi elilandelayo empilweni yakho.
Thatha isikhathi sakho ukwazi umuntu. Khetha, ungahlali ngenxa yesizungu, isikhathi asipheli, noma esinye isizathu ongazinika sona.
Yiba nohlu lwakho; xhumana ngezidingo zakho kanye nezinto ozifunayo. Okubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi uqiniseke ukuthi uthathe isikhathi sakho ukwelapheka esehlukanisweni, ubulashwa, wenze umsebenzi, ukwazile ukucubungula. Uzinikeze ithuba lokuzazi futhi njengomuntu ongashadile. Njengomngane wami othandekayo uthanda ukusho, “Nyusa imali yakho!”