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- 1. Oshade naye ngeke akuqedele
- 2. Ungalindeli lukhulu kumlingani wakho
- 3. Ngeke uhlale uthola umuzwa wothando
- 4. Umndeni womlingani wakho uyisihluthulelo
- 5. Gcina umbhalo wezimali zomlingani wakho
- 6. Ukungqubuzana akunakugwemeka
Nisothandweni futhi niyathembisana kodwa ungaqiniseka kanjani ukuthi usukulungele ukuphila komshado? Iningi lemibhangqwana aliqinisekile kakhulu uma kuziwa ekugcineni ukuhlala phansi. Abaqiniseki ukuthi yini okufanele bayilindele nokuthi yini okufanele babheke phambili kuyo, futhi lapho izinto ziba nzima, bavame ukuphonsa ithawula.
Ngokusho kukaKristen Bell noDax Shepard; umbhangqwana wosaziwayo othi "It" othandwa yiwo wonke umuntu, ukhiye wokugcina isibopho eside futhi esinempilo, esijabulisayo ukwelashwa kwezithandani ngaphambi komshado. Ukwelashwa kungakusiza ekuhambeni kwesikhathi futhi kukusize ugcine umshado wakho lapho kuvela izinkinga. Kodwa-ke, kukhona izeluleko ezithile eziyisisekelo okufanele wazi ngaphambi kokuya ekwelashweni kwezithandani nokuzinza.
1. Oshade naye ngeke akuqedele
Njengoba uJerry Maguire owake waba ngumugqa odumile ngokuqedelana kwabalingani bakhe kungazwakala kuthandana ngendlela emangalisayo kepha akulona iqiniso. Awukwazi ukulindela owakwakho aqedele impilo yakho. Ebudlelwaneni, kubalulekile kuwe ukuthi ubheke wena kepha ungabi nobugovu. Gxila kuwe ngendlela engamnaki umlingani wakho noma eyonakalisa ubuhlobo.
Esikhundleni salokho, gxila kuwe ngendlela lapho uzinakekela khona ngokwanele ukuze ukwazi ukuveza uhlangothi lwakho oluhle kakhulu.
Imibhangqwana ejabulayo idinga ukulinganisela phakathi kokwehlukana nobunye.
2. Ungalindeli lukhulu kumlingani wakho
Lona ngumthetho oyinhloko womshado kanye nanoma yiluphi olunye uhlobo lobungane, lapho ulindela kakhulu, kulandelwa ukudabuka kwenhliziyo nentukuthelo. Kuyelulekwa njalo ukuthi okulindelekile akumele kufinyelele esibhakabhakeni futhi kufanele ukugcine ngomkhondo kwakho.
Cishe ufuna okuningi kumlingani wakho njengomzali omuhle, umyeni oqotho, isithandwa esinothando, umlingani ngakho-ke kuphakama izingqinamba ngenxa yokusungula okulindelwe.
Lapho okulindele kungaphusile kakhulu, kuba lula ukuthandana. Intukuthelo iyancipha futhi nobabili nizoba umbhangqwana ojabulayo. Ngakho-ke qiniseka ukuthi unakekela okulindelekile okuletha ebudlelwaneni bakho.
3. Ngeke uhlale uthola umuzwa wothando
Ungaba nomlingani ophelele emhlabeni, bangenza konke ngokulungile, kepha kusazoba nezinsuku lapho uzozwa sengathi awuhambisani nabo. Uzozwa sengathi awuthandani.
Ezikhathini ezifana nalezi, kubalulekile ukuthi uhlale uzinze ngamanani akho.
Lezi zikhathi zizokhomba ukuthi ninjani njengezithandani; ngakho-ke esikhundleni sokulandela imizwa ocabanga ukuthi kufanele ube nayo, vele uhlale phansi uphumule.
Lokhu akuyona into okufanele ukhathazeke ngayo.
4. Umndeni womlingani wakho uyisihluthulelo
Gcina umkhondo wokuthi oshade naye unjani nomndeni wabo. Ingabe bayezwana? Ingabe zaziseduze noma zazikude? Ngabe kwakukhona ukungqubuzana phakathi komunye nomunye?
Lolu lwazi lubucayi kakhulu njengoba iningi lalezi zinto zomndeni livame ukuphinda futhi liphinde livuke emshadweni wakho.
Lapho imibhangqwana inamandla okukhuluma nabalingani bayo ngaphandle kokwazi ukwahlulela yakha izinga eliqinile lokuthembana nokuhloniphana.
5. Gcina umbhalo wezimali zomlingani wakho
Kubalulekile ukuthi bobabili abashadile badalule sonke isimo sabo sezezimali komunye nomunye bese banquma indlela engcono yokulawula.
Imibhangqwana eminingi ijwayele ukuba ne-akhawunti eyodwa ehlangene kanye nama-akhawunti ayo ahlukene asebhange.
Qiniseka ukuthi wenza noma yini ekusebenzelayo, xoxa ngesimo sezezimali ukuze ugweme ukuzizwa ungavikelekile noma ulawulwa.
Le ndawo ebudlelwaneni ingazala ukungathembani nezinkinga; kungezinye zezizathu ezenza abantu abaningi bakhethe isehlukaniso.
6. Ukungqubuzana akunakugwemeka
Lapho kusigaba se-honeymoon sobudlelwano kunzima ukucabanga iqiniso lokuthi ikusasa liphethe izingxabano nokungavumelani.
Kepha lokhu kuyiqiniso, njengoba isikhathi sihamba ungaqala ukubona izinto ezicasulayo ngomlingani wakho, imikhuba yabo emibi futhi kungahle kube yisisulu sezimpi phakathi kwenu nobabili.
Lokhu kujwayelekile ngokuphelele; lapho kuvela izikhathi ezinjengalezi zama ukuxazulula inkinga esikhundleni sokukhumbula isikhathi esidlulile.
Into ebaluleke kakhulu okudingeka uyazi ngaphambi kokuhlala phansi ukuthi inhlanhla ibaluleke ngendlela emangalisayo. Uma ungenalo ithemba, ubuhlobo bakho buzothinteka. Kubalulekile ukuthi uzizwe ujabulile futhi ukhipha amandla amahle futhi lokhu kuzosiza ekwandiseni uthando nothando phakathi kwenu abalingani benu.
Bheka phambili esikhathini esizayo ngamathemba ajabulisayo futhi nethembane. Lokhu kuzosiza ekwandiseni isibopho onaso futhi kuqinise umshado wakho. Musa ukuziqhathanisa nabanye futhi ugcine ubudlelwano bakho bunempilo.