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- Ukukhulumisana okuhle kuqala ngokunaka
- Kudinga nokuthi bobabili abalingani banamathele esihlokweni esisodwa
- Setha umgomo wokuxazulula inkinga eseduze
- Ungavumeli umlingani oyedwa ukuba abuse
- Ukhiye omkhulu wokuxhumana okuhle yi-R-E-S-P-E-C-T
Izithandani zivame ukuza ehhovisi lami zikhala ngezinkinga "zokuxhumana" emishadweni yazo. Lokho kungasho noma yini kusuka ezindabeni zohlelo lolimi kuya ekuthuleni okuphelele. Uma ngibacela ukuthi bangitshele ukuthi izinkinga zokuxhumana zisho ukuthini kuzo zonke, izimpendulo zivame ukwehluka kakhulu. Ucabanga ukuthi ukhuluma kakhulu ngakho-ke uvele amthungele; ukholelwa ukuthi akaphenduli ngokusobala, esikhundleni sokumnika izimpendulo zegama elilodwa noma avele akhulume.
Ukukhulumisana okuhle kuqala ngokunaka
Lokhu kusebenza kokubili isikhulumi kanye nomlaleli. Uma umlaleli ebuka umdlalo ku-TV noma uhlelo oluthandayo, leso yisikhathi esibi sokuletha okuthile okunenjongo ngokulindela ukuxazululwa. Ngokufanayo, ukuthi "Sidinga ukukhuluma," kuyindlela esheshayo yokwakha ukuzivikela kumlaleli. Esikhundleni salokho, khetha isikhathi lapho umlingani wakho engekho phakathi kokuthile bese uthi, "Singaba nini isikhathi esihle sokuthi sikhulume nge ______." Kudlala ngokulingana ukubeka isihloko ukuze umlaleli ayazi isihloko futhi abone ukuthi bakulungele nini ukunaka.
Kudinga nokuthi bobabili abalingani banamathele esihlokweni esisodwa
Ukuxhumana okuhle kudinga nokuthi bobabili abalingani banamathele esihlokweni esisodwa sengxoxo. Gcina isihloko siwumngcingo. Isibonelo, uma uthi, “Sizokhuluma ngemali,” lokho kubanzi kakhulu futhi kwehlisa amathuba okuxazululwa. Esikhundleni salokho, yigcine incane. "Kumele sixazulule inkinga mayelana nokukhokha isikweletu se-Visa." Isihloko sigxila engxoxweni futhi senze bobabili isixazululo sigxile.
Namathela esihlokweni okusho ukungalethi ibhizinisi elidala. Uma wethula "izinto" ezindala, ezingaxazululiwe, kushiya okuvunyelwene ngakho emuva futhi kuphazamise ukuxhumana okuhle. Ingxoxo eyodwa = isihloko esisodwa.
Setha umgomo wokuxazulula inkinga eseduze
Uma bobabili abalingani bevumelana nalo mthetho, ingxoxo kungenzeka ihambe kahle kakhulu futhi isixazululo kungenzeka. Ukuvuma ukuxazululwa kusengaphambili kusho ukuthi bobabili ophathina bazogxila ezixazululweni futhi ukugxila ezixazululweni kukuvumela ukuthi nisebenze njengeqembu hhayi njengezitha.
Ungavumeli umlingani oyedwa ukuba abuse
Enye indlela yokugcina isisombululo sigxile kakhulu ekungavumeli umlingani oyedwa ukuba aphathe inkulumo. Indlela elula yokufeza lokho ukunciphisa isikhulumi ngasinye emishweni emithathu ngasikhathi. Ngaleyo ndlela akekho ophethe ingxoxo futhi zombili izinhlangothi zizizwa zizwakala.
Uma izingxoxo zakho zithambekele ekuzuleni, bhala isihloko osikhethile phansi esiqeshini sephepha bese usigcina sibonakala kubo bobabili abathintekayo. Uma umuntu eqala ukuzulazula esihlokweni, ngenhlonipho yithi, “Ngiyazi ukuthi ungathanda ukukhuluma nge ______ kodwa okwamanje singacela ukuxazulula (udaba lwethu esilukhethile.)”
Ukhiye omkhulu wokuxhumana okuhle yi-R-E-S-P-E-C-T
U-Aretha Franklin wayeqinisile. Kubalulekile ukuhlala ugxile kusisombululo ukuthi ophathina baphathe imibono nemicabango yabanye ngenhlonipho. Inhlonipho igcina ivolumu iphansi kanye namathuba wokuxazululwa aphezulu. Uba yiqembu. Amaqembu aphumelela kakhulu lapho ehloniphana. Uma ingxoxo iba nokungahloniphi ngapha nangapha, buza ngenhlonipho ukuthi kungani omunye umuntu ezizwa engakhululekile - lokho kuyisizathu esivamile sokuthi izinto zingalawuleki ekushintshaneni kwabantu - futhi zilungise ukungaphatheki kahle, bese ubuyela esihlokweni esikhethiwe. Uma umuntu engakwazi ukwenza lokho, phakamisa ukuthi uqhubeke nengxoxo ngesinye isikhathi. Lokho ukuba nemingcele emihle nemingcele emihle kubalulekile ekutholeni izixazululo.
Imingcele isho ukuthi uyawahlonipha amalungelo omunye. Imingcele emihle isivikela ekuziphatheni okuhlukumezayo noma okunolaka. Imingcele emihle isho ukuthi uyazi ukuthi ungawudweba kanjani umugqa phakathi kuka-OK hhayi u-OK, ngokomzimba, ngokomzwelo, ngamazwi nangezinye izindlela. Imingcele emihle yenza ubudlelwano obuhle.
Ukucabangisisa ngezinto kungasiza ekutholeni izixazululo eningavuma kuzo nobabili. Leyo yindlela lapho ngamunye unikeza khona imibono ukuxazulula inkinga bese uyibhala phansi, noma ngabe ukude kangakanani. "Singakhokha isikweletu se-Visa uma siwina ilotto." Lapho usuyibhalile yonke imibono, susa leyo ebonakala ingenangqondo noma ingenzeka - ukuwina ilotto, ngokwesibonelo - bese ukhetha umbono osele omuhle kakhulu.
Ekugcineni, qinisekisa umlingani wakho. Uma uthola izinqumo noma imibono emihle, abantu bathanda ukunconywa ngokuza nokuthile okuwusizo. Ukuqinisekiswa kukhuthaza umlingani wakho ukuthi aqhubeke nokufuna izixazululo, hhayi okwamanje kuphela kepha kuyaqhubeka!