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- Umlingani wakho "Ungumuntu" futhi unemikhuba ejwayelekile uma:
- Izimpawu nezimpawu zokuthi weqe umugqa
Cishe bonke abantu engisebenza nabo bakhuluma nami ngokuba nezinkinga ebudlelwaneni babo. Ubudlelwano ngokusemandleni abo buyinselele ngobunzima obuzuzwe kubo. Zidinga ukunakekelwa okuqhubekayo nomsebenzi. Abesifazane abaningi bayazibuza ukuthi ngabe abayeni babo “bangabantu nje” abanezinhlobo zomzabalazo nemikhuba ejwayelekile noma ngabe “beqa umngcele” uma benza ngezindlela ezithile.
Kubalulekile ukuqonda phakathi kwalokhu njengoba izinselelo ezijwayelekile nezingokwejwayelekile zingasetshenzelwa ndawonye ngenkathi kweqa umugqa, ikakhulukazi uma kwenziwa ngokungaguquguquki, kufanele kuphakamise amafulegi abomvu abomvu ukuthi izinkinga zingaba nzima.Kulezi zimo owesifazane uzonikezwa kahle ukuthi abone ukuthi akahlonishwa noma akaphathwa kahle, noma mhlawumbe uyahlukunyezwa. Kulezi zimo kuncane ngokusebenza ezintweni ndawonye futhi kuningi mayelana nowesifazane ozakhela ukunakekelwa nokuphepha kwakhe nokuzinqumela izinyathelo zakhe ezilandelayo uma kubhekwa ukuthi unobudlelwano obungenampilo.
Umlingani wakho "Ungumuntu" futhi unemikhuba ejwayelekile uma:
- unenkinga ethile yokuxhumana
- inezindinganiso ezithile ezingafani nawe ezungeze imali nobulili
- ubona izinto ngokwehlukile kuwe ngoba nje eyindoda
- uyathukuthela futhi aveze lokho okunempilo ngokugcina ukugxila kuye
- akwenzi isikhathi sakho nobudlelwano bakho
- uzizwa ekhungathekile ngomsebenzi nezibopho zansuku zonke
- uzizwa elimele noma enenzondo futhi akhulume ngakho ngenhlonipho
- ngezikhathi ezithile ukhohlwa izinto omtshela zona noma kwesinye isikhathi uyehluleka ukulandela
- ufuna ukuchitha isikhathi eyedwa futhi aye "emhumeni womuntu" wakhe
Amanye amadoda anezinkinga ezinkulu kakhulu kunemikhuba nezinkinga ezivamile ezibalulwe ngenhla bese “eqa umugqa” futhi aziphathe ngendlela elimazayo, enonya, esongelayo noma ehlukumezayo. Kungenzeka futhi ukuthi uzama ukusebenzisa amandla nokulawula wena. Lokhu kuziphatha kungawela ezigabeni zomzimba, ezocansi, ezemizwa noma ezezezimali.
Izimpawu nezimpawu zokuthi weqe umugqa
1. Izenzo zomzimba njengokushaya isibhakela, ukushaya ngempama, ukukhahlela, ukuklinya, ukusebenzisa isikhali, ukudonsa izinwele, ukuzibamba, ukungakuvumeli ukuba usuke noma uphume egumbini.
2. Izenzo zocansi ezifana nokukuphoqa ukuthi wenze okuthile ngokocansi ongafuni ukukwenza, kukusebenzisa njengento yokuya ocansini noma ukukuthinta ngezindlela zocansi lapho ungafuni ukuthintwa.
3. Izenzo ezingokomzwelo ezifana:
- ukukujivaza ngokuthi uthi uhlulekile noma awusoze waba yilutho
- ngikubiza ngamagama
- ukukutshela okufanele uzizwe (noma okungafanele uzizwe)
- ngikutshela ukuthi uyahlanya noma wenza izinto ekhanda lakho
- sikusola ngokuzwa intukuthelo, izenzo zakhe ezithukuthele noma ukuziphatha okuphoqelelayo
- ukukugcina uhlukanisiwe nomndeni wakho nabangane, ukulawula ukuthi ubona bani, ukhuluma nobani nokuthi uphuma nini
- usebenzisa ukwesabisa ngokubukeka okusongelayo noma ukushukuma komzimba, ukushaya amatafula noma izindonga noma ngokucekela phansi impahla yakho
- usebenzisa izinsongo ngokusongela ukuphepha kwakho, usongele ukuthatha izingane zakho noma usongele ukwenza izinsolo emndenini wakho noma enganeni
- izinsizakalo zokuzivikela mayelana nokuziphatha kwakho noma ukusebenza kwengqondo nengqondo
- ukukunikeza ukuthula ngemuva kokungezwani
- ukuhamba ngemuva kokucela usizo noma ukwesekwa
- ukubiza ongakwazi (nongakwazi) ukukhuluma ngakho
- ngikuphatha njengenceku futhi uziphathise okwenkosi 'yenkosi'
- ukwephula ubumfihlo bakho ngokuhlola ama-imeyili akho ezwi, imibhalo noma iposi
- ukukugxeka noma ngabe wenzani noma ugqoka kanjani
- ukugembula nokusebenzisa izidakamizwa yize uthembisile ukuthi ngeke akwenze lokho
- ukuba nezindaba zangaphandle komshado
- ukuvuselela izivumelwano
- ukungena ekamelweni ngemuva kokuthi ucele ukuba wedwa
3. Izenzo zezezimali njengokukuvimbela ukuthi usebenze, ubambe imali, uthathe imali yakho, ukwenze ucele imali noma wenze izinto ngemali, wenze izinqumo ezinkulu zezimali noma uthenge kakhulu ngaphandle kokuxhumana nawe.
Ngokufingqa, abantu abavela kuzo zonke izizinda zokuphila nakuyo yonke iminyaka banezinselelo ebudlelwaneni babo. Imvamisa lokhu kujwayelekile futhi kujwayelekile nezinto okufanele zisetshenzelwe ndawonye, ngethemba ngezindlela zomusa, ezisekelayo, ezinesihawu nezothando. Bese kuthi kube nezenzo nezinkinga ezeqe kulokho okubizwa njengokujwayelekile. Yilapho umuntu wakho eqe umugqa. Uma uqaphela umehluko uzokwazi ukubona ukuthi ngabe unobudlelwano obunempilo noma ubudlelwano mhlawumbe okungcono ukuthi ungabi kubo, ikakhulukazi uma indoda yakho ingazibopheli ngezinkinga zayo. Uma uzithola usesimweni esinjengalesi funa usizo endaweni yokukhosela enodlame lwasekhaya kanye / noma kumelaphi.