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- Inkinga yokugcina yonke into ngaphakathi iphindaphindwe.
- 1. Ukuba ocansini kuyindlela eqondile yokuxhuma
- 2. Ukuthinta
- 3. Lapho ungena ngosuku lwakhe, buza umbuzo othile
- 4. Yithi ngiyabonga okungenani kanye ngosuku
- 5. Hlala ukhuluma indaba yakho ngezikhathi ezithile
- 6. Kugcine kuthakazelisa
- 7. Izikhathi ezincane zomusa
Umyeni wami ubonakala engenamizwa nhlobo! ” yisikhalazo esivamile sabesifazane. “Lapho ngizama ukumtshela ukuthi uzizwa kanjani ngempela, uvele azithulele. Sengathi akatholi ngisho amagama! ”
Ngeshwa, lokhu kubheka akuyona into engavamile. Isiko lethu selikade lathumela imilayezo emadodeni ukuthi kumele liqine, linengqondo futhi libe yiparagons yezizathu. Ikakhulukazi lapho bebhekene nowesifazane othulula isifuba sakhe, abesilisa babonakala bephendula ngemvelo yokudonsa igobolondo labo, kufana nofudu oluzivikelayo, futhi bangavumeli noma ngubani abone uhlangothi lwabo olusengozini.
Lokhu kushukumiseka kungakhungathekisa, hhayi owesifazane kuphela. Cabanga ube ngumuntu onemizwa eminingi ngaphakathi, futhi ofuna ukuhlanganyela nalona wesifazane amthandayo, kepha ukhuliswe ukuthi akholelwe ukuthi lokhu kuzonciphisa ubudoda bakhe futhi kumenze abonakale sengathi "wenza njengentombazane"?
Inkinga yokugcina yonke into ngaphakathi iphindaphindwe.
- Okokuqala, akuvumeli ukuthi labo abaseduze nendoda bazi ukuthi kwenzekani ngempela ngaye, futhi lokhu kuholela emqondweni webanga. Ungazi kanjani ukuthi ngubani umuntu uma engabelani nawe nganoma yiluphi ulwazi lwangempela?
- Okwesibili, kwehlukanisa indoda kumlingani wayo. Akayitholi inzuzo enikezwa ukuxhumeka okungokomzwelo: umuzwa wokuba ngowomunye, wokuba ngumdlali weqembu, wokuba nobudlelwano bokubambisana lapho umuntu oyedwa ehlale enomhlane womunye, futhi okuphambene nalokho.
Ngenhlanhla, kunezindlela eziningi unkosikazi angasiza ngazo umyeni wakhe ukuthi afunde ukuxhumana naye ngokomzwelo. Uma wena Udinga amathiphu okwenza umuntu wakho axhumane nawe, funda!
1. Ukuba ocansini kuyindlela eqondile yokuxhuma
Amadoda amaningi athola ukuthi ukuya ocansini kuyindlela eqondile yokuthi baxhumane ngokomzwelo nabalingani babo. Ukushibilika phakathi kwamashidi kubavumela ukuba bavuleke ngokwemvelo, ngakho-ke ukulala unqunu ndawonye kungaba yithikithi lokukhuthaza ukuxhumana ngokomzwelo, ngisho nalezo zikhathi lapho kungaholeli ocansini. Kunzima ukuhlala ngaphakathi kwegobolondo lakho uma unesikhumba kuya phambili.
2. Ukuthinta
Ukuthintana nsuku zonke, noma ngabe ukubamba ngesandla, ukubambana ngqi, ukugcotshwa emuva, noma i-smooch ephasishi kuyindlela enhle yokuqala inqubo ezoholela ekutheni umuntu wakho axhumane nawe ngokomzwelo. Uma kuyakwenza kuholele ocansini, konke kungcono, kepha leyo akuyona inhloso yalolu hlobo lokusondelana. Lokhu okwenzayo lapho ufaka ingalo yakho okhalweni kukhumbuza umuntu wakho ukuthi uxhumekile, ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo.
3. Lapho ungena ngosuku lwakhe, buza umbuzo othile
Indlela enhle yokukhuthaza ukuxhumana ngokomzwelo lapho ungena nomuntu wakho mayelana nosuku lwakhe ukuletha okuthile okubambekayo owaziyo ukuthi kuqhubeka. Esikhundleni sokuthi "Kuhamba kanjani?" umbuzo, qamba lokhu ukuze ufake imininingwane ethile: “Ngabe uhlangabezane nesikhathi esinqunyiwe sephrojekthi obukhathazekile ngaso?” Uma wabelana ngentshisekelo yangempela nomlingani wakho, kuthuthukisa imizwa yakhe yokuxhumana ngokomzwelo nawe.
4. Yithi ngiyabonga okungenani kanye ngosuku
Ukuveza ukubonga ngezinto umuntu wakho akwenzela zona, ezincane nezinkulu, akugcini ngokumenza azizwe emuhle, kepha futhi kumkhuthaza ukuthi aqhubeke nokwenza lezi zinto. Ukwaziwa ngokuthatha ibanga elengeziwe kukwenza konke kukufanele lokho, futhi ukubonga kwakho kuqinisa isibopho sakho somzwelo kuwe nakuye.
5. Hlala ukhuluma indaba yakho ngezikhathi ezithile
Imibhangqwana elandisa indaba yayo yokuthi “sahlangana kanjani” nabanye ayiziniki nje ithuba lokuphinda ikwazi ezingqondweni zazo ubumnandi bosuku lwayo lokuqala bendawonye, ziyazibophezela futhi nomlingani wazo njengoba bekhumbula injabulo yalokhu kuphila -ukushintsha umhlangano. Uma ungenalo ithuba lokutshela abanye indaba yakho, khumbulani ndawonye ngezikhathi ezithile. Khipha ama-albhamu wakho wezithombe noma ufake ividiyo yakho yomshado. Ayikho indlela engcono yokuqinisa ukuxhumana kwakho ngokomzwelo ukukhumbula ukuthi kwaqala kanjani konke.
6. Kugcine kuthakazelisa
Akukho okuphakela ibanga elingokomzwelo njengokujwayelekile. Awudingi ukushintsha izinto nsuku zonke ukudala ukuxhumana okungokomzwelo, kepha qiniseka ukuthi unama-adventures amasha namaphrojekthi wokusebenzela ndawonye futhi obheke phambili kuwo. Kusukela kokuncane (hheyi — ake sibekise ukubhucungwa kwabantu abashadayo ngesonto elizayo!) Kuya kwelikhulu (Iholidi elilandelayo: IBali!), Iphuzu ukuthi ungahlali kokuzethemba.
7. Izikhathi ezincane zomusa
Khuthaza isifiso sendoda yakho sokuxhumana nawe ngokomzwelo ngokwenza izenzo ezincane zothando. Mphathele ikhofi lakhe ngendlela ayithanda ngayo uma efunda ama-akhawunti asekhaya. Ake alale sekwephuzile ngeSonto uma kade efaka amahora amaningi emsebenzini. Thatha ukugeza kwakhe ukuze angadingi. Zonke lezi zenzo ezincane zizomkhumbuza ukuthi unenhlanhla engakanani yokuba nawe, futhi zimsondeze kuwe ngokomzwelo.
Uyabona kulokhu okungenhla ukuthi ukwakha ibhuloho elingokomzwelo nendoda yakho akuyona iphrojekthi enkulu, kepha kunalokho kwenziwa ngezenzo eziningi ezincane kepha ezibalulekile. Uma unendoda ebonakala ngathi ayazi ngokuzibonela ukuthi ungaxhumana kanjani nawe ngendlela esondelene ngokomzwelo, kufanelekile ukwenza lezi zinyathelo ezingenhla, futhi, uma ubona ukuthi kungasiza, thintana nomeluleki ongakwazi siza ukuhola umyeni wakho ekubeni yindoda esobala ngokwengeziwe ngokomzwelo. Inzuzo yenu nobabili ayinakulinganiswa, futhi nomshado wenu uzoqina ngayo.