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- Izimpawu Zokukhathazeka Komuntu Osemngceleni
- Ukufunda ukuguquguquka kobudlelwano bokuthanda umuntu one-BPD
- Ezinye zezici ze-BPD zingalimaza ubuhlobo
- Izinkinga ezivela ekusabeni kokushiywa
IBorderline Personality Disorder (BPD) uhlobo lokugula ngengqondo oluhlupha noma yikuphi kusuka ku-1.6% kuya ku-5.9% wabantu abadala base-U.S.
Iningi labantu litholakala ukuthi linabantu abadala abasebasha. Ngeshwa, leso yisikhathi empilweni lapho abantu abaningi beqeda imfundo yabo, beqala imisebenzi yabo, futhi bavame ukujabulela ubudlelwano babo bokuqala bezothando.
Yimiphi eminye imininingwane nge-BPD? Ngokuyinhloko, i-BPD inezimpawu eziyisishiyagalolunye ezihlukene, futhi kutholakala ukuxilongwa uma umuntu enalezi zimpawu okungenani ezinhlanu.
Izimpawu Zokukhathazeka Komuntu Osemngceleni
- Ukwesaba ukulahlwa
- Ubudlelwano obungazinzile
- Isithombe sakho sokungazinzi noma sokushintsha
- Ukushintsha kwemizwelo ngokweqile
- Ukuzilimaza
- Intukuthelo eqhumayo
- Imizwa yokungabi nalutho
- Ukuzizwa ungathintani neqiniso
- Imizwa engapheli yokuba yize
Manje, njengoba ubona, lezo ezinye zezimpawu ezimbi kakhulu.
Njengoba ungacabanga, abanye, uma kungenjalo bonke, bangabhubhisa noma yiluphi uhlobo lobuhlobo bomuntu umuntu otholakala ene-BPD angaba nalo. Sixoxisane nabantu okutholwe ukuthi bane-BPD nabalingani babo ukuze bafunde kabanzi ngokuthi bazulazula kanjani empilweni.
Ukufunda ukuguquguquka kobudlelwano bokuthanda umuntu one-BPD
U-Leslie Morris, 28, ungumdwebi ophumelelayo wemidwebo kamagazini omkhulu wamazwe omhlaba. Umlingani wakhe, uBen Crane, 30, ungusomabhizinisi. ULeslie watholakala ene-BPD eneminyaka engama-23.
Ubona udokotela wezengqondo kabili ngenyanga ngezikhathi zakhe zeCognitive Behavior Therapy, futhi njengamanje akayithathi imishanguzo. ULeslie uqale, “OMG. Ngeke ukholwe iminyaka emihlanu edlule, cha, iminyaka eyisishiyagalombili edlule.
Ngithathe isikhashana ukuthi ngitholwe. Abantu babehlala bethi ngangijabule, kepha lapho ngishisa iphothifoliyo yami phambi komphathi wami njengoba egxeke omunye wemidwebo yami, wangikhiphela ngaphandle kwebhilidi. Indaba emfushane: Ekugcineni kwatholakala ukuthi ngine-BPD. ”
Umqashi kaLeslie wayekhathazekile futhi emgcina emqashile ngokulaliswa kwakhe esibhedlela nangezindlela zokuhlala.
UBen ungene ngaphakathi, “Ngathandana noLeslie lapho ngihlangana naye kugalari. Uthando lwakhe olujulile lobuciko lwalunjengokuthile engangingakaze ngikubone.
Kepha ngemuva nje kokuba siqale ukuphuma, imizwa yakhe yaba nzima kimi ukubhekana nayo, futhi wayelokhu engisola ngokufuna ukumshiya unomphela. Bengingafuni lutho lwalolu hlobo, kepha uzoqhubeka aqhubeke. Kwakunzima kakhulu ukumkholisa ukuthi ngifuna ukuhlala ebudlelwaneni.
Ngichitha isikhathi esiningi ngicwaninga ngamabhizinisi amasha, ngakho-ke ngisebenzise amakhono ami okucwaninga ngenza ucwaningo ngathola izindlela zokuqhubeka naye. ”
Ngakho-ke ubudlelwano bukaLeslie noBen basizwa isinyathelo sikaBen sokufunda ngokugula komlingani wakhe. Besaqhubeka nokuqina, kepha manje ake sibheke ubudlelwano obungazange buphume.
Ezinye zezici ze-BPD zingalimaza ubuhlobo
UKayla Turner, 23, ungumfundi eyunivesithi enkulu maphakathi ntshonalanga. Isoka lakhe langaphambili, uNicholas Smith, usanda kuphothula iziqu enyuvesi efanayo.
UKayla kwatholakala ukuthi une-BPD eneminyaka engu-19. Uthe, “UNicholas waba wubudlelwano bami bokuqala bothando. Ngangihlanya, ngithandana naye ngothando. Ngangifuna ukuba naye kuze kube phakade. Kwakunjengamabhayisikobho nje. Bengicabanga ukuthi ngithole umphefumulo wami weqiniso, nokuthi sizohlala sonke kuze kube phakade. ”
Ngeshwa, ngemuva kochungechunge lokuqubuka komphakathi kanye nokushayela okukodwa okuyingozi ebusuku, uNicholas waqhekeza izinto. Wachaza, “UKayla wayejabulisa, ezenzakalela ngokungafani nomuntu engingake ngazi. Ngobunye ubusuku wasikisela ukuba siye eChicago. Kwakuwubusika nento efana namashumi amabili ngezansi. Ngizamile ukumkholisa ukuthi lokhu bekungeyona into ehlakaniphile, kepha ungene emotweni yakhe wayihamba. Ngilandele ngemoto yami kwaze kwadingeka sime sobabili ngenxa yokuvalwa komgwaqo.
Ngaleso sikhathi, ngangazi ukuthi noma ngabe ngizizwa kanjani ngaye, kufanele ngiphume. ”
Ngeshwa, ezinye zezici ze-BPD, ukungacabangi, ukuzenzekela, nokuguquka kwemizwa ngokweqile, kubuqedile lobu budlelwano. UNicholas wazwakalisa, “Ngangesaba uKayla.
Izinkinga ezivela ekusabeni kokushiywa
Ukushayela ebusuku ngaphansi kwesimo sezulu esingesihle kwakungekhona ukuhlakanipha ukusho okuncane. Ngangingeke nje ngibe nomuntu ongakunaki ukuphepha kwakhe noma ngabe ngangikujabulela kangakanani ukuba naye. ”
UGardenia Clark ungumamukeli weminyaka engamashumi amathathu ubudala obukeka kahle futhi etholakala ne-BPD.
Isoka lakhe njengamanje, uBill Tisdale, akazi ukuthi uyisoka lakhe lesithathu kule nyanga, futhi akazi nokuthi umkhohlisile wacabanga ukuthi uyisoka lakhe lokuqala esikhathini eside kakhulu.
Uhlala eqamba amanga emadodeni anobudlelwano naye, futhi akaqondi ukuthi kungani ubudlelwane bakhe bungahlali isikhathi eside; lokhu kungena nokuphuma kwamasoka njalo kungena ekwesabeni ukulahlwa, kepha unethemba lokuthi "olandelayo" kuzoba "nguye."
Uyavuma ukukopela kancane esikhathini esedlule futhi uthi, “Kulungile, ngikhohlisile. Hhayi okuningi. Futhi mhlawumbe ubungeke ukubize ngokuthi ukukopela, kodwa ngibonile abafana abambalwa ngasikhathi sinye. ”
UBill ukhulume kuqala, “Kuyangimangaza ukuthi umuntu onobuhle nobungqabavu njengoGardenia uzophuma nesifundiswa njengami. Siphume kanye kuphela. Ungitshele ukuthi ubengathandani isikhathi eside. Ngizizwa ngibusisiwe! Ngilangazelele le mpelasonto lapho siya ekhonsathini yesigqi esinamandla. Ngenye yezintshisekelo zethu esabelana ngazo, futhi njengoba ngimazi umgqugquzeli ngebhizinisi lami lokudlela, sinamathikithi amahle. Impela ubusisiwe! ”
Akuthathi i-clairvoyant ukubona ukuthi lobu budlelwano ngeke buhlale isikhathi eside kakhulu.
UGardenia ukhethe ukungakutholi ukwelashwa ngokugula kwakhe, futhi njengamanje izimpawu zakhe sezidlulele ngokweqile. UBill akazi nakancane ukuthi unjani ngempela. Mhlawumbe uzothola isineke sokubhekana naye, kepha mhlawumbe uzodela ngoba kuningi epuletini lakhe.
Njengoba sikwazi ukubona, kunezinkinga zemvelo lapho umuntu one-BPD ehileleke ebudlelwaneni nomunye umuntu. Uma omunye umuntu efisa ukuqhubeka nobudlelwano, kunethuba lokufunda nokukhula.