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- Isayensi iyakufakazela: unkosikazi ojabulayo, impilo ejabulisayo
- Yiba nokwazisa
- Beka yena kuqala
- Gcina izithembiso zakho
- Qalisa ukuthintana okungahambisani nocansi
- Yabelana ngemithwalo yemfanelo
Isayensi, ekugcineni, iqinisekisile ukuthi yini abesifazane, ikakhulukazi abalingani, abebeyazi ngokuqhubekayo. Isisho esidume ngokujulile, izikwele zomlingani ojabulayo ezinempilo enempilo, sivumelekile.
Isayensi iyakufakazela: unkosikazi ojabulayo, impilo ejabulisayo
Ukuhlolwa okusatshalaliswe ku-Journal of Marriage and Family kuthathe isikhathi eside kwabashadikazi abangama-394 asebeshade isikhathi eside noma ngaphezulu.
Ukuhlolwa kuqhathanisa nocwaningo lwangesikhathi esedlule njengoba kuthathe isikhathi ukungaboni ngasolinye kwalabo bobabili laba bahlobo ukubheka ukuthi womabili amaphuzu wokubuka athinta kanjani ukuchuma kwengqondo kwabantu abadala asebemnkantshubomvu.
Umlingani ojabule ngokwengeziwe nobudlelwano bokuhamba isikhathi eside, indoda ijabula ngokwengeziwe ngempilo yayo kungakhathalekile ukuthi izizwa kanjani ngomshado wayo.
"Kulaba bobabili abathandana nabo, ukuba semshadweni obhekwe kahle bekuxhunyaniswe nokwaneliseka kwempilo okuvelele kanye nenjabulo," kusho uDeborah Carr, ongomunye wongoti abaphambili. Ucacise ukuthi lapho oshade naye ejabule ngomshado, uzokwenzela okuningi ingxenye yakhe engcono, ethinta impilo yakhe.
Inkosikazi ibonakala ifaka izibopho ezingaphezu komlingani futhi ikhathazeka ngokuqhubekayo ngomngane okhubazekile.
Abashadikazi kuvele ukuthi abajabule kangako uma umyeni kuvela ukuthi uyagula. Okubonakala kungazweli ngandlela thile ukuthi izinga labashadikazi alizange lishintshe uma abafazi babo begula. Lokho kungenxa yokuthi oshade naye kaningi ucabanga ngendoda.
Okumangazayo ngalokhu okutholakele ukuthi kuphambene nokukhuthazwa okujwayelekile mayelana nokuthi ungagcinwa kanjani umshado ozinzile owabesifazane ababekezelela ingxenye ebi kakhulu yokweseka ubudlelwano.
Abashadikazi bayakhuthazwa ukuthi bapheke kangcono, baqinisekise ukuthi indlu iyacwebezela, ukugcina izingane zizolile futhi zihlanzwe kahle, ukufana nosuku abashade ngalo, nokuhlangabezana nakho konke abakufunayo.
Ekugcineni, isibopho maqondana nokufeza noma ukudumazeka komshado sesibekwe emahlombe akhe futhi uma kwenzeka ephambuka, uyasolwa, njengoba nomyeni kuyinto okufanele ondliwe futhi aniselwe.
Qiniseka ukuthi, uma ufisa ukuba yindoda elungile, kubalulekile ukwazi ukuthi ungamphatha kanjani kahle umkakho futhi unqobe izinselelo zempilo yomshado ngenkathi uthola izindlela zokuqamba umkakho ezijabule.
Ake sibheke izindlela ezimbalwa zokuqamba eziphendula umbuzo - ukuthi ungaba kanjani mnandi kumkakho
Yiba nokwazisa
Qiniseka ukuthi okunye kwakho okuphawulekayo kuyabona inani olithandayo futhi oligugu kuye. Zama ukungazibeki engcupheni kulokhu. Yiveze njalo.
Beka yena kuqala
Amaphayona aziphatha njengabantu ababaluleke kakhulu ekamelweni athola ukuzithoba nokungalaleli. Kodwa-ke, amaphayona abeka abanye ekuqaleni, ngokuvamile, azolandelwa futhi aziswe.
Gcina izithembiso zakho
Isikhombi esisodwa sokuhlonishwa ukugcina izithembiso. Ungamdumazi ngokwehluleka ukugcina isithembiso sakho noma ukungagcwalisi ukuzibophezela.
Qalisa ukuthintana okungahambisani nocansi
Ukwanga, ukubambana ngezandla, ukuphulula ikhanda okuphumuzayo konke kufanelekile okungenani ukuqala ukuthintana ngokomzimba. Akudingi ukuba yinto yezocansi, kepha kungaholela esikhathini esinothando ndawonye.
Yabelana ngemithwalo yemfanelo
Yiba umuntu onokwethenjelwa emkhayeni wakho.
Lokho kungasho ukuthatha umthwalo wemfanelo ngomsebenzi wasekhaya wezingane, ukusiza ngokuwasha izingubo, ukusiza isandla ekhishini, ukwendlala umbhede njalo ngosuku, noma ukugcwalisa ukudla.