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- Kunjani ukuba sebudlelwaneni bebanga elide
- Ngabe isebenza kanjani kwabashadikazi abahlala bendawonye?
- Ukuhlala engqondweni nasenhliziyweni kusho ukuhlala empilweni
- Kungani ibanga nokungabikho kubalulekile?
- Ukuxhumana kusiza kanjani ngenkathi ukude?
- Kubulale lokho Ukungazethembi
- Ibanga alinqamuli, livuselela kuphela
Ingabe ungumuntu osebudlelwaneni bebanga elide?
Futhi ubudlelwane obukhombise ukuthi buqine futhi bude kunalokho obukulindele?
Kepha awusoze wazibuza kodwa ukuthi izosinda isikhathi esingakanani?
Futhi anifisi ngempela ukuthi nobabili ekugcineni nikwazi ukuhlala ndawonye futhi niqede lokhu kungabikho okuvamile?
Ingabe usezingeni lapho uzonda khona ibanga elide elima ngenkani phakathi kwakho nobabili?
Futhi lapho nina nobabili senizophinde nihlangane, ingabe niyakwesaba kakhulu lokho kushayelwa ucingo noma umyalezo othunyelwe ukuthi angahlala isikhashana?
Ngabe uzibuza kaningi ukuthi kuwufanele yini, uma ubona lezo zithandani zihlanganyela ndawonye, zihleka futhi zikhuluma ngokungapheli, ngenkathi ulokhu ubheke esikrinini sakho sikamakhalekhukhwini, ulinde umyalezo ovela kuye?
Futhi yize sekuvele kungubudlelwano bebanga elide, uzizwa ungenalutho futhi uyize kanjani uma kukhona ukungabi bikho ngokuphelele kwesinye isikhathi futhi ungakwazi ukufinyelela kuye ngokuthumela imiyalezo nge-Inthanethi nokubiza ama-Apps, kepha usazikhokhela zonke lezo zikhokhelo zamaselula zanyanga zonke.
Kunjani ukuba sebudlelwaneni bebanga elide
Hhayi-ke, ngiyakwazi ngokuphelele ukuhlobana nesimo obhekene naso ngoba, ngokungadingekile ukusho, nami ngangingesinye. Umyeni wami wayeyisosha langaphambilini futhi wachitha iminyaka esempini e Afghanistan. Asikwazanga ukukhuluma sobabili isikhathi eside kakhulu kuleyo minyaka emibili, lokho kamuva kwadlulela kweminye iminyaka emibili.
Manje lapho ngihamba ngomugqa wememori, ngiyamamatheka ngokoqobo ngicabanga ukuthi yonke leyo minyaka izisondeze kanjani izinhliziyo zethu futhi yaqinisa ubuhlobo bethu. Besikwazisa kakhulu ukuzidela komunye nomunye futhi sihlonipha imizwa yomunye nomunye.
Manje njengoba sengisebenza njengomeluleki wemibhangqwana elwa nobudlelwano bebanga elide, ngabona kudala ukuthi leli banga libangela kanjani abantu ukuba basondelane futhi babambane njengabalingani abangcono.
Ake sijule ngokujulile ekutheni ebudlelwaneni bebanga elide, ukungabikho empeleni kuqinisa kanjani isibopho enabelana ngaso.
Ngabe isebenza kanjani kwabashadikazi abahlala bendawonye?
Uma ulwa nobudlelwano bebanga elide futhi ubheka 'ibanga' njengethambo lombango nezimpande zayo yonke inkinga eyodwa empilweni yakho, ake ngikukhanyisele ngomthamo weqiniso.
Imibhangqwana ehlala ndawonye futhi engakaze ibone ibanga nokungabikho (ukuthi ungaba nomona usuku ngalunye lapho uvuka mhlawumbe) ayiyona imibhangqwana ejabulayo ezikhathini eziningi.
Yize bebendawonye ngemuva kokuhlangabezana nokuqubuka okukhulu kwemizwa nemizwa komunye nomunye, iningi labo lehluleka ukugcina ukukhanga okungenakuphikiswa ababekuzwa eminyakeni edlule.
Njengoba ngiphinde nginikeze ukweluleka imibhangqwana enezinkinga ezingajabulisi, ezilwela ukugcina ubudlelwane bazo buphelele, ake ngikutshele ukuthi iningi lemibhangqwana likhononda ngokungabandakanyeki, ukunakwa, nokuheha.
Iningi labesifazane ngisho nabesilisa bakhala ngokuthathelwa phezulu nokuthi kwenzeka kanjani ukuthi izinto zingahambi njengokulindelwe.
Ngakho-ke, akusiyo indlela ebukeka ngayo imibhangqwana ehlangene.
Akukho nokukodwa kokukhononda okungenhla okuke kwabekwa ngumuntu onobudlelwano obuphumelelayo bebanga elide. Esikhundleni salokho, bafisa kakhulu ukuba ngohlangothi lomunye nomunye yingakho izinga lokubandakanyeka nokuheha kuhlala kuphezulu njalo.
Ukuhlala engqondweni nasenhliziyweni kusho ukuhlala empilweni
Ubudlelwano bumayelana nokubandakanyeka nemizwelo eyabiwa ngabashadikazi. Uma muva nje, ukhathazekile ngokuthi eminye imibhangqwana ihlanganyela kanjani ndawonye, ibukisa ngothando lwayo futhi ibukeka ijabule futhi yanelisekile, udinga ukwazi ukuthi akulona ibanga elenza imizwelo iphele.
Ngakho-ke, noma ngabe ubudlelwano bakho yibo obabukude kusukela ekuqaleni noma kwakuwubudlelwano besikhathi eside okwathi kamuva baba ubuhlobo obude ngenxa yezibopho ezithile, yazi nje ukuthi kude ngempela lokho kukugcina ungaphelele nayo yonke leyo mizwa onayo komunye nomunye yengezwe kuphela ngaleli banga.
Zibuze. Awuwutholi yini umqubuko lapho ucabanga ngokuhlangana naye futhi? Lokho kukhombisa ukuqina kobudlelwano bakho.
Kungani ibanga nokungabikho kubalulekile?
Lapho imizwa inamandla futhi inamandla, izinhliziyo zisondele, amabanga ezindawo awasho lutho!
Futhi isebenza kanjena.
Ibanga futhi ukungabikho ikusize uhlaziye kakhulu ngobudlelwano bakho. Kukwenza uqaphele imizamo yozakwenu nothando eninalo nobabili. Kukwenza wazise izinto kangcono. Kwenza nifise ukuba khona komunye nomunye ukuthi ukuhlala ndawonye izikhathi ezingapheli akukwenzi nizizwe.
Ngenkathi ungekho futhi unqanyuliwe, kuba sengathi kuvivinya ukuqina kwakho, ukwethembeka nokuzinikela kwakho futhi ubona ukuthi zibaluleke kangakanani zonke lezi zinto ebudlelwaneni.
Ukuxhumana kusiza kanjani ngenkathi ukude?
Ukuxhumana nge-Intanethi noma ngocingo kuyasiza ngempela ngenkathi ubudlelwane bukude, futhi ikakhulukazi ngemuva kwalabo abangekho ngezikhathi ezithile.
Ngezinhlelo zokusebenza zokuthumela imiyalezo emisha nokushaya nezinhlelo ezifana nokushaya kwevidiyo kwenze ukuhlala kwaba lula ukuxhumana.
Lapho ufika ukubona umlingani wakho kusikrini sakho segajethi, yonke leyo mizwa nemizwelo iyavuka futhi uzizwe usondele kakhulu. Futhi, uthando luhlala luvuselelwa ngokuxhumana okujwayelekile.
Kubulale lokho Ukungazethembi
Yeka ukukhathazeka ngobudlelwano bakho bebanga elide futhi ugweme yonke imicabango mayelana nokukhohliswa noma okunye ukungabaza okufanayo. Ukungazethembi kuhlala kufika lapho okuthile kushoda ngokwezinto eziyisisekelo ebudlelwaneni bakho, ezinjengothando, ukuzibophezela, ukuheha, ukwethembeka njalonjalo.
Akukaze kube kude nokho. Gxila ezimfanelweni nasekuzideleni umuntu wakho akwenzele khona. Futhi, ukuzizwa ungalondekile kuyinto ejwayelekile.
Ibanga alinqamuli, livuselela kuphela
Ibanga likwenza uthandane futhi. Uyabona ngempela ukuthi umlingani wakho ubaluleke kangakanani kuwe. Futhi yebo, uba nobuciko empilweni yakho yothando ngenxa yebanga olibonile.
Ngakho-ke, vele ugubhe lokhu kungabikho njengezandulela ezinamandla zothando oluqinile nokubopha. Ngikufisela ubuhlobo obude impilo yakho yonke!