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- Ukuphazamiseka kobuntu bomngcele
- Ngithandana nomuntu one-BPD
- Umjikelezo wobudlelwano be-BPD
- 1. Imbangela
- 2. Ngokwenqaba
- 3. Ukwesaba nokungabaza
- 4. Ukuzihlukanisa
- 5. Ukuphinda umjikelezo - inhlamvu
- Ukusinda umjikelezo wobudlelwano be-BPD
Ubuchaza kanjani ubudlelwano obunobuthi? Ngabe umuntu onaye ugcwele ukungazethembi, umona noma izinsolo ezingenasisekelo? Kuthiwani uma umuntu omthandayo enesimo esikhethekile njenge-BPD, uthando lwakho lungadlulela kude kangakanani ngomjikelezo wobudlelwano bokungahambisani nobuntu?
Futhi, ubhekana kanjani nokuphazamiseka komlingani wakho?
Ukuphazamiseka kobuntu bomngcele
Labo abake baba kutholakala ukuthi une-BPD noma umngcele ubuntu disorder njalo ukulwa impi. Bahlale benayo amazinga aphezulu osizi futhi intukuthelo ukuthi nabo abakwazi ukuchaza. Bangakwazi ukucasuka kalula ngezenzo zabanye abantu, amazwi, kanye phila ngokwesaba njalo. Ukwesaba imicabango ephindaphindwayo yamaphasi abuhlungu, ukwesaba ukushiywa, nokunye ukwesaba okugcina kubacindezele.
Kubantu abaningi abanalesi sifo, qala ukukhombisa izimpawu njengabasha futhi kuya ngemvelo yabo, kungadlulela noma kuthuthuke empilweni yabo yabantu abadala. I-BPD nobudlelwano buxhumene kakhulu ngoba sonke sinobudlelwano, kwangathi kungaba ngumndeni, abangani, nozakwenu.
I- ingxenye enzima kakhulu wokuba nobudlelwano nomuntu one-BPD yindlela ongakwenza ngayo gcina ubuhlobo obunempilo. Kukhona esikubiza ngokuthi umjikelezo wobudlelwano bokungahambisani nobuntu bomngcele futhi yilokhu esikubiza ngokuthi umjikelezo wobudlelwano obuzungeze ukuphazamiseka komuntu nokuthi bakuphatha kanjani ukuxhumana.
Kuyisibonelo salabo abanokuphazamiseka kobuntu emingceleni kanye nobudlelwano kepha futhi kufanele sikhumbule ukuthi akulona iphutha labo futhi abalibangelanga.
Ngithandana nomuntu one-BPD
Abantu abanolwazi lokuthandana nomuntu one-BPD bangayichaza njenge- Uhlobo lwe-roller-coaster lobudlelwano ngenxa yomjikelezo wobudlelwano bomuntu ophazamisekile emngceleni kodwa akunakwenzeka ukuyenza isebenze.
Ukuthanda umuntu one-BPD kungenzeka kanzima ekuqaleni, kunesiphithiphithi noma kunjalo njenganoma yiluphi olunye uhlobo lothando nobudlelwano, kusenjalo muhle.
Ukuthanda umuntu onenkinga yobuntu emingceleni kungahle kungabonakali njengokukhetha okuhle kepha sonke siyazi ukuthi asikwazi ukulawula uthando nokuthi sithandana nobani. Ukujwayelana nalesi sifo nakanjani usize noma ngubani ubani nginothize engithandananaye nomuntu ophethwe yi-BPD.
Inombolo ikhombisa ukuthi ukuphazamiseka kobuntu emingceleni kwabesifazane kungahluka emadodeni ngokwemiphumela ebudlelwaneni. Ucwaningo luye lwathola ukuthi abesifazane abanobudlelwano bokuphazamiseka emingceleni yobuntu banamathuba amakhulu okuba nobudlelwano besikhashana futhi ngalokho kulindeleke amathuba okukhulelwa.
Umuntu ngamunye one-BPD unezinselelo ezahlukahlukene okufanele azinqobe futhi kukithi, lowo okhethe ukuba nabo ukuze abasize badlule ezimpini zabo kepha kaningi izikhathi, nathi sizithola sibhajwe kumjikelezo wobudlelwano be-BPD.
Umjikelezo wobudlelwano be-BPD
Uma lokhu kungokokuqala ukuthi uzwe ngomjikelezo wobudlelwano bomuntu obhekene nomngcele, manje leli yithuba lakho lokujwayela.
Ukuthandana nothile ngobuntu obunemingcele kuthanda uzwe amanye amaphethini ngezansi kodwa hhayi wonke umuntu oyokwenza kanjalo. Ngakho-ke, kukithi ukuthi siqaphe ekusizeni ozakwethu.
1. Imbangela
Abantu abanenkinga yobuntu bomngcele bathanda ubudlelwano bazi lapho belimala. Baningi kakhulu ku- uvumelane nemizwa yabo, empeleni, okuncane kakhulu ukuthi noma yimuphi umcimbi obangela ubuhlungu nokulimala, uba yibuhlungu.
Ngokudabukisayo, lokhu akunakugwenywa, sonke siyalimala kepha njengoba i-BPD nobudlelwano buxhunyiwe, lesi sehlakalo esibuhlungu singadala umjikelezo womuntu one-BPD.
2. Ngokwenqaba
Abantu abaningi abantu abane-BPD angiqondi kahle kwenzakalani. Kwabanye, bangathi basabela ngokweqile noma yonke into ijwayelekile nje njalo njalo.
Kepha esikhundleni sokusiza umuntu one-BPD, empeleni kubaphoqa ukuthi nabo babe ekuphikeni yemizwa yabo yangempela ebuyisa intukuthelo nobuhlungu obengeziwe.
3. Ukwesaba nokungabaza
Uma i- umuntu one-BPD ulimele futhi esikhundleni sokuxazulula le nkinga, yabo ophathina kungenzeka nje shiya ubuhlobo noma wenze isimo sibe sibi ngezenzo noma ngamazwi alimazayo.
Lokhu kungaholela ebudlelwaneni bobudlelwano bomuntu obuphakathi kwemingcele buphele, ngokudabukisayo, hhayi ngendlela enokuthula.
4. Ukuzihlukanisa
Noma ngubani olinyazwa uthando abe nokusabela okuhlukile, yini enye uma umuntu ene-BPD?
Ungabucabanga nje ubukhulu bezinhlungu ababuzwayo obugcina buzehlela kulezi zigaba zobudlelwano be-BPD lapho umuntu efuna nje ukuzihlukanisa naye wonke umuntu?
Ukwenqatshwa, ukulahlwa, futhi ukulahlekelwa ukwethemba kuyinto okulimaza noma ngubani kakhulu kumuntu nge-BPD.
Imiphumela yalomjikelezo wobudlelwano bokungahambisani nobuntu emingceleni ingahluka kusukela ekucindezelekeni, intukuthelo, intukuthelo, ukuziphindiselela, futhi ngokudabukisayo nokuzilimaza. Ukudideka, ubuhlungu nentukuthelo konke kusinda kakhulu kulo muntu futhi kungaholela ezenzweni esizesabayo sonke.
5. Ukuphinda umjikelezo - inhlamvu
Isizathu sokuthi kungani lokhu kubizwe njengomjikelezo kungenxa yothando oluhlala luthola indlela yalo.
Noma ngabe umuntu angaqhelelene kangakanani, uthando nobudlelwano buzohlala bukhona. Ukuthembela kancane futhi, kancane ukufunda ukuthanda futhi ukumamatheka futhi okunye ukuqala kokuphazamiseka kobuntu emingceleni ubudlelwano.
Uthando lungukukhanya okusha kwethemba lenjabulo.
Kepha kwenzekani lapho kukhona omunye umcimbi obuhlungu? Ngemuva kwalokho, umjikelezo uqala futhi.
Ukusinda umjikelezo wobudlelwano be-BPD
Uyazibona uhlala ebudlelwaneni nomuntu one-BPD? Ungazicabanga uphula inhliziyo yomuntu ngenxa nje yokuthi une-BPD?
Kuyisimo esinzima, hhayi nje kulowo ohlupheka umjikelezo wobudlelwano bomuntu obhekene nomngcele kodwa futhi nawe.
Uzohlala noma uzohamba? Impendulo isencike kuwe kepha okulungile ukuzama okusemandleni akho kuqala. Zama konke okusemandleni akho ukuba khona kwalowo muntu, angithi, uyamthanda, akunjalo?
- Qala ngokuzibophezela okulungile - Vumelanani ngemigomo futhi niphuthume ukwenza.
- Thola Therapist efanele wena nomlingani wakho - Thola izibuyekezo, sesha izinhlelo zokwelashwa, nanoma yini okufakazelwe ukuthi iyasiza.
- Gxila - Gxila ekuphatheni i-BPD nokuthatha imithi ekwelapheni ezinye zezimpawu.
- Ukulaliswa esibhedlela - Kunoma ikuphi ukuzilimaza noma ukuthambekela kokuzibulala, kungadingeka ukwelashwa esibhedlela.
- Ukwesekwa okuvela emndenini nakubangane nakho kuyakhuthazwa - Ukubafundisa ngalesi sifo kuzosiza kakhulu.
Abantu abane-BPD bafana nje nami nawe. Eqinisweni, zilungile, zinobubele futhi zinothando futhi ziyakwazi ukulawula umjikelezo wazo wobudlelwano bokungahambisani nobuntu, bavele kumele ube nomuntu uku yiba lapho ubasiza.