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- Ukukopela abashade kuyinto ejwayelekile
- 1. Nquma ukuthi ufuna ukulwela umshado wakho
- 2. Bhekisisa ukuthi ukhuluma nobani nokuthi usho malini
- 3. Bheka umeluleki wemishado
- 4. Sebenzela ekubuyiseleni ukusondelana
- 5. Thatha usuku olulodwa ngesikhathi
- Ungakuthola kanjani ukungathembeki nomlingani okopelayo
Uma ungumuntu oshadile ongakaze abhekane nokungathembeki ebuhlotsheni bakho (futhi lokho kuhle ukuzwa), maningi amathuba okuthi, unelungu lomndeni noma umngane oye waba yisisulu sokungathembeki emshadweni noma olwa nokuphishekela ukungathembeki okusinda .
Iqiniso elibuhlungu ukuthi kubikwa ukuthi uhhafu wayo yonke imishado uzohlangabezana nokuthandana - kungaba ngokomzimba noma ngokomzwelo — phakathi nalesi sikhathi.
Ukukopela abashade kuyinto ejwayelekile
Lapho imishado iba nezinkinga futhi ingenakho ukwaneliseka kobuhlobo, ukungathembeki kuvame ukukhula ezinhlokweni ezimbi ebudlelwaneni. Kungasiza ukwazi lezi zimpawu eziqhakazile zokungathembeki emshadweni ukuze wazi ukuthi umlingani wakho ukopela yini.
Izizathu zokungathembeki emshadweni zikhulu futhi zehlukile njengemishado uqobo, kepha ezinye zezimbangela eziphambili ukuxhumana okungekuhle, ukuntuleka kokusondelana kanye nezidingo zomuntu siqu ezingafinyelelwa.
Esinye isizathu esikhulu ukuthi umuntu oyedwa noma bobabili abazithola bezizwa sengathi umlingani wabo ubathatha kalula.
Kungakho kubaluleke kakhulu ukwenza inketho yansuku zonke yokwenza umyeni noma unkosikazi wakho eze kuqala, ubaphathe njengomngani wakho omkhulu futhi ungabanaki uma behlanganyela nawe ukuthi abajabule, abaqiniseki noma abanelisekile ngento ethile eyenzekayo ngaphakathi kobudlelwano.
Kepha wenzani uma uba isisulu sokungathembeki? Ngabe ikhona indlela ongelapha ngayo futhi umshado wakho ungadlula esimweni esibuhlungu kangaka sokusinda ekungathembekini?
Uma ufuna ukwazi ukuthi ungawulungisa kanjani umshado nokusinda ekungathembekini, nazi izeluleko ezi-5 ezinhle okufanele uzikhumbule ngenkathi usinda ekungathembekini.
1. Nquma ukuthi ufuna ukulwela umshado wakho
Lapho wena noshade naye nithembisana ukuthandana kuze kube sekuhlukaneni kokufa ngosuku lwenu lomshado, bekuyisimemezelo sasobala sokuthi noma ngabe yini, kunesifiso sokugcina ukuzibophezela okunamandla nokuxhumana.
Kuyiqiniso ukuthi uma umlingani wakho ekukhohlisile ukuthi baziphazamisa kakhulu izifungo zabo; nokho, lokho akusho ukuthi umshado wakho kufanele uphele.
Ngokwenza okokuqala isinqumo sokusebenza ngemuva kwendaba, uzomangala ngamandla namandla nokuqina ozoba nakho ukuze usebenze ngokubambisana ekusindeni ekungathembekini nasekwenzeni inyunyana yakho iqine.
2. Bhekisisa ukuthi ukhuluma nobani nokuthi usho malini
Kuvamile impela ukuthi isisulu senkinga ethile sifune ukuqinisekiswa kwabanye; ukuzwa abantu bethi KULUNGILE ukulimaza, ukungathembi ngisho nokuthukuthela isizini.
Kepha kufanele ukhumbule ukuthi yize imizwa yakho ingahle ibe yesikhashana, abantu okhuluma nabo bangakhetha ukungamxoleli oshade naye. Futhi, kunethuba lokuthi nabo bangahlanganyela ngokwenzekile nabanye abantu.
Kungakho kubalulekile ukuthi ukhethe ukuthi ukhuluma nobani. Iya kubantu abathembekile, abazokuxhasa wena nomshado wakho. Funa abantu abafakazele ukuthi bayakwazi ukunikeza izeluleko ezizwakalayo ngokusinda ekungathembekini.
3. Bheka umeluleki wemishado
Buza noma ngubani owake wathandana nomuntu ngaphambili ukuthi ungawusiza kanjani umshado wakho ukusinda ekungathembekini futhi enye yezinto okungenzeka bazokutshela yona kufanele ubone umeluleki wemishado.
Uma uphishekela ukusinda ekungathembekini, uzodinga ukubhekana nochwepheshe onamakhono, onenhloso futhi okwaziyo ukunikeza izeluleko ezingachemile nezixazululo eziphumelelayo zokwenza umshado wakho ulandelele.
4. Sebenzela ekubuyiseleni ukusondelana
Ukululama ekungathembekini inqubo ehamba kancane futhi eqaphelayo. Ungahle ungakulungeli ukuya ocansini zisuka kepha ukusondelana kungaphezu kwalokho okwenzeka ekamelweni.
Nobabili kudingeka nikhulume ngemizwa yenu uma nifuna izeluleko ngokusinda ekungathembekini. Nobabili kudingeka nisho ukuthi ziyini izidingo zenu.
Ukusinda ekuthembekeni nasekuphilisweni kokungathembeki kungenzeka kepha ngalokho nobabili nidinga isikhathi esithile ndawonye ukuze nithole ikhefu ezimfunekweni zansuku zonke zokuphila ukuze nigxile ebudlelwaneni benu futhi nishiye ukungathembeki emshadweni kude kakhulu esikhathini esedlule.
Izinto noma ukuphinga emshadweni kuvame ukuba yizixwayiso ezinkulu zokwephuka emshadweni futhi kaningi kunalokho, ukuphuka kuhlobene nezinkinga zokusondelana ezijulile. Ukuhlakulela ukuxhumana ngokomzwelo kubaluleke kakhulu uma kukhulunywa ngokuphulukiswa kobuhlobo bakho.
5. Thatha usuku olulodwa ngesikhathi
Ungaludlula kanjani udaba futhi ubuyisele imizwa yakho nesibopho sothando noshade naye?
Ukuqonda nokwenza ukuthula ngezigaba ezine ezibalulekile zokululama kokungathembeki, kuyisihluthulelo sokusinda ekungathembekini nasekuzivuseni wena kanye nomshado wakho.
Lezi zigaba zingububanzi obubanzi be- ukuthola ukuthandana, lusizi ngaphezu kokulahlekile, ukwamukela ngokwenzekile futhi ukuxhuma kabusha nawe nabanye.
Isilonda, noma ngabe esomzimba noma esingokomzwelo, sidinga ukuphola. Futhi iqiniso ukuthi noma ngabe wenza izinto ezingaki, ezinye izinto zingaba ngcono futhi zizoba ngcono ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Ukuze unqobe ukungathembeki kubalulekile ukuthi ungazifaki ingcindezi enkulu kuwe noma kumlingani wakho ukuze niqede leyo ndaba.
Icebo elibalulekile lokuthi uzobhekana kanjani nokungathembeki kungukuhlakanipha futhi ninqume ngokuthatha isinqumo sokuhlala ndawonye bese ninikezana ukwesekwa okudingekayo ukuze kudlule inqubo yokuphulukiswa — usuku ngalunye.
Ungakuthola kanjani ukungathembeki nomlingani okopelayo
Ungakuxolela kanjani ukungathembeki?
Okokuqala, kubalulekile ukukhumbula lokho ukuxolela uzakwethu okopelayo kuyinqubo ekabili.
Udinga ukuthethelela umlingani ofuna ukuxolelwa futhi unentshisekelo njengawe yokwakha kabusha umshado onempilo ngokwenza imihlatshelo edingekayo nokutshala imali kuwe nobambiswano olulinganayo emshadweni.
Uma wenza lokho, yize lolu daba luyohlale luyinto ozoyikhumbula, indlela ozizwa ngayo ngayo ngonyaka ozayo ngeke ibe yindlela ozwa ngayo namhlanje. Isikhathi sokupholisa wonke amanxeba akuyona nje isisho esidumile.
Kuyiqiniso elingathenjwa.
Thatha isikhathi sakho. Gxila ekwelapheni nasekuqedeni ukungathembeki. Bhekisisani ukuthi kwenzekani. Lezi zinyathelo ziyizindlela ezisebenzayo nezikhumbulayo zokusinda ekungathembekini kepha kuphela uma wena nomlingani wakho nithatha isinqumo sokunyakazisa ubuhlungu bokungathembeki emshadweni.