Ngesinye isikhathi, ngenkathi ngifunda ikilasi lesikole esathweswa iziqu, lo profesa ohlale ehlakaniphile wabuza abafundi abakhaliphile ababethweswa iziqu ukuthi iyini incazelo yothando? Onke ama-prima donna aphakamise izandla zawo ezimagange ukunikeza impendulo esobala. Uprofesa, njengomkhuba wakhe, wavele wanikina ikhanda ngapha nangapha. Ekugcineni, lapho siphelelwe ngamacebo, wathi: “Kulula. Uthando = Ukuthakazelisa + Ukukhethekile. ” Ukuthakazelisa kuyisisekelo sokuheha kwasekuqaleni. Akugcini ngocansi futhi kuyathandeka kepha kubhekisa esifisweni sokwazi okwengeziwe ngomlingani wakho. Ukuba wedwa kusho ukuthi ungamane ube nozakwenu ngaphezu kwanoma ngubani omunye emhlabeni.
Kepha ngemuva kwephuzu lesikhathi umuzwa wokuthakazelisa nesifiso sobukhethekile uyaphela. Imibhangqwana eshadile ichitha isikhathi esiningi ndawonye kangangokuba isici sobandlululo silahlekelwa inani laso. Futhi ukuthakazela nakho kuyaphela lapho kungasekho lutho olwaziyo kabanzi ngomlingani wakho.
Manje, lapho ukuheha nokukhethekile kuphuma ngewindi, imibhangqwana iqala ukukhombisa izindlela eziguqukile zokuziphatha. Izindlela zokuziphatha eziguqukile azilutho ngaphandle kwamasu okubhekana nokulahleka kothando ebuhlotsheni.
Nakhu okwenziwa imibhangqwana lapho uthando luyancipha ebudlelwaneni-
1. KUPHELA
Sikude nozakwethu lapho sihoxa ngezindlela ezahlukahlukene. Singaphuma esikhaleni, siphazanyiswe ukukhathazeka ngomsebenzi, sibheme ngokweqile, futhi mhlawumbe okubi kunazo zonke lezi zinsuku, sihlanganyele Ekulutheni Isikrini. Lesi sakamuva sithatha i-TV, i-Facebook, sisebenzisa i-inthanethi futhi yebo ...... imidlalo yevidiyo. Kwesinye isikhathi bobabili laba bantu bakha umshado ofanayo lapho behlala ndawonye ngokusebenza, ngisho nezingane, kepha kuyaqabukela ukuthi bahlanganyele ngokusondelana futhi bangathandana bobabili.
Isu lokugcina ekuhlanganyeleni ezindabeni zangaphandle komshado. Lokhu kuholela ekuziphatheni okuyimfihlo, ehlazweni, nokwehlukana kokunamathela emshadweni. Umlingani uvame ukubhujiswa kwesinye isikhathi, imvamisa eshiya ubufakazi kuselula yakhe noma kudeskithophu yekhompyutha. Kungenzeka ukuthi lokhu kuziphatha kude kwenzeka ngenxa yesilayidi esingaqondakali kalula ekukhathazekeni okungekho muntu ovumayo. Lezi zithandani zingaya ngisho nasekwelashweni komshado kodwa kwezinye izimo, ziyahlangana ngokushiya imizwa yazo yangempela yokuba nesizungu. Lokhu kugcina umshado “sengathi” kodwa bobabili laba bantu ngasese bahlala benganelisekile.
2. NGOKUPHIKISANA
Njengoba ungacabanga, leli qhinga liqhubeka nolaka, kokubili ngamazwi nangokomzimba. Esikhundleni sokubuyela emuva ukuze ususe iziphazamiso nokulutha, oyedwa noma bobabili abalingani baqala ukugxeka omunye komunye. Bangakulindela ngentshiseko lokho omunye azokusho noma akusho “njalo” futhi “angalokothi” izinsolo ezigxeka uzakwabo. Esikhundleni sokuba nemizwa leli qhinga likhomba elinye njengesitha esiseduze, okufanele silawulwe futhi sibuswe.
Izingqinamba zentukuthelo zivele zivele emshadweni ovelele / ozithobayo ongasalingani. Ukuphuza ngokweqile kungadala ubudlova, kwesinye isikhathi kuholele ekukhuleni ngokomzimba, izingqinamba zomthetho, futhi ekugcineni, isehlukaniso. Ukucacisa nje, akuyena owesilisa kuphela oweqa kuleli su. Ngibe namacala amaningi lapho owesifazane ehlanyisa umyeni wakhe ngezikhalazo eziqhubekayo futhi abe ngumqoqi wokungabi nabulungisa kwamaphutha adlule.
3. NGASEKUPHELENI
Leli qhinga licashile kakhulu futhi lifaka ukuthembela ngokweqile kohlangothi olulodwa kolunye. Lokhu kudlulela ebudedwini bodwa kuze kube seqophelweni lapho omunye umlingani emunca igazi lempilo kozakwabo, evame ukuzibandakanya ekwakheni izinhlekelele, ukunakwa ekuziphatheni, nasekufuneni ukusondelana okungazinaki izifiso zomunye. Ngaso sonke isikhathi, leli qhinga liholela ekuziphatheni okude, nasekuhlukaniseni, kakhulu ekuxakekeni komlingani othembekile ombona njengothandekayo nothando. Uma umlingani ozimele engabuyiseli, isb. Ngemibhalo, izipho, imali, noma ucansi, umlingani othembekile onile angahlanganyela kucebo eliphikisayo.
Konke lokhu cishe kubonakala kungenathemba. Ngokwezinga elithile, sonke siyazibandakanya kulezi zindlela, futhi ngokusobala, kuyindaba yokweqisa. Uma wena kanye / noma umlingani wakho ekhombisa noma yikuphi kwalokhu kuziphatha kaningi kufanele ufune ukwelashwa komshado. Ukwelashwa kuzokusiza ukuthi ubone futhi wazise lezi ziphatha ukuze ukwazi ukuzishintsha futhi nezidingo zeqembu ngalinye zingahlangatshezwa kwesinye isikhathi.