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- Nquma ukuthi hlobo luni loshintsho ozoletha empilweni yakho yezocansi
- Hlola okulindele
- Thuthukisa ukuxhumana kwakho ngezocansi
- Yenza impilo yakho yezocansi ize kuqala
- Hlola ucansi ngaphezulu
- Linganisa indlela ophila ngayo
Uma kukhulunywa ngokucwaninga ukuthi hlobo luni loshintsho ongaletha empilweni yakho yezocansi, ziningi izindatshana ezingakunikeza iziphakamiso ezithile zokunonga izinto - njengokuletha amathoyizi ocansi amaningi njalonjalo.
Kepha umbuzo uwukuthi, ingabe ukwethulwa kwamathoyizi noma inqubo eyodwa eshintshiwe kuzoletha uhlobo lwenguquko ofuna ukuyiletha empilweni yakho yezocansi?
Amathuba okuthi uma ufunda le ndatshana awufuni nje imibono yokunonga impilo yakho yezocansi kepha maningi amathuba okuthi uzama ukuthola ukuthi yiluphi ushintsho olungaletha empilweni yakho yezocansi.
Ngokufanelekile, uhlobo lwezinguquko noma imuphi umbhangqwana odinga ukuletha empilweni yawo yezocansi uma engenayo vele kuyindlela enempilo, ende, ehlala iluhlaza impilo yabo yezocansi. Impilo yezocansi lapho umlingani ngamunye ezithathela khona umthwalo wakhe ngenhlalakahle yezocansi, futhi futhi nokho kumnandi, kuphila futhi kusondelene.
Ngakho-ke uma uzibuza ukuthi hlobo luni loshintsho oluzoluletha empilweni yakho yezocansi, kufanelekile ukuqala lapha ...
Nquma ukuthi hlobo luni loshintsho ozoletha empilweni yakho yezocansi
Singahle sibonakale sengathi sisho okusobala lapha ngoba yilokho oza lapha ukuthola, kepha isinyathelo sokuqala sokunquma ukuthi yiluphi ushintsho oluzoletha empilweni yakho yezocansi kufanele luqale ngokubheka ngaphakathi.
Uma ubheka ngaphakathi kuqala, ungaqala ukubona ukuthi yini ongabona ukuthi ayilungile ngempilo yakho yezocansi, futhi unqume nendima oyidlalayo kulokho.
Lelisu likubeka kahle esihlalweni sokushayela impilo yakho yezocansi ngoba manje unezinto ezithile owaziyo ukuthi ungazishintsha olawula ngokuphelele kuzo.
Noma ungazi kahle ukuthi ungazenza kanjani izinguquko okwamanje (ukuqonda ukuthi inkinga ikunikeza ithuba lokucwaninga nokuthola izixazululo zezinkinga zakho).
Ubuhle baleli qhinga ukuthi uma ubeka izinguquko okudingeka uzenze, umlingani wakho kungenzeka ukuthi alandele ukuhola kwakho, kungavula indawo yokuxoxa okuningi nomlingani wakho ngempilo yakho yezocansi, futhi uhola ngesibonelo kunokuba ukusola.
Hlola okulindele
Ngenkathi ushaya izinguquko odinga ukuzenza empilweni yakho yezocansi, kuhle ucabange ngendima okulindelwe okulindelwe empilweni yakho yezocansi.
Sonke sivame ukucabanga ukuthi, okulindelwe okungenangqondo noma okungaqondakali okungasisebenzisi kahle, kuzo zonke izici zempilo nempilo yethu yezocansi ayihlukile.
- Ngabe ulindele ukuthi umlingani wakho kube nguye okujika ujike sonke isikhathi?
- Ingabe uzizwa sengathi awukwazi ukuveza imizwa yakho ngoba akulungile noma unamahloni kakhulu?
- Mhlawumbe uvinjelwa okuthile okwenziwa umlingani wakho kodwa ungakaze ubatshele, ngaphandle kwezinkomba ezimbalwa okulindele ukuthi bazithole?
- Mhlawumbe unethemba ngasese lokuthi umlingani wakho ukhuluma ngokukhululekile futhi ukhululekile kwezocansi ukuze ubashiye behola phambili futhi ungagwema ukuhlohla imingcele yakho yezocansi?
Njengoba ukwazi ukubheka lokhu okulindelwe kubalulekile ngoba kuyingxenye enkulu yezimpilo zabantu abaningi zocansi futhi kungenza umehluko uma uthatha isinqumo sokuthi yiluphi ushintsho ozoletha empilweni yakho yezocansi.
Thuthukisa ukuxhumana kwakho ngezocansi
Ukuxhumana kuhlale phezulu ohlwini kunoma iyiphi inkinga yezobudlelwano ngoba kubaluleke kakhulu ekugcineni ubuhlobo obuyimpumelelo.
Akulula ukukhuluma ngezocansi, kodwa kunezindlela zokuqala. Ngisho nokumane utshele umlingani wakho ukuthi ufuna ukukhulisa impilo yakho yezocansi. Enye yezinto oziqaphele ngawe ukuthi uzizwa ungakhululekile ukukhuluma ngocansi nganoma iyiphi indlela futhi ubezibuza ukuthi bazizwa kanjani ngabo kuzokwenza umehluko.
Lesi sinyathelo sokuqala sizoqala ingxoxo ngocansi - ukuxhumana ngocansi akudingeki ukuthi konke kube ngezinkulumo ezingcolile noma ukujabulisa umuntu. Yize ukufunda ukuthi ungayenza kanjani inkulumo encane engcolile nakho kungalimazi impilo yakho yezocansi futhi ngokungangabazeki uhlobo loshintsho olungenza impilo yabantu abaningi yezocansi ibe yimiqemane.
Akunandaba ukuthi ufinyelela kanjani kuyo, lapho ucabanga ukuthi yiluphi ushintsho oluzoluletha empilweni yakho yezocansi, ukuthi ukhuluma kanjani ngocansi, kokubili, futhi kufanele kube emakhadini.
Yenza impilo yakho yezocansi ize kuqala
Abantu abaningi ababeki phambili impilo yabo yezocansi, futhi bangahle bangafuni nokuyikho - kuyiphutha elikhulu! Siyakuqinisekisa ukuthi uma wenza impilo yakho yezocansi ibe yinto ebaluleke kakhulu, uzoqala ukuthola ukuthi yiluphi ushintsho oluzoluletha empilweni yakho yezocansi, futhi okuningi kwakho okuzokwenzeka ngokwemvelo njengoba uqala ukuzizwa unamandla, unamandla futhi ukhululekile lapho wenze isenzo esithile sokulala nowakwakho.
Hlola ucansi ngaphezulu
Mhlawumbe kungenxa yokuthi asilubeki eqhulwini ucansi noma mhlawumbe okulindelwe kithi kusifundisa ukuthi ngokwemvelo kufanele sazi ngezocansi, kepha ukuhlola ucansi akuvame ukuba phezulu kakhulu ku-ajenda emishadweni eminingi.
Kepha uma wenza ukuhlola okuningi ngezocansi kube yinto ebaluleke kakhulu, uzodala izinkumbulo eziningi ezimnandi nezisondelene, wakhe ukwethembana nokusondelana futhi nibe umngane omkhulu womunye nomunye ngaphakathi nangaphandle kwekamelo lokulala.
Izibonelo zezindlela zokuhlola ucansi kakhulu:
- Ukuhlola izindlela ezihamba phambili zokuzivusa nokuthi uvuka kanjani umlingani wakho.
- Ukuqonda ukuthi ziyini izitayela zocansi, nokuzihlola.
- Ukuzama amathoyizi nezikhundla ndawonye
- Ukuhlola izindawo ezahlukahlukene namasu we-foreplay.
- Ukuxhumana omunye nomunye ngocansi.
Linganisa indlela ophila ngayo
Kwesinye isikhathi sibambeka enkingeni, singena emgodini ongasenzi sizizwe sibalulekile noma sinezocansi, kepha uma ucabanga ukuthi yiluphi ushintsho oluzoluletha empilweni yakho yezocansi siphakamisa ukuthi uqinise impilo yakho ukuze unempilo, ujabulile futhi unesikhathi esengeziwe sokwehla futhi ungcolile.