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- Ungawuchaza kanjani umshado wakho?
- Ukuhlela umshado wakho kungazwakala kuwubuwula, kepha kungasiza kakhulu
- Ukwakha nokuqinisa umshado wenu kudinga ukuzikhandla nobabili
Izizathu zokushada ziyefana nezizathu zokwakha isidleke — ukuphepha nokusekela; futhi njengesidleke, umshado usebenza ngempumelelo njengoba wenza wena. Ezinye izidleke ziyizikhonzi ezilula emhlabathini kanti ezinye ziyimisebenzi yobuciko ebanzi evikela futhi ivikele. Ngokufanayo, eminye imishado iyizinkontileka ezilula kanti eminye iyinhlanganyelo egcwele uthando, ubungani nokubambisana.
Ungawuchaza kanjani umshado wakho?
Okubaluleke kakhulu, ufuna umshado onjani? Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, yini ozimisele ukuyenza ukuze ube nomshado owufunayo? Uma umshado wakho ungomunye onamagatsha aqinile, izingqimba zamaqabunga nezimpaphe; uma unomshado oqinile, onothando futhi osekanayo, qhubeka wenze lokhu okwenzayo.
Uma ngakolunye uhlangothi, ufuna ukuqinisa isidleke sakho sothando, qala ngokubheka kuso. Ungabuka amagatsha njengezenzo nezenzo - ukuthembeka nokusekelwa yizici eziyinhloko zalesi sendlalelo; ukugcina imali engaguquguquki, ukunakekela indlu, imoto, izingane nezilwane ezifuywayo. Amaqabunga angabukwa njengezinsuku ezinhle zansuku zonke, ubungani nomusa — othi sicela, ngiyabonga, ngiyaxolisa, uqinisile, letha umlingani wakho isidlo noma isiphuzo, niyamamatheka, niyadla futhi nilala ndawonye , bayancoma futhi bayakhuthazana, ukuqabulana okuncane noma ukubambana ngezandla. Futhi izimpaphe zingabonakala njengolwelwesi lokuphepha olusekelayo oluhlukanisa umshado wakho kunoma yibuphi obunye ubuhlobo empilweni yakho, indawo yakho ephephile ethambile evela kuwo wonke umhlaba — ngakho ukuqabula okuhlala isikhathi eside kunemizuzwana engu-15, ukunganga okukubambayo lapho uzizwa uyahlukana, ukusondelana ngokocansi, izinsuku, ama-akhawunti abiwe ebhange, amaphupho abiwe, amanani abiwe, amaholide abiwe, ukukhathazeka okwabiwe ukuhlela umshado futhi imvamisa akunikezwa isikhathi esanele noma umcabango wokuhlela umshado.
Ukuhlela umshado wakho kungazwakala kuwubuwula, kepha kungasiza kakhulu
Cabanga ukuthi kungakanani isikhathi nomzamo ongena ekuhleleni umshado. Manje cabanga ukuthi kungakanani isikhathi esingena ezindabeni zokuxoxisana ngezikweletu, uzoya ocansini kangaki, ozokhathalela izingane, ozonakekela izinja, sizophuma kangaki ngezinsuku, sizohamba kangaki iholide, sizohlala kuphi futhi isikhathi esingakanani, sifuna izingane nokuthi zingaki, ukuthi kufanele sikhokhele kanjani isikole, sibaphatha kanjani abasekhweni, isikhathi esingakanani okufanele sisichithe nabangane bethu, yini le cha lapho silwa ...? Yonke le mibuzo, nokuningi, kufanele ihlolwe futhi iphendulwe kuwo wonke umshado njengoba wena nezinto ozibeke eqhulwini zishintsha.
Umshado wakho ufana nesidleke ngoba udinga ukunakekelwa nsuku zonke ukuze usekele futhi uvikele wena noshade naye ezicindezelweni zempilo — umsebenzi, imisebenzi, abangane, umndeni, izingane kanye namabhola ahlukahlukene ejika ngokuqinisekile azofika.
Ukwakha nokuqinisa umshado wenu kudinga ukuzikhandla nobabili
Ezothando zibaluleke njengokukhokha izikweletu. Ukudweba indlu kubaluleke kakhulu njengokuya kosuku. Ukubambana ngezandla, ukumamatheka, ukudlala ngothando nokuba yizinhlobo zamakhefu nezimpaphe ezilula ezenza indawo ephephile, ethambile, ethokomele futhi enakekelayo iphumule. Konke ukukhetha okwenzayo kungenzeka kube yigatsha, iqabunga noma uphaphe oluzothuthukisa umshado wakho. Okuphambene nakho kuyiqiniso.
Uma ukhohlakele, uthukuthele, udikibala, noma unganaki uzobe ungeze ameva, amatshe, umquba noma ingilazi. Futhi ngenkathi ezinye izilwane zisebenzisa lezi zinto ukwakha izidleke zazo, ngizimisele ukugembula ukuthi ufuna okuthile okumnandi nokunethezeka. Akukhona ukuthi sonke asinazo izikhathi eziyinselele, sinazo. Umqondo lapha ukuthi uchitha isikhathi esiningi namandla wakha umshado ofuna ukuba nawo ukuze kuthi uma unamandla amancane, weseke futhi unothando, kube nohlaka oluqinile ongabuyela kulo. Ngakho-ke, uma ukhuthalele ukondliwa komshado, izingxabano nezingcindezi kuzoba umoya ohelezayo noma ukuvunguza komoya, esikhundleni senkanyamba noma i-tsunami. Umshado omuhle ungaqina kuphela, usekelane futhi ube nothando njengoba uzimisele ukuwenza. Ngakho-ke ngiphinda ngibuze le mibuzo. Ufuna umshado onjani? Futhi yini ozimisele ukukwenza ukuze ube nayo?