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- 1. Nifuna ukunweba ngaphezu kwenu
- 2. Ukubukana kahle kwamehlo
- 3. Ukuvumelanisa kwangaphandle nangaphakathi
- 4. Ukunuka
- 5. AmaHormoni
- 6. Kungani abanye abantu bethandana kalula?
- 7. Qala ukuzisebenzela ngokwakho ukuphishekela uthando ngokuzethemba
Umbuzo othola ukunakwa okuningi futhi ongasaphendulwa (ezingxenyeni eziningi) ukuthi kungani abantu bethandana.
Manje, lo mbuzo onzima unezimpendulo eziningi ezahlukahlukene; ungayiphendula ngokwesayensi, ungayiphendula ngemvelo yomuntu, noma ungayichaza ngeqiniso elilula lokuthi uNkulunkulu udala owesilisa nowesifazane ngababili ngakho-ke bangabandawonye.
Lapho sisebancane, into yokugcina efika emqondweni wethu ngumqondo kaNkulunkulu. Sivame ukubheka uthando njengomuzwa, njengomuzwa osenza sifune ukusangana. Izinto ezincane ezifana nokubambana ngezandla, ukubuyisa izinhlayiya, ukudla ushokoledi ngoSuku Lwezithandani, nokuqopha amagama eziqwini zezihlahla konke kuthathwa njengezimpawu zothando.
Kodwa-ke, njengoba uguga, uqala ukuqonda umqondo wokuthi uthando akuwona umuzwa kodwa luyinto ongakhetha kuyo. Ukhetha ukuhlala lapho izinto ziba nzima, ukhetha ukuthatha umthwalo wemfanelo, futhi ukhetha ukuhlonipha izifungo zakho.
Isayensi izame futhi yaluchaza uthando ngezindlela eziningi, futhi impendulo yalo mbuzo iyaqhubeka nokushintsha kuye ngomuntu osothandweni.
Ezinye zezizathu ezijwayelekile zokuthi kungani abantu bevame ukuthandana zishiwo ngezansi. Qhubeka ufunde ukuze uthole.
1. Nifuna ukunweba ngaphezu kwenu
Imvamisa, iningi labantu lithandana nomuntu abangamtholi nje kuphela ekhangayo futhi efanelekile kepha futhi nomuntu obathandayo futhi.
Lokhu kudala indawo / isimo lapho uthola khona ithuba elisha lokuzikhulisa.
Iqiniso lokuthi lo muntu uyakuthanda emuva likunikeza ithuba elibalulekile lokuzibona, ukuzishintsha, nokwandisa imicabango yakho; lapho ubona leli thuba, uzizwa ugcwala injabulo.
2. Ukubukana kahle kwamehlo
Ukugcina ukuthintana kwamehlo kukuvumela ukuthi ubone ekujuleni komphefumulo womlingani wakho futhi ngokushesha kwakha ukukhangana okujulile komunye nomunye.
Ngisho nakubantu ababili abangakaze bahlangane ngaphambili, ukubuka emehlweni kungabagcwalisa ngoxhumano olujulile nomuzwa wokwazi lowo muntu isikhathi eside.
Lokhu kuxhumana kungacatshangwa njengothando ngabantu abathile.
3. Ukuvumelanisa kwangaphandle nangaphakathi
Uyathandana lapho izinqubo zomzimba wakho zihambisana nezimbangela ezifanele ezikhona emhlabeni wangaphandle. Izimbangela ezilungile zibhekisa kuzinkomba ezivamile zokunkeneneza, ezibukwayo, zokuzwa nezokuthinta ezenzeka ngokulandelana, isikhathi nendawo.
Ukukhuluma ngokwesayensi, ebudlelwaneni bezothando, kunezinhlobo eziningi ezahlukahlukene zamakhemikhali adingekayo.
Ukuze othile athande uthando, izinqubo ezahlukahlukene zangaphandle nezinqubo zamakhemikhali kufanele zilingane ngokulandelana okulungile ukuze uthandane.
4. Ukunuka
Abantu abaningi bathandana nabalingani babo noma abangane babo ngenxa yendlela abanuka ngayo.
Isitatimende esingenhla sizwakala singenangqondo, kepha iphunga lomzimba lidala imizwa yokuthanda abesilisa nabesifazane ngokufanayo. Manje, khumbula ukuthi asigcini nje ngokuxoxa ngephunga elijwayelekile elinalo ihembe elingcolile lomlingani wakho kodwa futhi namahembe angenaphunga nezinye izinto zokugqoka.
Lezi zimpawu zokuhogela zingena ebuchosheni bakho ngohlelo olfactory, bese uyathandana.
5. AmaHormoni
AmaHormone adlala indima enkulu ekwenzeni uthandane.
Ingabe umlomo wakho uyoma futhi inhliziyo yakho iqala ukushaya ngokushesha nje lapho ezinye izinto zakho ezibalulekile zikhala emnyango wakho? Yebo, lokhu kuyimpendulo yengcindezi, futhi kwenzeka lapho ama-hormone afana ne-serotonin, i-dopamine, ne-adrenaline ekhishwa egazini lakho.
Izithandani ezishaywayo zinezinga eliphakeme le-dopamine egazini lazo.
Le neurotransmitter iyasiza ekuvuseleleni ubumnandi obukhulu futhi inomphumela ofanayo ebuchosheni njengokusebenzisa i-cocaine.
6. Kungani abanye abantu bethandana kalula?
Kwesinye isikhathi, kuhlangana ngamehlo amabili ngaphesheya kwegumbi, futhi okunye kungumlando.
Kwabaningi benu, ukuthandana kungaba nzima. Kwesinye isikhathi ufuna ukuthandana, kepha awukwazi ukubuyisela. Kodwa-ke, ukuze ube nothando, kufanele ukwazi ukunika uthando futhi ube nothando ngaphakathi kwakho.
Lapho uzizwa uthandeka, futhi lapho uzithanda wena, uyakwazi ukuveza lolu thando. Lapho ufuna isithandwa, umuntu ongazizwa efanele uthando, akakwazi ukuziveza ethandeka ngakho-ke akakwazi ukuthanda. Lokhu kungazethembi kuhunyushwa njengesidingo, futhi lokhu kugxilisa ezinye izintshisekelo zothando njenge-pepper spray.
Uma uvela odinga kakhulu, kulapho uzoxosha khona abantu, futhi uzoba namathuba amancane okuthola uthando.
7. Qala ukuzisebenzela ngokwakho ukuphishekela uthando ngokuzethemba
Ngakho-ke, uma uyesabeka futhi uthola uthando, kuzofanela usebenze ngokwakho kuqala.
Zama ukuzethemba, uzithande, uvulele umhlaba wangaphandle futhi ngaphambi kokuthi wazi, ikhemistri izolandela, futhi uzozithola usuthandana.
Ungalandeli isaga esidala esithi “okuphambene okuhehayo” kunalokho kwenze umgomo wakho ukuthola umuntu onezindinganiso ezifanayo nombono ofanayo ngempilo njengawe.
Ngale ndlela, uzoba nomlingani wokuphila ozokwabelana naye ngempilo yakho unomphela.