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- 1. Bavula iminyango yokuhlangenwe nakho okusha
- 2. Inikeza amathuba amaningi okuphumelela ngokubambisana
- 1. Ayikwazi ukulandela izintshisekelo zakho
- 2. Ukubeka wena nezidingo zakho kuqala
- 1. Zama indlela ye ‘sandwich’
- 2. Qaphela ngenkathi ugxeka
Uthanda amahlaya othando, kepha umlingani wakho uthanda ama-movie wesenzo. Ungumuntu odla imifino kuphela, kodwa okunye okubalulekile kwakho kudla inyama. Uyamthanda umlingani wakho, kepha ungazizwa sengathi awufani ngokuphelele. Uma ungavumelani ngokudla noma nge-movie, uzokwazi kanjani ukunquma ngezinqumo ezibalulekile zempilo, njengokuthi uqala nini umndeni noma uzohlala kuphi?
Kukhona umehluko kubo bonke ubuhlobo. Okusemqoka ukuthi ungaboni lo mehluko njengemithombo yengxabano, kodwa njengento ozoyazisa.
Kubalulekile ukuthi uzame ukwazisa nokuhlonipha indlela umlingani wakho ahluke ngayo kuwe.
Kepha, umehluko ubumba kanjani futhi ubuthinte kanjani ubudlelwano bakho?
Ukwehluka kubusiza kanjani ubudlelwano bakho
1. Bavula iminyango yokuhlangenwe nakho okusha
Njengabantu, kungokwemvelo yethu ukuheha abantu abanezintshisakalo ezifanayo. Yize lokhu kusebenza futhi kusisiza ngezindlela eziningi, akusivumeli ukuthi sizwe konke okunye impilo engakusiza.
Ngokwehluka ebudlelwaneni bakho, uzokwazi ukuhlangana nabantu futhi wenze izinto ezizoshintsha umbono wakho wezwe ube ngcono.
Ngokuzivula nokuzitholela indlela ehlukile yokuphila nokuphila, siyakwazi ukwenza izinqumo ezingcono nezifundiswe kakhulu ngalokho esifuna ukukwenza empilweni yethu. Lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho kokuphila okuhlukile kusisiza ukuthi sibheke ngalé kokujwayelekile, kusenze sikwazi ukuveza imizwa yethu ngokugcwele nokuba khona ngokwengeziwe emhlabeni.
Ungase uzwe nobudlelwano bakho buqina ngenxa yesifiso sophathina wakho sokuzama ezinye zezinto enizithandayo. Lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho okwabiwe kungaqhubeka kukusondeze, kuqinise isibopho esikhethekile enihlanganyela ngaso.
2. Inikeza amathuba amaningi okuphumelela ngokubambisana
Uzomangala ngezinto ongazifeza uma nisebenzisa umehluko wenu ndawonye. Isibonelo, uma ungakwazi ukuthola amadili amahle kepha uyisibalo sezibalo, ungasinakekela isabelomali ngenkathi umlingani wakho enganquma ukuthi enzeni ngaso.
UDkt. Emma Seppala, uMqondisi oHlanganisene ne-Altruism Research and Education, uthi-
Ukuba namandla ongenalo umlingani wakho, kusiza ekuqiniseni isibopho sakho nobudlelwano, okukuvumela ukuthi ufunde kabanzi ngomlingani wakho.
Izingozi zokungafani okuningi kakhulu
1. Ayikwazi ukulandela izintshisekelo zakho
Ngenkathi wabelana ngezinto ezenziwa umlingani wakho kanye nezinto azilibazisa kusiza ekuqiniseni isibopho sakho, umuntu ngamunye usenezikhathi zakhe ezedlule nezintshisekelo zakhe. Uma ungakwazi ukulandela izinto ozithandayo, kungaholela ekudambiseni amandla nasekukhungathekeni ngokwenqubo yakho yansuku zonke.
Lokhu kukhungatheka kungaphazamisa ubuhlobo bakho, okuholela ezingxabanweni nasekuxabaneni.
2. Ukubeka wena nezidingo zakho kuqala
Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi umuzwa wokubambisana nokuyekethisa uyisisekelo sobudlelwano obuyimpumelelo.
Abantu kumele babheke okufunwa nezidingo zabalingani babo bese bebeka ngaphambi kwezabo.
Ubudlelwano akunakwenzeka ukuthi buchume uma abantu bebeka izidingo zabo kuqala, ngoba nje omunye wabo obalulekile uzokhathala ukunganakwa kwemizwa yakhe nokunganakwa isikhathi eside.
Uma ungakwazi ukuxhumana nomlingani wakho ezingeni elijule kakhulu ngenxa yokwehluka kwenu, kuba nzima ukugcina uthando oluhle, ukuqonda, kanye nokuzizwa uvikelekile ebudlelwaneni.
Ungakulawula kanjani umehluko ebudlelwaneni bakho
Kubalulekile ukwazi ukuthi izingxabano ziyingxenye yabo bonke ubudlelwano. Noma ngabe umehluko uyinto encane njengawe, khetha ukulala uvule iwindi, kepha umlingani wakho ukhetha ukuthi livaliwe, noma okuthile okuyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu, njengokukhulisa izingane; kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi okubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi uzixazulula kanjani, hhayi ukuthi ziyini.
1. Zama indlela ye ‘sandwich’
Sonke sifuna omunye obalulekile ozosenza sizizwe sibalulekile, sithandwa, futhi sithandwa. Njengoba izingxabano nokugxeka kungayilimaza le mizwa, kubalulekile ukuthola izindlela zokuyibuyisela. Enye indlela yokwenza lokhu ukwenza uisemishi.’
Ithuluzi eliyigugu emhlabeni webhizinisi, isemishi lisho ukubeka imibono engemihle phakathi kwezimbili ezinhle.
Isibonelo, ‘Unekhono ekutholeni izixazululo kuzo zonke izinhlobo zezinkinga. Kungakuhle uma ungathola nesixazululo sokonakala egumbini lethu lokulala. Futhi, ngiyayithanda indlela olinakekela kahle ngayo ikati lethu. Ubukeka ejabule ngokuphelele futhi ephilile! ' Kodwa-ke, qiniseka ukuthi ukuncoma okunikezayo kuyi- eyiqiniso nethembekile, noma isemishi ngeke lisebenze.
2. Qaphela ngenkathi ugxeka
Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi kufanele ugxeke isimo noma isimilo esithile, hhayi ubuntu bomlingani wakho. Akukhiqizi kangako ukukhononda ngobuntu bakho obubalulekile, ikakhulukazi ngoba omunye umuntu uzophendula ngokuzenzakalela ngokuzivikela yena noma yena. Ukugxekwa okunjalo kuzolulaza nemizwa yokuthandwa nokwaziswa okubalulekile ebudlelwaneni obuqinile nobunempilo.