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- 1. Awuzwani nabasekhweni lakho, futhi bahlala edolobheni lakho
- 2. Wena noshade naye anivumelani ngendlela yokukhulisa izingane
- 3. Indlu ihlale imapeketwane
- 4. Izimpi zakho zishuba ngokushesha. Amazwi aya phezulu futhi akukho okuxazululwa
- 5. Ukhathele, unengcindezi futhi usebenza ngokweqile ngakho ujwayele ukusabela ngokweqile ezinkingeni zasekhaya
Lapho sishada futhi siqala umndeni, sithanda ukucabanga ukuthi konke kuzoba bushelelezi futhi kube lula. Sizoba yunithi elinothando nelisondelene, indlu izogcwala ukuhleka nokugona, futhi izingane zethu zizolalela amazwi ethu okuhlakanipha ngaphandle kokubaphonsela inselelo. Iqiniso akulona elibi lelo. Abantu izidalwa eziyinkimbinkimbi, futhi lokho kuza nemibono eyehlukene, izikhathi zokungezwani, izingxabano nokuxokozela, kanye nenqwaba yezikhubekiso ezidinga ukuzulazulwa ngobuhlakani ukuze zixazulule izingqinamba ngaphambi kokuba zinganqobeki. Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi izinkinga zivela kuyo yonke imindeni, ngisho nasezilwaneni. Zibheke njengezifundo ongazifunda kuzo — izifundo ezinikeza ukubekezela, ukubekezelelana, amakhono okulalela okuhle ngisho namakhono angcono okuxhumana. Unalokho engqondweni, ake sibheke ezinye izeluleko zokuphatha izinkinga zomndeni ngakho-ke isinqumo ngumdlalo wokugcina, hhayi into engenakwenzeka.
1. Awuzwani nabasekhweni lakho, futhi bahlala edolobheni lakho
Le yinkinga enzima yomndeni ukuzulazula kuyo, futhi eyodwa ezothatha izingxoxo eziningi kanye nokubeka eceleni i-ego yakho. Awufuni ukuxosha abasekhweni lakho, phela ngabazali bomlingani wakho nogogo nomkhulu bezingane zakho. Ngasikhathi sinye, ufuna ukubazisa ukuthi ezinye zezenzo zabo noma amagama abo ayakulimaza futhi udinga ukubeka imingcele ethile. 
Isixazululo: Thola indlela enempilo, engasongeliyo yokuxhumana nezidingo zakho kubasekhweni. Yenza lokhu lapho izingane zingekho; mhlawumbe endaweni engathathi hlangothi. Kuthiwani ngokubamemela kubhulantshi ngempelasonto? Oda amanye ama-mimosa ukuze umoya ukhululeke. Futhi-ke, usebenzisa imiyalezo ethi "Mina", yabelana nabo ngemicabango yakho. “Ngijabule kakhulu nina nobabili nihlala eduze ukuze izingane zithole ithuba lokusondelana nogogo nomkhulu wazo. Kepha ngicabanga ukuthi kubalulekile ukuthi wazi ukuthi angizukubekezelela ukugxekwa ngokuthi sikhulisa kanjani izingane, ikakhulukazi uma kushiwo ngezingane. Ngikulungele ngokuphelele ukuzwa lokho ocabanga ukuthi sikwenza ngokungalungile, kodwa kungakuhle ukuthi uze ngqo kithi ungasebenzisi izingane njengezithunywa. ”
2. Wena noshade naye anivumelani ngendlela yokukhulisa izingane
Isixazululo: Ngamunye wenu kufanele enze uhla, abhale imicabango yakhe mayelana nezinye zezindawo ezibaluleke kakhulu zokukhulisa izingane: ukuyala (ukushaya, ukuphela kwesikhathi? Ukuzuzisa ngokuziphatha okuhle nokungakunaki ukuziphatha okungalungile?); ukudlulisa izindinganiso zakho ezifana nenkolo nomsebenzi womphakathi (ngabe izingane kufanele ziphoqelelwe ukuya endlini yokukhonzela, futhi zineminyaka emingaki? Kufanele zibambe iqhaza ekusizeni umphakathi njengokusebenza ekhishini lesobho?), isibonelelo (kufanele sikhokhe ukubenzela imisebenzi yasendlini?), kanye nemfundo (isikole sikahulumeni noma esizimele?). Usebenzisa izinhlu zakho njengesisekelo sengxoxo, chaza ukuthi kungani ucabanga ukuthi amaphuzu akho abalulekile, kepha vula ukuyekethisa. Ukupha nokuthatha kuhlale kudingekile phakathi kwezithandani lapho ukhulisa izingane, ngakho-ke uzofuna ukucabanga ngalokho okuxoxiswana ngakho futhi okungekho.
3. Indlu ihlale imapeketwane
Ukhathele ukuba wedwa ohlanzayo. Akekho obonakala enza noma yini ngalokhu ngaphandle kokuthi uphakamise izwi lakho, bese bekwenza bekhononda futhi isimo endlini sishuba futhi singajabuli. 
Isixazululo: Hlanganisa wonke umndeni ndawonye; umyeni nezingane. Yenza isimo sikhululeke futhi sibe mnandi, ngokunye ukudla okulula kanye nesoda etafuleni. Lungisa isiqeshana sephepha nepeni, ngoba uzobe usakha Ishadi Lechrere. Hola engxoxweni, utshele umndeni ngezwi elimnandi ukuthi wonke umuntu udinga ukufaka isandla enhlalakahleni yomndeni. Yenza wonke umuntu abhale yonke imisebenzi edinga ukwenziwa ukuze ikhaya lihambe kahle. Bese ubuza ukuthi ngubani ongathanda ukuba nesibopho salokho ngesonto lokuqala. Imisebenzi yawo wonke umuntu izoshintshana ukuze kungabi khona noyedwa umuntu ohlale ebambelele kuleyo engathandeki kakhulu, njengokukhipha udoti noma ukushintsha ikheji lezinyoni. Dala uhlobo oluthile lomvuzo wokuphela kwesonto uma yonke imisebenzi yenziwa ngaphandle kwesikhalazo; mhlawumbe ukuvakashela umndeni endaweni ye-pizza noma ipikinikini olwandle. Musa i-nitpick uma imisebenzi ingaqediwe ngendlela othanda ngayo: iphuzu ukwaba umthwalo.
4. Izimpi zakho zishuba ngokushesha. Amazwi aya phezulu futhi akukho okuxazululwa
Isixazululo: Kunezinsizakusebenza eziningi zokukusiza ukufundise ukulwa ngokulingana futhi usebenzise ukungqubuzana kahle ukuze uye esinqumweni. Ufuna ukugwema ulimi olusolayo, sebenzisa imilayezo yakho ethi “Mina”, uzivumelanise nomuntu olwa naye ukuze ingxoxo ibhekiswe esixazululweni sobabili hhayi ekugxekeni, futhi ugcine ingxoxo yakho igxile enkingeni eseduze ngaphandle kokudonsa up izifo ezedlule.
5. Ukhathele, unengcindezi futhi usebenza ngokweqile ngakho ujwayele ukusabela ngokweqile ezinkingeni zasekhaya
Isixazululo: Okokuqala, faka amanye amasu wokucindezela enkambisweni yakho yansuku zonke. Ungalindi kuze kuvele inkinga; ufuna ukuba nesitoko samasu ku- "boxbox" wakho ukuze ukwazi ukufinyelela lapho ubamba inkinga. Ngakho-ke zijwayeze ukuzindla, noma umdlalo, noma ulalele enye yezinhlelo zokusebenza ezinhle kakhulu esezitholakala ezingakusiza wakhe umthombo wokuthula, olungele ukuza uma kwenzeka izikhathi eziyinselele. Khumbula: Awukwazi ukulawula izenzo zoshade naye noma zezingane. Ungalawula kuphela ukusabela kwakho kubo. Prakthiza uzwela; lapho ilungu lomndeni lenza okuthile okucasula ukusabela kwakho ngokweqile, thatha umoya bese uzama ukubona ukuthi kungani bekwenza lokhu abakwenzayo. Lala amahora amaningi ngokwanele ubusuku ngabunye; lokhu kungenye yezinto ezinhle kakhulu ongazenza ukukusiza uzizwe uzolile futhi ukwazi. Yondla umzimba wakho ngokudla okuhle, okuphelele, okugwema ukudla okungenamsoco kanye ne-caffeine, ukudla okubili okufakazelwe ukuthi kunomthelela omubi emimoyeni yethu.