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- 1. Uzohambahamba
- 2. Uzokwazi ukuba yingcweti ekwenzeni abangane abasha
- 3. Ukunyakaza kunzima ezinganeni
- 4. Ukuthola umsebenzi onenjongo maqondana nomsebenzi kunzima kumlingani wezempi
- 5. Izinga lezehlukaniso liphezulu phakathi kwemibhangqwana yamasosha
- 6. Ingcindezi yomlingani wezempi yehlukile kweyomuntu ongeyona impi
- 7. Unezinsizakusebenza ezinhle zempilo yengqondo ezandleni zakho
- 8. Ukuba yinkosikazi yezempi akudingeki kube nzima
Yonke imishado inezinselele zayo, ikakhulukazi lapho izingane zifika futhi umkhaya ukhula. Kepha imibhangqwana yamasosha inezinselelo ezihlukile, eziqondene nomsebenzi okufanele zibhekane nazo: ezokuhamba njalo, ukuthunyelwa komlingani osebenzayo, okufanele zilungise njalo futhi zihlele izindlela ezindaweni ezintsha (imvamisa amasiko amasha ngokuphelele uma ushintsho lwesiteshi luphesheya kwezilwandle) konke ngenkathi usingatha imithwalo yemfanelo yendabuko yomndeni.
Sikhulume neqembu labashadikazi bezempi ababelana nobuhle nobubi bokushada nelungu lezinsizakalo ezihlomile.
1. Uzohambahamba
UCathy, oshade nelungu le-US Air Force, uyachaza: “Umkhaya wakithi uthola isilinganiso sazo zonke izinyanga eziyi-18-36. Lokho kusho ukuthi ende kunazo zonke esake sahlala endaweni eyodwa yiminyaka emithathu. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, lokho kuhle ngoba ngiyakuthanda ukubhekana nezimo ezintsha (ngangiyisosha, uqobo lwami) kepha njengoba umndeni wethu wakhula, kusho izindlela eziningi zokuphatha lapho sekuyisikhathi sokupakisha nokudlulisa. Kodwa yenza nje, ngoba empeleni awunakho ukukhetha okuningi. ”
2. Uzokwazi ukuba yingcweti ekwenzeni abangane abasha
UBrianna usitshela ukuthi uthembele kweminye imikhakha yomndeni ukwakha inethiwekhi yakhe entsha yabangane ngokushesha nje lapho umndeni wakhe udluliselwa esikhungweni sebutho elisha. “Ukuba semasosheni, kunohlobo lwe-“ Welcome Wagon ”eyakhelwe ngaphakathi. Abanye abashadikazi bezempi bonke beza endlini yakho nokudla, izimbali, iziphuzo ezibandayo ngokushesha nje lapho ungena. Ingxoxo ilula ngoba sonke sinento eyodwa esifana ngayo: sishade namalungu enkonzo. Ngakho-ke akudingeki ukuthi wenze umsebenzi omningi ukwenza ubungani obusha njalo lapho uthuthela. Into enhle leyo. Ungena ngokushesha embuthanweni futhi ube nabantu abazokuxhasa lapho udinga, ngokwesibonelo, umuntu ozogada izingane zakho ngoba kufanele uye kudokotela noma udinga nje isikhathi sakho wedwa. ”
3. Ukunyakaza kunzima ezinganeni
UJill uyasitshela: “Ngiyaphila ngokuhlala ngihambahamba, kodwa ngiyazi ukuthi izingane zami zinenkinga enzima yokushiya abangane bazo futhi kudingeka benze abasha njalo eminyakeni embalwa.” Impela, lokhu kunzima kwezinye izingane. Kufanele bazijwayeze neqembu labantu abangabazi namaqembu ajwayelekile esikoleni esiphakeme njalo lapho umndeni udluliswa. Ezinye izingane zikwenza kalula lokhu, ezinye zinenkinga enzima kakhulu. Futhi imiphumela yalesi simo esiguqukayo — ezinye izingane zamasosha zingafunda ezikoleni ezifika ku-16 ezihlukene kusukela ebangeni lokuqala kuya esikoleni esiphakeme- zingazwakala isikhathi eside lapho umuntu esekhulile.
4. Ukuthola umsebenzi onenjongo maqondana nomsebenzi kunzima kumlingani wezempi
"Uma ukhishwa njalo eminyakeni embalwa, khohlwa ngokwakha umkhakha endaweni yakho yobungoti", kusho uSusan, oshade noColonel. “Ngangiyimenenja esezingeni eliphezulu enkampanini ye-IT ngaphambi kokuba ngishade noLouis,” kuqhuba yena. “Kodwa lapho sesishadile futhi saqala ukushintsha izizinda zamasosha njalo eminyakeni emibili, ngangazi ukuthi ayikho inkampani engafuna ukungiqasha kulelo zinga. Ngubani ofuna ukufaka imali ekuqeqesheni imenenja ekubeni azi ukuthi ngeke abe khona isikhathi eside? ” USusan uphinde waqeqeshwa njengothisha ukuze aqhubeke nokusebenza, futhi manje uthola umsebenzi wokufundisa izingane zemindeni yamasosha ezikoleni zoMnyango Wezokuvikela. "Okungenani ngifaka imali engenayo yomndeni," esho, "Futhi ngizwa kahle ngengikwenzela umphakathi wami."
5. Izinga lezehlukaniso liphezulu phakathi kwemibhangqwana yamasosha
Oshade naye osebenzayo kungalindelwa ukuthi abe kude nasekhaya kaningi kunasekhaya. Lokhu kuyinsakavukela kunoma yimuphi umuntu obhalisile oshadile, i-NCO, uWarrant Officer, noma isikhulu esisebenza ophikweni lwezempi. "Uma ushada nesosha, ushada noMbutho", kusho isisho. Yize abashadikazi bezempi bekuqonda lokhu lapho beshada nomuntu abamthandayo, iqiniso lingahlala lishaqisa, futhi le mindeni ibona izinga lesehlukaniso elingu-30%.
6. Ingcindezi yomlingani wezempi yehlukile kweyomuntu ongeyona impi
Izinkinga zomshado ezihlobene nokuthunyelwa kanye nomsebenzi wezempi zingabandakanya izingqinamba ezihlobene ne-PTSD edalwe yinsizakalo, ukudana noma ukukhathazeka, izinselelo zokunakekelwa uma ilungu lenkonzo libuya lilimele, imizwa yokuhlukaniswa nentukuthelo kulowo oshade naye, ukungathembeki okuhlobene nokwehlukaniswa isikhathi eside, kanye ne-roller imizwa eguquguqukayo ehlobene nokuthunyelwa.
7. Unezinsizakusebenza ezinhle zempilo yengqondo ezandleni zakho
"Amasosha aqonda isethi eyingqayizivele yezingcindezi ezibhekene nale mindeni", uBrian uyasitshela. “Iningi lezizinda zinabasebenzi abasekela ngokugcwele abeluleki bemishado nabelaphi abangasisiza sibhekane nokudangala, imizwa yokuba nesizungu. Akukho nhlamba enamathiselwe ekusebenziseni labo ngoti. Umbutho wamasosha ufuna sizizwe sijabule futhi siphilile futhi wenza konke okusemandleni ukuqinisekisa ukuthi sihlala sinjalo. ”
8. Ukuba yinkosikazi yezempi akudingeki kube nzima
UBrenda usitshela imfihlo yakhe yokuhlala enokulinganisela: “Njengonkosikazi wezempi weminyaka eyi-18 +, ngiyakutshela ukuthi kunzima, kepha akunakwenzeka. Kubila impela ekubeni nokholo kuNkulunkulu, komunye nomunye, nasemshadweni wakho. Kufanele nithembane, nikhulume kahle, futhi ningazibeki ezimeni ezidala ukulingwa. Ukuhlala umatasa, ukuba nenjongo nokugxila, nokuhlala uxhumekile kumasistimu akho okusekela kuyizindlela zokuphatha. Ngempela, uthando lwami ngomyeni wami lwalukhula njalo lapho ehambisa! Sizamile kanzima ukuxhumana nsuku zonke, noma ngabe kungumbhalo, ama-imeyili, imithombo yezokuxhumana, noma ingxoxo yevidiyo. Sasigcinana siqinile futhi noNkulunkulu wasigcina siqinile, nathi! ”