-Delile
- 1. Usuku lomshado uqobo
- 2. Uyesaba ukuphinda amaphutha omzali wakho
- 3. Awukabi nalo isu
- 4. Usongo lokuhlukunyezwa
- Ungabhekana kanjani namajita angaphambi komshado
- Nazi ezinye izingcaphuno ze-jitters zangaphambi komshado-
Ngabe uvemvane esiswini sakho njalo uma ucabanga ngosuku olukhulu? Unenkinga yokulala nokudla? Ukuxabana nesithandwa sakho mayelana nesimo noma ukuthi ungayenza kanjani iwebhusayithi yakho yomshado? Ukubona kwengubo yomshado kukwenza ungabaze ukuthi wenza kahle ukubopha impilo yakho kulo muntu? Ukucindezeleka kwangaphambi komshado kuyinto ejwayelekile; kodwa-ke, kuhlala kukhona ukuthi ukukhathazeka kubangelwa okuthile okubucayi kakhulu kunemizwa kuphela.
Uma unomuzwa wokuthi lo muzwa omubi uyakufica, udinga ukuzixazulula ngokushesha. Awufuni ukuthi yebe injabulo yakho ngaphambi kosuku oluhle kakhulu empilweni yakho, akunjalo? Umsebenzi othile ophuthumayo wangaphakathi uyadingeka ukukusiza uqonde imbangela yangempela ukuze ukwazi ukulungisa inkinga futhi uthokozele ngempela ukuba ngumakoti nomkhwenyana.
Sizoqala ngezizathu ezingenzeka zokukhathazeka ngaphambi komshado bese siqhubekela phambili ekuphatheni ama-jitters angaphambi komshado ngamasu alula asiza ukuqeda zonke izinkathazo.
Izimbangela ezingaba khona zama-jitters angaphambi komshado
1. Usuku lomshado uqobo
Yize selulindwe isikhathi eside, luhlelwe kahle, futhi luhle impela, usuku lomshado lungafihla izinselelo eziningi ezibangela ama-jitters angaphambi komshado.
Isibonelo, isizathu kungaba ukuphelela komakoti noma umkhwenyana lapho amandla amaningi esetshenziselwa imininingwane kunokugxila ekujabuleleni isithombe sonke. Esinye isici sokucindezeleka esidala ama-jitters angaphambi komshado kungaba ubukhona bamalungu amaningi omndeni ngezifiso zabo kanye nokulindela kwabo.
Ngisho nokuba sezingeni lokunakwa usuku lonke kungaba kubi kunokufa kwabanye omakoti nabagadi besikhathi esizayo.
2. Uyesaba ukuphinda amaphutha omzali wakho
Abazali bethu banomthelela omkhulu endleleni esibheka ngayo impilo yomshado. Abanye bethu bavela emindenini engaphelele lapho udlame, ukunganakwa, intukuthelo, noma ukuhlukaniswa kwakuyinto evamile ukwethuka emshadweni.
Uma unokwesaba okuhambisana nokulandela lo mbono nokungabaza ngaphambi komshado, kufanele ukuqonde lokho, ngemuva kwakho konke, akudingeki. Kukuwe ukuthi unqume ukuthi yini ezoba imigomo yomndeni wakho.
3. Awukabi nalo isu
Usuku lomshado selusondele, kepha awukaxoxi ngamanye amaphuzu abalulekile njengokuthi uzohlala kuphi, isabelomali, umsebenzi, zingaki izingane ofuna ukuba nazo nokuthi nini, isikhathi nezihlobo, njll.
Uma lokhu kungaqiniseki kukucindezela futhi kubangele ama-jitters angaphambi komshado, kufanele ukhulume ngobuqotho nesithandwa sakho ngalezo zinto "ezinkulu" ukuze uqiniseke ukuthi usekhasini elifanayo lapho impilo yakho yomshado iqala. Lokhu kubalulekile ekuphatheni ama-jitters angaphambi komshado.
4. Usongo lokuhlukunyezwa
Uma usuvele wabhekana nodlame noma olunye uhlobo lokuziphatha okuhlukumezayo kusuka kumyeni wakho ozayo futhi wesaba ukuthi lokhu kungaphinda futhi, udinga ukulalela inhliziyo yakho. Ngiyacela, funa izeluleko kumelaphi ozokusiza uqonde ukuthi kufanele uhlale ebudlelwaneni noma cha.
Ungabhekana kanjani namajita angaphambi komshado
- Ngaphandle kokuthi ama-jitters womshado nokuthembana abangelwa izinto ezibucayi ezinjengokusongela ukuhlukunyezwa, kungathuliswa kalula kusetshenziswa lawa macebiso:
- Zikhumbuze ngezizathu zokuthi kungani uthathe isinqumo sokushada nalo muntu nezinto ozithandayo mayelana nalokho okuhlosiwe. Thatha izithombe zakini nobabili futhi nikhumbule isikhathi esimnandi enibe naso ndawonye.
- Khuluma okucabangayo koshade naye. Mtshele ngokukhathazeka kwakho. Isithandwa sakho sidinga ukwazi ukuthi ubhekene nani. Mhlawumbe, unemizwa efanayo. Kuyithuba elihle lokuthi nazane ngezinga elijulile futhi nibe nobuciko bokwesekwa.
- Lala ngokwanele. Imvamisa, ukukhathazeka kunendawo ephansi, isizathu somzimba: umane ukhathele ngamalungiselelo futhi udinga ukulala kahle. Funda i-athikili yakhe yokuthi unganciphisa kanjani ukucindezeleka ngaphambi komshado.
- Chithani isikhathi esithe xaxa ndawonye kodwa ningakhulumi ngomshado. Yiyani ebhayisikobho, nibe nokuzivocavoca ejimini ndawonye, vakashelani indawo yokupheka, noma nibe nokubaleka kwezothando endaweni enhle. Umqondo wukuthi uphilele usuku lwanamuhla kunokuphila usuku lomshado.
- Uma okuthile kukucindezela emshadweni wakho - zizwe ukhululekile ukukususa. KUNGUSUKU LAKHO, futhi akudingeki ukuthi kube ngokwesiko. U-Ashley Seeger, udokotela wezifo zengqondo nobudlelwano kanye ne-LCSW bake babelana ngendlela omunye umakoti owayezonda ukuba phakathi nendawo yokunakwa enza ngayo isinqumo sokuqeda umgudu womshado wakhe. Esikhundleni salokho, ungene ehholo lomshado nesoka lakhe wajabulela umoya okhululekile njengoba bebesho izifungo zabo phakathi kwehholo bezungezwe umndeni nabangane.
Nazi ezinye izingcaphuno ze-jitters zangaphambi komshado-
UNkulunkulu akakuniki abantu obafunayo kepha abantu obadingayo. Ukukusiza, ukukulimaza, ukukushiya, ukukuthanda nokwenza ube yilowo obekufanele ube yikho.
Thembela isikhathi sempilo yakho.
Umshado uvumela ukuthi ucasule umuntu oyedwa impilo yakho yonke!
Ama-jitters angaphambi komshado ajwayelekile ngaphambi kosuku lwe-D. Ungavumeli izimvemvane esiswini sakho zikukhungathekise. Isikhathi sangaphambi komshado senzelwe ukujatshulelwa, ngakho ungakhathazeki ngezinto ezincane nenjabulo engena ngaphakathi.