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- 1. Ukugxila esikhathini sokubopha umndeni
- 2. Ukugcizelela ukwethembeka nokwethembana
- 3. Ukwabelana ngemithwalo yemfanelo
Umndeni - igama elisho okuhlukile kuwo wonke umuntu ngoba yonke imindeni yehlukile.
Kepha imvamisa, lapho sizwa igama elithi umndeni, silihlobanisa nokuthile okujabulisayo, okujabulisayo. Kepha, akuyona yonke imindeni ejabule noma okungenani abajabuli isikhathi esiningi.
Vele, sizohlala siwuthanda umndeni wethu, kepha kwesinye isikhathi izinto zingaba nzima futhi esikhundleni sokusizana siqala ukuvimbela omunye komunye.
Umndeni kufanele ube yisikhumbuzo esimnandi sokuthi noma ngabe kwenzekani kuhlala kunendawo ongabuyela kuyo futhi nomuntu ozoba nomhlane wakho njalo. Kepha kwesinye isikhathi, ukuze ube nomndeni ojabule kakhudlwana, kufanele uzame kakhudlwana.
Ngakho-ke, kokuthunyelwe kwanamuhla, sethula izimfihlo ezi-3 ezilula emndenini ongenazinkinga, ojabulayo nophilile.
1. Ukugxila esikhathini sokubopha umndeni
Iningi lemindeni elinobunzima bokuzwana kungenzeka ukuthi alichithi isikhathi esanele ndawonye. Futhi abanye, noma ngabe bachitha isikhathi ndawonye, zonke izingxoxo zabo zivamise ukuvela zokwahlulela noma ukugxekana.
Ngaleso sizathu, akwanele ukuchitha isikhathi esithe xaxa nabathandekayo - kufanele kube yisikhathi sekhwalithi. Esikhundleni sokugxeka, qhamuka nezixazululo ezinhle bese unikeza usizo lwakho, ikakhulukazi uma ungumzali. Zonke izingane ezifunayo ukuthi zibe nabazali bazo eceleni kwazo, noma kungenzekani.
Ngeshwa, lapho abazali bengasitholi isikhathi sokuchitha nomndeni, izingane zihlupheka kakhulu futhi ekugcineni, lapho zikhula, zingaba yizo ezingeke zibe nesikhathi somndeni.
Uma ucabanga ngalezi zinto, ukukhulisa umndeni mhlawumbe kuwumsebenzi onzima kunazo zonke emhlabeni ngoba zonke izinqumo ozenzayo zingaba nomthelela omkhulu ekusaseni lezingane zakho.
Esinye sezeluleko ezibaluleke kakhulu emndenini ojabule kakhulu ukuthatha isikhathi sokubopha ukugcina ubuhlobo obuhle futhi kunenjabulo enkulu ongayithola ngenkathi ubopha.
Ungaya kokuzijabulisa endaweni exotic noma ehlathini eliseduze, ungapheka ndawonye, njalo nibe nokudla okungenani kanye, nibe nobusuku bomdlalo webhodi kanye ngenyanga, noma nibe nobusuku be-movie kanye ngesonto.
2. Ukugcizelela ukwethembeka nokwethembana
Yonke impi yomndeni noma ingxabano iqala ngoba othile ubengathembeki noma ebefihla okuthile - okuyinto efanayo. Ngakho-ke, lapho uqhubeka uqamba amanga futhi ufihlela izinto emndenini wakho, isimo ekhaya siyoba sibi ngokwengeziwe.
Kuyaziwa ukuthi enye yezinkinobho zegolide zokuba nobuhlobo obukhulu ukwethembeka.
Ngokwethembeka kuza ukwethembana - okubaluleke kakhulu ebudlelwaneni obunempilo - futhi ngokuthembana, kuza inhlonipho - eyisisekelo sanoma imuphi umndeni ojabulayo.
Abazali bavame ukuqamba amanga ezinganeni zabo ngezimo zabo zezezimali ngezizathu ezahlukahlukene eziqondakalayo, kepha lokho akukwenzi ukuthi ukuqamba amanga kulungile. Isibonelo, uma ungekho kahle, izingane zakho kufanele ziqonde ukuthi akukubi ngakho.
Ngaphandle kwalokho, izingane zakho zingacabanga ukuthi ungakwazi ukuthenga izinto ezibizayo kodwa awufuni ngoba awuzithandi ngokwanele.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, uma ucebile futhi ungakwazi ukukhokhela konke okufunwa yizingane zakho, uzibeka engcupheni yokuzilimaza. Kungakho abanye abazali bethanda ukuqamba amanga - ngoba kulula - ngakho ingane ngeke ibe yisigebengu esonakele.
Kungcono ukwethembeka uchazele ingane yakho ukuthi kufanele usebenze futhi usebenzele izinto empilweni ngoba akukho okuza mahhala. Ungabavuza ngamathoyizi ngokwenza imisebenzi elula - ngale ndlela uzobafundisa ukuthi umhlaba usebenza kanjani.
Ukwethembeka kuza nezifundo ezinhle zempilo enganeni yakho futhi ekugcineni kungaba yinye yezimfanelo zobuntu bazo.
Izinto ezimbi kuphela eziza nokuqamba amanga - khumbula lokhu noma kunini lapho ukuqamba amanga kubonakala kuyisixazululo esilula kuzo zonke izinkinga zakho.
3. Ukwabelana ngemithwalo yemfanelo
Kunezinto eziningi kakhulu okufanele zenziwe endlini, ikakhulukazi lapho izingane, ngawo wonke amandla azo, zingaba ama-tornados amancane futhi zenze ukungcola kungakapheli nemizuzu nje ngemuva kokuchitha ihora elilodwa ukuhlanza indawo.
Esikhundleni sokudala ukungqubuzana endlini, ungafundisa izingane zakho ozithandayo ngomthwalo wemfanelo.
Lapho imisebenzi yehlukaniswa futhi wonke amalungu omndeni ehlonipha ingxenye yawo, ususa zonke izingxabano ezingaba khona.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, ungenza imisebenzi yasekhaya ibe mnandi ngokuyiguqula ibe ngumdlalo. Isibonelo, emsebenzini ngamunye, uthola inkanyezi egolide kuthi kuzinkanyezi zegolide ezingama-25, uthole umklomelo.
Isibopho sokufundisa kungaba umsebenzi onzima, kepha ngesisusa esifanele, ungaxazulula zonke izinkinga zakho.
Ngakho-ke, ukugwema konke ukungqubuzana ngoba indlu ihlale iwubudlabha, sebenzisa umuzwa wokuba nomthwalo empilweni yezingane zakho - okuzokwenza impilo yezingane zakho ibe lula kakhulu lapho ikhula, futhi lapho izingxabano zisusiwe, umndeni ungajabula kuphela.
Bukela le vidiyo kaClinical Psychologist uDkt.Paul Jenkins ekhuluma ngezindlela zokusiza izingane ukuthi zenze umthwalo wemfanelo futhi zifunde nokuthi zazi kanjani uma sezikulungele:
Kafushane
Umndeni uhlale ukulwela ngoba, kwesinye isikhathi, kungaba yikho konke onakho - abangane bangabesikhashana, umndeni wakho awunjalo. Ngakho-ke uma izinto zingahambi kahle muva nje emndenini wakho, sekuyisikhathi sokuthatha izinyathelo zokwakha impilo yomndeni ejabule kakhudlwana. Ngokunikeza isikhathi sekhwalithi komunye nomunye, ukuthembeka nokwabelana ngemithwalo yemfanelo, ungakwenza kalula lokho!