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- 1. Yenza isikhathi 'sekhwalithi yekhwalithi'
- 2. Gwema ukucindezeleka ngokwezimali
- 3. Funda ukwabelana ngakho konke
- 4. Ungavumeli noma ngubani omunye ukuba aphazamise umshado wakho
- 5. Hlela okulindelwe
Yonke imibhangqwana engamaKristu ihlangabezana nezinkinga nezinkinga njenganoma yimuphi omunye umbhangqwana oshadile. Yonke imishado idinga usizo oluncane kwesinye isikhathi kepha abaningi bakhetha ukuzama ukuxazulula izinkinga zabo bebodwa.
Kepha eminye imibhangqwana iyabona ukuthi ayinakukwenza yodwa ngakho-ke ifuna usizo kumeluleki wemishado.
Imishado eminingi isindisiwe ngosizo lokwelashwa komshado wamaKristu. Ngokuholwa ngumeluleki, imibhangqwana ithola ukwesekwa nolwazi oludingayo ukunqoba izingqinamba nezinkinga ezingenakukwazi ukuzixazulula ngokwazo.
Abeluleki bemishado abangamaKristu banezeluleko namasu amaningi awusizo angasiza ekuqiniseni noma imuphi umshado.
Nawa amathiphu amahlanu awusizo okwelapha umshado angasiza ekuthuthukiseni umshado wakho.
1. Yenza isikhathi 'sekhwalithi yekhwalithi'
Lapho imibhangqwana engamaKristu ingachithi isikhathi esanele ndawonye, ukukhulumisana kwayo kuba nzima.
Futhi lokhu kungaholela kwezinye izinkinga njengokuntuleka kokusondelana, ukungabaza, umona nezinye eziningi. Izinkinga eziningi zomshado zenzeka lapho oyedwa noma bobabili baba matasa kakhulu ukuba bangachitha isikhathi nomunye.
Akunandaba ukuthi kufanele wenze umsebenzi omningi kangakanani, qiniseka ukuthatha isikhathi sakho ngeviki ukuchitha isikhathi noshade naye. Kufanele njalo ube nalelo thuba lokuba wedwa, nisondelane, nigonane, niqabulane futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, nenze uthando njalo.
Futhi, kufanele njalo ube nesikhathi sokukhulumisana ngokuthi usuku lwenu luhambe kanjani, ngezinto enizizuzile kancane, ukukhungatheka kwenu nanoma yini eningathanda ukuhlanganyela yona.
Ngokusho kochwepheshe abangamaKristu abeluleka ngemishado, ukuchitha isikhathi ndawonye njalo kugcina ubuhlobo benu nomngane wakho womshado kuqinile futhi kukuqinisekisa nangomshado omude nojabulisayo.
2. Gwema ukucindezeleka ngokwezimali
Kujwayelekile ukuthi izithandani ziphikisane ngezinkinga zemali ngezikhathi ezithile. Kepha uma lokhu kwenzeka njalo futhi kuqala ukukudonsela kude komunye nomunye, khona-ke kufanele kushintshe okuthile esimweni sakho. Izifundo nocwaningo zikhombisa ukuthi izindaba zemali zingenye yezinkinga ezivamile zomshado.
Kulokhu, lo mbhangqwana ungadinga ukwelashwa komndeni womshado wamaKristu ukuze ubadlulise ngezinkinga zabo zemali. Ochwepheshe bathi ukuze bagweme ukucindezelwa ngokwezimali, imibhangqwana engamaKristu kufanele isebenzise kuphela lokho okusemandleni ayo.
Kufanele bazame konke okusemandleni abo ukuziqhelelanisa nokusetshenziswa kwemali okungenasidingo nokungena ezikweletini ezinkulu. Lapho uhlela isabelomali sakho, izidingo kufanele zihlale ziza kuqala ngaphambi kwezidingo.
Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, qiniseka ukuthi unokonga okuthile ngosuku lwemvula. Lapho ezezimali zihlelwe kahle futhi zilawulwa kahle, kuzoba nezimpikiswano ezimbalwa ngazo.
3. Funda ukwabelana ngakho konke
Kuphakama nezinkinga lapho imibhangqwana engamaKristu ikhohlwa ukuthi kufanele isebenze ngokubambisana hhayi ukulwa.
Ukwelashwa komshado kobuKristu kuzokwenza uqonde ukuthi uma usushadile, anisibo abantu ababili abahlukene, kepha iyunithi elilodwa okufanele lisebenzisane ukuze kuphumelele umshado.
Bobabili indoda nomfazi kufanele babelane ngakho konke abanakho. Ukuvumelana nokuzidela kufanele kwenziwe ukugcina ukuvumelana nokuthula ebudlelwaneni babo.
Uma ubhekene nezinkinga ekuvulekeni ngokweqiniso nomlingani wakho, ukwelashwa kwabashadikazi abangamaKristu kungasiza ukwenza lokho. Ukwabelana ngayo yonke into nanoma ubani, kungaba ngumlingani wakho, kukwenza uzizwe usengozini. Ukwelulekwa ngobuKristu ngobuhlobo kungakunika amandla okuthembeka ngokuphelele nokuvula inhliziyo yakho.
4. Ungavumeli noma ngubani omunye ukuba aphazamise umshado wakho
Lapho imibhangqwana eshadile engamaKristu ivumela abasekhweni labo kanye nemindeni yabo eyengeziwe ukuba bangenele ezindabeni zabo lapho-ke kungavela izinkinga eziningi. Lolu hlobo lokuphazamiseka lungenye yezingcindezi ezivamile zemibhangqwana emhlabeni wonke, ucwaningo lukhombisa.
Ungavumeli noma ngubani omunye ukuba aphazamise izinqumo wena nomlingani wakho okufanele nizenzele zona.
Ngisho umeluleki wakho uzokululeka ukuthi uzame ukuxazulula izinkinga zakho uwedwa.
UGenesise 2:24 uthi, "Kungakho-ke indoda ishiya uyise nonina, inamathele kumkayo, babe nyamanye."
Ngakho-ke uma udaba luthinta umshado wakho, ungalalela izeluleko zabanye abantu, kepha izwi lokugcina kufanele livele kuwe nakuzakwenu nodwa.
Uma kubonakala sengathi anikwazi ukuxazulula izinkinga zenu ninobabili, esikhundleni sokuphendukela kubasekhweni, funa ukwelulekwa kobuKristu kwabashadile.
Umeluleki uzokunikeza iseluleko sangempela semishado yamaKristu ngoba abanandaba nawe noma ubuhlobo bakho.
5. Hlela okulindelwe
Omunye umbulali wobudlelwano lapho othile emshadweni engajabule ngokuthi izinto zinjani. Ngokuqondiswa ngumeluleki wemishado, imibhangqwana engamaKristu izokwenziwa ukuba iqonde futhi ibone ukuthi okulindelwe emshadweni wabo ofanelekile kuyenzeka yini noma cha.
Uzokwenzelwa ukubona ngale kwalokho ongenakho futhi ufunde ukwazisa onakho. Indaba nje yokushintsha indlela ozibheka ngayo izinto.
Ukwelashwa komshado wamaKristu kuzokwenza uqonde ukuthi ayikho into efana nomlingani ophelele noma impilo ephelele yomshado. Kuzoba nemizabalazo njalo futhi kuyohlale kukhona ukushiyeka okuvela ezinhlangothini zombili.
Kepha uma ufunda ukubonga izibusiso ezincane ozithola nsuku zonke futhi uma uzogxila ezintweni ezinhle ezenzeka kuwo wonke umzuzu okuwo, uzobona ukuthi yizinto ezincane empilweni ezibaluleke ngempela.
Lesi ngesinye sezeluleko ezinhle kakhulu zomshado wamaKristu ezingeke zibe wusizo ebuhlotsheni bakho kuphela kepha nasempilweni yakho.
Abantu abaningi bayehluleka ukubona lokho abanakho ngoba bamatasa kakhulu bazikhathaza ngezinto ezingasho lutho. Kungakho ukwelulekwa kwabashadikazi abangamaKristu kuhlose ukukhumbuza imibhangqwana ngendlela impilo yayo engaba mnandi ngayo uma ivumela uthando lubuse emshadweni wayo.
Ngakho-ke sebenzisa lezi zeluleko zokweluleka ngemishado yamaKristu futhi ubuke zonke izinguquko ezinhle ezenzeka ebudlelwaneni bakho.