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- Kuyini ukuhlukaniswa okusemthethweni?
- Ukwehlukaniswa ngokomthetho vs isehlukaniso
- Izinzuzo zokwehlukana
- Ngikuthola kanjani ukwahlukana?
- Ukwehlukana ngokwengqondo
Lapho izinto seziqale ukuba matasa futhi ungasakwazi “ukulingana” nomlingani wakho oshadile manje, kufanele kuthathwe isinqumo esibuhlungu, ukuze kuzuze nina nobabili, futhi mhlawumbe nangenxa yezingane zakho: ukukhetha ukwehlukana.
Uma kukhulunywa ngokuhlukaniswa, kunezinhlobo eziningi laphaya, kepha sizobe sixoxa kule ndatshana okubili okuyinhloko, okuwukuthi, ukwahlukana ngokomthetho nokwehlukana ngokwengqondo.
Ungahle ucabange ukuthi yini umehluko phakathi kwehlukaniso nokuhlukana, futhi sizoxoxa ngakho kahle kule ndatshana, kodwa okokuqala ake sithole ngohlobo lokuqala nolo olusemthethweni lokwehlukana.
Kuyini ukuhlukaniswa okusemthethweni?
Isehlukaniso sizonqamula umshado, kanti ukwahlukana kwecala ngeke. Yize lokhu uhlobo lokwehlukana ngokomthetho akubandakanyi ukwehlukana emshadweni, izingqinamba wena noma oshade naye ongafuna ukubhekana nakho zihlala zinjalo noma kunjalo.
Ungathatha isinqumo sokugcinwa kwezingane nezikhathi zokuvakashelwa, izingqinamba zesondlo, kanye nokwesekwa kwengane.
Ukwehlukaniswa ngokomthetho vs isehlukaniso
Njengoba sishilo ekuqaleni, ukuhlukaniswa ngokomthetho akuyona into efanayo nesehlukaniso. Imvamisa, ukwahlukana, noma ukwehlukana komshado, livela lapho oyedwa noma bobabili abashadile benquma ukuthi bafuna ukwehlukanisa izimpahla zabo kanye nezimali.
Le yindlela ejwayelekile, ngoba ayidingi ukubandakanyeka kwenkantolo ukuhlangabezana nezidingo zakho. Konke kwenziwa ngokuzithandela, futhi lo mbhangqwana ungena Esivumelwaneni Sokwahlukana.
Uma noma yiziphi izivumelwano ezibhalwe emaphepheni wokwehlukana zephuliwe, omunye wabashadikazi angaya kwijaji futhi acele ukuliqinisa.
Izinzuzo zokwehlukana
Kwesinye isikhathi lapho izinto zingahambi ngendlela obekuhleliwe ngayo kufanele umemeze uthi “Isikhathi siphelile!” Akudingeki ukuthi uhlukanise, kepha ungazuza izinzuzo zako (ukukhuluma ngokusemthethweni) ngokuhlukaniswa. Mhlawumbe nobabili nifuna ukugcina izinzuzo zokushada.
Ukwehlukaniswa ngokomthetho vs isehlukaniso kuyindlela elula ongayenza lapho ucabanga ngezikhuthazo zentela noma ezinye izinkolelo zenkolo lokho kushayisana nokuhlukana emshadweni.
Ngikuthola kanjani ukwahlukana?
E-US, ezinye izinkantolo zivumela abashadile ukuthi bafake isicelo ngqo sokuhlukaniswa ngokomthetho, kuya ngesimo abahlala kuso.
Kubalulekile ukugcizelela ukuthi yize kukhona umehluko phakathi kokuhlukaniswa okusemthethweni nesehlukaniso, inqubo yokuthola intuthuko eyodwa icishe ifane nesehlukaniso.
Izizathu zokwehlukana komshado, ziningi kakhulu, ziyefana nezesehlukaniso. Uma ucabanga ngokwahlukana nokuhlukanisa ungahle ucabange ukuthi kunezinto ezahlukahlukene, kepha ukungahambelani, ukuphinga noma udlame lwasekhaya konke kuwela esigabeni esifanayo nezizathu zokwehlukana komshado.
Lo mbhangqwana ofuna ukwehlukaniswa ngokomthetho kuzofanele unikeze isivumelwano sawo kuzo zonke izindaba zomshado noma ucele iseluleko sejaji ngokwahlukana kwecala.
Ngemuva kokuthi konke sekuxoxiwe kwaxazululwa, inkantolo izomemezela ukuthi lezi zithandani zehlukene.
Ukwehlukana ngokwengqondo
Mhlawumbe awufuni ukudlula enkingeni yokuya enkantolo.
Mhlawumbe ufuna ukwehlukana kumyeni noma unkosikazi wakho, futhi naye ufuna lokho, kepha ezezimali azanele ukuvumela omunye wenu aphume aphele endlini.
Abanye abashade banquma ukuzimela bodwa, yize behlala endlini eyodwa. Lokhu kubizwa ngokuhlukana ngokwengqondo, futhi akudingi amaphepha wokwehlukana, isethi nje yemithetho yokwehlukana ekhona emshadweni.
Abashadikazi bakhetha ukungazinaki omunye nomunye futhi banqume zonke izinhlobo zokuxhumana ababekade benazo ngenkathi besashadile.
Lolu hlobo lokwehlukana nendoda noma unkosikazi lusebenza kumgomo wokuthi bobabili abalingani banika amandla ukuzazi kwabo ukuze bakwazi ukuzimela, noma nje ukuthatha ikhefu emshadweni kuze kube yilapho izingqinamba zabo sezisuliwe.
Sifunde ukuthi kuyini ukuhlukaniswa okusemthethweni, umehluko phakathi kokuhlukana ngokomthetho nesehlukaniso, nokuthi ukwahlukana ngokwengqondo kungabeka kanjani imithetho engenayo yokwehlukana emshadweni ngaphandle kwesidingo sanoma yimaphi amaphepha okwehlukanisa noma inkantolo.
Uma nobabili nibona ukuthi le kuyindlela engcono kakhulu yokukhetha isehlukaniso, khona-ke ngokungangabazeki kunjalo.