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- Injini "mina"
- I-narcissism elinye igama elifanele
- Ukuzithandisa ngokweqile
- Akukubi konke
- Qhubeka ukhulume, kodwa ngeke ngilalele
- Imithetho eyi-100 yakho ne-1 kimi
“Mina ngingumhlaba, futhi lo mhlaba yimi.”
Ngabe umugqa ukukhumbuza ngomuntu othile ngqo, noma wake waba ngumngani noma ubudlelwano nomuntu onomkhuba wokuziletha kukho konke? Othile, ongakwazi ukukhipha iqiniso lokuthi ‘bona’ bangabantu ababaluleke kakhulu emhlabeni nokuthi ngaphandle kwabo, umhlaba awunakubakhona.
Umuntu onjalo, yilokho esikubiza ngokuthi, 'umbalisi.'
Ungahle ungazi, ukuthi ukuba yi-narcissist akuyona into evele yenzeke, empeleni kuyinkinga yobuntu ebangelwa izizathu ezingaziwa, ngokungafani nezici zayo ezikhonjwe kahle. Ngakho-ke, ngubani ongu-narcissist, yiziphi izici ezihlukile kubo nokuthi yini ebenza bakhethe kabi njengabangane nabalingani?
Ake sixoxe ngalokho ngezansi:
Injini "mina"
Uke wezwa izitimela zihamba 'choo-choo'? Ngokuqinisekile, kufanele ube nayo.
Ngokufana nomsindo ophindaphindwayo odalwa izinjini zezitimela, okushiwo ngababhali bama-narcissism ukuthi: ‘Mina, Mina, Mina!
Lokhu kuqhubeka ngokuzulazula ukucasula isihogo kuwe; ungahle ungabezwa kahle bethi 'mina' 24/7 kodwa nakanjani yilokho abakuqala ukufanekisela kuzo zonke izimo lapho sebekhulile.
Konke abakwenzayo noma abakushoyo, noma abakucabangayo kunedeshi 'lami' kukho. Akukhona nje ukuthi bazikhazimulisa kuzo zonke izimo ezingaba khona; kwenziwa imizamo eminingi yokuzimemezela njengenkosi.
Bakwenza kanjani lokho?
Bayakugqilaza wena nabo bonke abanye abantu abangabathola, ukukhwabanisa kuyisikhali sabo futhi kwanelisa ukuzazisa kwabo, inhloso.
I-narcissism elinye igama elifanele
Unakho lokho, akunjalo?
I-narcissist umuntu ongakwazi ukubekezelela ukutshelwa ukuthi banephutha.
Noma yini abayishoyo, iyiqiniso neqiniso lokugcina. Akusizi ngalutho ukuphikisana nabo noma ngisho nokukholelwa kancane ukuthi ungabenza babone ukuthi banephutha entweni ethile. Bayesaba ukugxekwa futhi abakwazi ukuzwelana nabanye.
Injini ethi 'me' isebenza kuphela njalo ukukutshela ngokubaluleka kwabo nokuthi bangaphutha kanjani kunoma yini.
Ukuzithandisa ngokweqile
Sonke siyazi ukuthi ukuzithanda kubaluleke kangakanani ukuqinisa inhlalakahle yomuntu nengqondo nokuthi inkulu kangakanani indima, kuyidlala ekugcineni ukuzethemba nokugcina ama-intshi we-negativity kude.
Kepha, ingabe kwesinye isikhathi kungenziwa kuze kufike ezingeni lokuthi iba yingozi? Impendulo inguyebo.
Inani lokuzithanda elingajwayelekile lidudulela umuntu kude kude nokukwazi ukuzwelana noma ukuzwelana ngokufanayo, livimbela lowo muntu ukuthi akwazi ukwahlukanisa phakathi kokulungile nokungalungile futhi lidale ukuthi lowo muntu asebenzise abanye abantu ukuzenzela amandla abo.
Iresiphi yokubhujiswa, kanye nokushiywa kokuqaphela ukuthi inhlekelele yilokho okuholele kukho ngoba i-narcissist ayilokothi ibe nephutha.
Akukubi konke
Noma ngabe yini eyenziwa ngabakwa-narcissists, kungenzeka kungabi kubi konke empeleni.
Ukuze benze abantu babathande, bathambekele ekunikeleni ngobuningi bokukhohlisa abanye ukuthi bacabange ukuthi bangabantu abathandekayo kunabo bonke. Noma yini nakho konke abakwenzayo ukuthola indumiso.
Inhloso yabo ayinandaba, futhi bangahamba ibanga elide ukufakazela ukuthi bangumuntu onothando nonakekela kakhulu, owake waba khona. Konke lokhu, ukuzwa nje ukuthi baphumile kulomhlaba.
Qhubeka ukhulume, kodwa ngeke ngilalele
AbakwaNarcissist bazimisele ukukulalela, kuphela ukuthi kamuva ubone ukuthi empeleni bebengalaleli futhi kunalokho, empeleni bakha izitatimende emakhanda abo ukusho bona.
Ukukwazisa, ukuthi zibalulekile. Ukuthi umbono wabo ubaluleke kakhulu, ukuthi kufanele ubalalele noma bengakulaleli nokuthi kufanele ubancome noma ngabe nihlukile. Uma uhlukile, nguwe okungalungile, futhi bazoba nelungelo lokuthukuthela ngakho kamuva.
Futhi, uma kuqubuka impi, nguwe ngempela oyisigebengu hhayi labo ngoba uqagela ini? Abalokothi benze iphutha.
Imithetho eyi-100 yakho ne-1 kimi
Yonke imithetho, isebenza kuwo wonke umuntu ngaphandle kwabantu abaphila ngobudlwangudlwangu.
Wonke umuntu kufanele alandele amakhulu emithetho abayenzayo; kubo, awukho umthetho osebenzayo ngaphandle kowodwa, futhi lokho kulandela isiko elithi 'me'. Noma yini esebenza kuwe ayenzi kubo, ngakho-ke, awusoze wababuza noma wababonisa ukuthi banephutha.
Awukwazi ukuphikisana noma wenze iphuzu lakho njengoba yonke into iphela kubo bevukela futhi baphonsa ukulingana.
Indlela elula yokukhomba abantu abanjalo ukubona ukuthi umuntu wenza kaningi kangakanani njengoba ebuza le mibuzo elandelayo: Ungakulinga kanjani ukungabaza lokhu engikushoyo? Ungaba kanjani nesibindi, ungalandeli imithetho engiyimisile? Ungalokotha kanjani, uphike ukuthi ngiyilokho umhlaba ojikelezayo empeleni?
Uma uzizwa sengathi lezi yizo ezifika engqondweni yakho lapho useduze nomuntu othize, uke wahlangana nomqaphi.