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Ukwehlukaniswa kwesilingo kusho isivumelwano esingahlelekile phakathi kwakho nomunye wakho obalulekile esikhathini esichaziwe nobabili enizohlukanisela sona. Kunezinto eziningi ezibalulekile okufanele kuxoxwe ngazo phakathi kombhangqwana ozohlukanisa isahlulelo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, nina nobabili nesidingo senu esibalulekile senidingide futhi nibeke imingcele ngamunye wenu azobe elandela ukuhlukaniswa kwesivivinyo. Le mingcele ingabandakanya ukuthi ngubani ozogcina izingane, ukuhlela imihlangano nezingane, impahla iyohlukaniswa kanjani, niyoxhumana kangaki neminye imibuzo enjalo.
Ngemuva kokuhlukaniswa kwecala, umbhangqwana unganquma ukuthi uyafuna yini ukubuyisana noma ukuqeda umshado wabo ngezinqubo zomthetho zesehlukaniso. Ngesikhathi noma ngaphambi nje kokuthatha isinqumo ngokuhlukana kwesivivinyo, udinga ukwenza uhlu lokuhlola lokuhlukanisa. Lolu hlu lokuhlola luzobandakanya lokho okudingeka ukwenze ngesikhathi sokuhlukaniswa kwecala lakho, ukuthi izinto zizokwenzeka kanjani, ukuthi yiziphi izinqumo ezisheshayo okufanele zithathwe.
Uhlu lokuhlola lwesivivinyo lungahlukaniswa ngezigaba ezi-3. Lokhu kufaka phakathi:
Isigaba 1 - Idatha yokuqoqa
- Yabelana ngezinhlelo zakho nomngane osondelene oyedwa noma ababili noma umndeni wakho osondele. Lokhu kubalulekile ekuphepheni nasekusekelweni ngokomzwelo. Futhi, uma unquma ukuphuma endlini, uzohlala kuphi; nomngani noma nomndeni wakho noma uwedwa?
- Ngaphezu kwalokho, bhala lokho okulindele kulesi sinqumo sokwehlukana. Ngabe ucabanga ukuthi izinto zizolunga noma kuzophela ngesehlukaniso? Khumbula, nawe akufanele ulindele okuningi!
- Manje njengoba nizohlukaniswa, nizoyiphatha kanjani imali yenu? Ngabe umsebenzi wakho wamanje uzokwanela? Noma uma ungasebenzi, ungahle uthande ukucabanga ngokuthola umsebenzi.
- Ngesikhathi sokuhlukaniswa kwecala, imingcele ethile isethwe futhi omunye wemibuzo emingceleni yesivivinyo ukuthi impahla izohlukaniswa kanjani okubandakanya nokuhlukaniswa kwezinto zasendlini njengezitsha. Bhala phansi lezi zinto bese uhlola ukuthi yini oyodinga nokuthi yini ongayidingi.
- Futhi bona ukuthi yiziphi izinsizakalo ozisebenzisana nozakwenu futhi uma ufuna ukuzinqamula, njengamaphakeji we-Intanethi.
- Faka uhlu lwayo yonke imibhalo yakho yomshado nezincwadi zezezimali bese uzigcina kanye namakhophi azo. Ungahle ubadinge ngesikhathi esithile.
Isigaba 2: Ukuhlela izisekelo
- Uma uthathe isinqumo sokuyohlukanisa ngokwecala, yenza iskripthi sokuthi uzobe uthini komunye wakho obalulekile. Ungasebenzisi ithoni enokhahlo ngoba izomane zenze izinto zibe zimbi kakhulu. Esikhundleni salokho, khetha ithoni elula, emnene futhi ukhulume ngokukhululekile ngokuthi kungani nicabanga ukuthi nobabili kufanele nithathe ikhefu ukuze “nipholise” kancane.
- Yenza uhlu lokuthi yiziphi izici zomshado ezikwenze wajabula nokuthi konakelephi. Ingabe umthanda ngempela omunye umuntu futhi uyamkhathalela? Bhala zonke lezi zinto futhi ngesikhathi sokuhlukaniswa kwecala, cabanga ngokucophelela futhi uzihlole lezi zinto. Izosiza kakhulu.
- Ngesikhathi sokuxoxisana, cela omunye wakho obalulekile ukuthi balindele ukuthi umphumela walokhu kwehlukana ube yini nokuthi yini abakulindele ngokujwayelekile. Cabanga nalokho.
- Vula i-akhawunti yasebhange ehlukile bese uhlukanisa izimali zakho okwamanje. Lokhu kungaholela ekuthintaneni okuncane kanye nokuphikisana maqondana nezimali phakathi kwakho noshade naye ngesikhathi sokuhlukana.
Isigaba 3: Ukwazisa oshade naye
- Yazisa umlingani wakho ngesikhathi lapho ninobabili nodwa ekhaya. Khetha isikhathi esizolile. Hlala noshade naye nixoxe ngokwenzekayo nokuthi kungani nikhetha le ndlela. Xoxa ngokulindele kwakho.
- Ngokobabili, nobabili ningayokwelulekwa ngomshado. Lokhu kunganisiza nobabili nibone izinto ezintsha. Lapho ukhuluma izindaba komunye wakho obalulekile, yenza kanjalo ngobumnene. Isikripthi okungenzeka ubusilungiselele sikhombise oshade naye bese uxoxa ngaso nabo. Thatha okokufaka kwakho futhi.
- Okokugcina, khumbula iqiniso lokuthi ngemuva kokuthi nina nobabili senithathe isinqumo sokuyohlukana ngokulingwa, kuzofanele nihlukane njengoba ukuhlala endlini eyodwa ngokushesha kungalimaza ubudlelwano benu kakhulu kunalokho obukhona vele. Ukwehlukana ngokushesha kuhlanganisa nokuthi awungeni ezingxabanweni nasezimpini ezingadingekile ezingamane zinyakazise kakhulu ubudlelwano bakho esikhundleni sokubulungisa.
Ukusonga
Ngokuphelele, ukudala uhlu lokuhlola ngaphambi kokwehlukana phakathi kwakho nomunye wakho obalulekile kubalulekile. Kodwa-ke, khumbula iqiniso lokuthi lolu uhlu lokuhlola olujwayelekile ngesikhathi sokuhlukaniswa kwecala okulandelayo imibhangqwana. Akuyona leyo yonke imibhangqwana engayamukela, noma kungenzeka ingakusebenzeli wena nomunye wakho obalulekile.