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- Sitshale imali ngokomzwelo
- Asiyona imizwa yethu
- Ukwelashwa okulandisayo
- Nasi isibonelo esijwayelekile salokhu engikushoyo ngenkulumo elandisayo.
- Yiba nomdlandla
- Isimo esihle kakhulu
- Lesi yisikhathi esihle sokuvuleleka nomlingani wakho
Namuhla ngikhuluma ngezithandani nokuxhumana.
Abanye benu bangacabanga ukuthi la magama amabili ahambisana kahle futhi lokho kuyamangalisa wena nomlingani wakho!
Kodwa-ke, kwabaningi bethu lapho sizwa amagama athi "imibhangqwana" kanye "nokuxhumana" emshweni ofanayo sihleka kancane ngokubhuqa.
Sitshale imali ngokomzwelo
Ngenxa yokutshalwa kwemali esinakho kulolu hlobo lobudlelwano ukuxhumana nemizwa yethu kungaba ngumzabalazo wethu omkhulu.
Ebudlelwaneni bezothando, sivame ukutshala imali ngokomzwelo.
Sitshale imali kuze kube seqophelweni lokuthi siziveza ngokwethu ngokomzwelo kunokukhuluma ngempumelelo lokho esizizwayo.
Asiyona imizwa yethu
Uma wake wazibuza ukuthi kungani ungaziveza kahle emsebenzini, kepha hhayi nomlingani wakho noma amalungu omndeni ungabonga imizwa emidala yakhona ngalokho.
Njengoba sazi ukuthi ukucindezela imizwa yethu akunampilo futhi akulona iphutha lesikhathi eside, singakwazi kanjani ukuxhumana ngempumelelo nemizwa yethu, esikufunayo kanye nezidingo zethu lapho sitshale imali ngokwasemoyeni?
Ngifuna ukuhlanganyela isu nawe elingakususa ekuhlekeni okubhuqayo uye ekuzizweni yonke i-yin ne-yang ngalawa magama amabili.
Le yindlela yami engiyithandayo ikakhulukazi imibhangqwana enesidingo sokuthuthukisa amakhono okuxhumana nawokuxazulula izingxabano. Yilokho engithanda ukukubiza ngokuthi, "Inkulumo Elandisayo."
Singalihlukanisa leli gama kancane ukuqonda ukuqonda nomqondo osemuva kwalo.
Ukulandisa ukusetshenziswa kwamazwana abhaliwe noma akhulunywayo ukudlulisela indaba ezilalelini.
Kulokhu, ungazithatha njengomlandisi wendaba yakho kumlingani wakho, okubandakanya imicabango nemizwa yakho ehlobene nesihloko osesiseduze.
Ukwelashwa okulandisayo
Ukwelapha okulandisayo kuyindlela yokwelashwa ebheka abantu njengabahlukile ezinkingeni zabo. Ukubakhuthaza ukuthi baxoxe indaba yabo ngokulandelana ukuze bathole ibanga ukusuka "enkingeni".
Ukukhuluma ngokuncanyana kungakusiza ukuthi uziqhelelanise nodaba futhi ubuke izinto ngomqondo ovulekile nangaphansi ngokomzwelo.
Leli banga lizothuthukisa ikhono lakho lokuveza kahle imicabango nemizwa yakho ehlobene nodaba.
Noma kunini lapho ngisebenza nale nqubo ngihlala ngizwa izwi likaMorgan Freeman ekhanda lami.
Ngokuvamile ngincoma ukuthi nawe uzicabange ngezwi lombalisi. Lokhu kungathuthukisa ukungacabangi futhi kumnandi nje.
Ungaba nokukhetha kwakho kombalisi ofanele!
Ukuqhubekisela phambili lesi sinyathelo, lapho ngisebenza ukukhomba izinhloso ezibonakalayo zokuxhumana, ngivame ukuncoma ukuthi uzicabange wena nezinhloso zakho njenge-movie obhalela iskripthi sayo.
Bakhuluma kanjani abalingiswa? Bakuphi? Zigqokeni? Banobani, njll?
Ukuzikhipha esithombeni, ukubheka izinto kancane kancane kusisiza ukuthi singagcini ngokukhomba izidingo zethu nezidingo zethu kepha ukuveza ngempumelelo le micabango nemizwa yethu ehlobene nayo.
Nasi isibonelo esijwayelekile salokhu engikushoyo ngenkulumo elandisayo.
Masisebenzise umuzwa “Wentukuthelo” njengesibonelo.
Kodwa-ke, empeleni noma imuphi umuzwa ungabekwa endaweni yolaka ngezansi.
- Lapho uthukuthele, esikhundleni sokuzivumela ukuthi ube yimizwa futhi usabele ngokufutheka.
- Ungasho, "Ngizizwa ngithukuthele."
- Ngemuva kwalokho ungaqhubeka ukhombe futhi usho ngokuqondile ukuthi kwenzekani ozizwa ngale ndlela.
- Ungathatha lesi sinyathelo ngokuqhubeka nenkulumo egxile emigomweni nesisombululo ngokusho ukuthi ungathanda ukuthi ingxoxo ihambe kanjani nokuthi iyiphi inhloso yesixazululo noma isixazululo ongasithanda kule ngxoxo.
Lokhu kuvumela ingqikithi enkulu yengxoxo ukuthi iqhubeke, iphikisana nokuzivumela ukuthi ube umuzwa futhi uphendule ngolaka.
Yiba nomdlandla
Lapho usukwazi kangcono ukubona imizwa yakho, ungaqala ukubambezeleka lapho wenza lokhu.
Esikhundleni sokusho ukuthi uzizwa kanjani, ungabona ukuthi uzoqala kanjani ukuzizwa futhi ukuxhumanise lokho.
Isibonelo, uma usengxoxweni eshubile nomlingani wakho futhi ungabona ukuthi uqala ukuthukuthela. Ungasho into efana nokuthi, "Le ngxoxo isiqala ukufuthelana futhi Kungenzeka ukuthi ngizoqala ukuthukuthela."
Lapho-ke ngaphandle kokufinyelela ngokugcwele esigabeni sentukuthelo, ungaxoxa kangcono imicabango yakho ehlobene nesihloko osesiseduze.
Isimo esihle kakhulu
Le ndlela ivame ukusebenza kahle kakhulu lapho umbhangqwana usebenza ngokubambisana ekwelashweni kwezithandani. Ngaleyo ndlela umlingani ngamunye uyazi ngalokho okwenzekayo nenhloso.
Kodwa-ke, noma ukuxhumana nokuxabana phakathi kwezithandani kungaba enye yezinkinga eziyinhloko empilweni yomuntu lokhu akusho ukuthi ngaso sonke isikhathi kusho ukuthi abashadikazi beza ekwelulekeni.
Imvamisa ekwelulekeni ngazodwana, ikakhulukazi nomuntu osebudlelwaneni, ubunzima bokuxhumana nokuxazulula izingxabano ebudlelwaneni babo kungenye yezinkinga eziyinhloko.
Uma kunje futhi kuzosetshenziswa inkulumo elandisayo, kungasiza ukuthi lowo owelulekwayo akwazi ukuvuleleka nomlingani wakhe futhi ngokufanayo.
Ekwelulekeni, umuntu angasebenzela ekutheni angawachaza kanjani kangcono amakhono azowasebenzisela umlingani wakhe.
Ukuba nomlingani owaziyo ukuthi uya ekwelulekeni futhi uvulelekile ukukusiza ukuzijwayeza nokusebenzisa amakhono asebenzayo ukuthuthukisa ubudlelwano nakanjani isimo esihle kakhulu.
Lesi yisikhathi esihle sokuvuleleka nomlingani wakho
Thembeka mayelana nokuthi yiziphi izindawo ozidingayo njengamanje nokuthi yiziphi izinhloso zakho ngawe nobudlelwano bakho.
Kodwa-ke, ukuba nomlingani ngamunye avuleke futhi azimisele akuhlali kunjalo. Ngenkathi kungenzeka ukuthi usebenza ngokuzikhandla futhi uthuthukisa ubudlelwane bakho umlingani wakho kungenzeka angabi yikho.
Lokhu kungahle kube nesidingo sokwenza izinqumo ezithile. Izinketho zingafaka phakathi ukuyekethisa ozimisele ukukwenza nokukhetha nokukhetha izimpi zakho.
Ukwelashwa okulandisayo kungasiza nalokhu futhi. Kukusiza ukuthi uziqhelelanise futhi wandise ukubhekisisa kwakho kwesimo samanje.
Uma ngingaba nosizo lapha ku-Inherent Strength, ngicela ungangabazi ukufinyelela.
Ngihlale ngijabule ukuphendula ama-imeyili noma ukuhlela ukubonisana kwefoni mahhala mahhala.
Sonke sinamandla okufinyelela izinhloso zethu. Ngokubambisana ake sithuthukise amandla ethu okwenza lokhu!