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- 1. Yiba nombono oqondile
- 2. Jabulela imisebenzi yenoveli
- 3. Chithani isikhathi sekhwalithi ndawonye
- 4. Ukuveza Uthando
- 5. Khuluma kakhulu ngezinto ozithandayo
- 6. Funda ukulalela
Ukugcina ubuhlobo obunempilo kuyinto eyodwa. Futhi ukugcina ubudlelwane obunempilo isikhathi eside kungenye into. Eminye imibhangqwana ikholelwa ukuthi ukunganiki isikhala esingcono samahhafu kuyincazelo yobudlelwano obunempilo. Kodwa-ke, iningi labashadikazi likholelwa ukuthi kubalulekile ukunika enye indawo ukuze ibanike isikhathi sokuphuthelana. Manje ukwenza kanjani ngakho konke?
Nawa amanye amathiphu wokuthi ungabakha kanjani ubudlelwane obuhlala isikhathi eside.
1. Yiba nombono oqondile
Ukungabi namandla kungonakalisa yonke into enhle ekhona empilweni yakho. Kuyinto enobuthi esakazeka njengomlilo futhi idale umonakalo omkhulu. Ngakho-ke, kubalulekile ukuthi ugcine isimo sengqondo esihle ngengxenye yakho engcono.
Ungabenza kanjani ubuhlobo buhlale isikhathi eside?
Akufanele uvumele noma imiphi imicabango emibi ifiphalise ingqondo yakho. Futhi noma bekwenza, zama ukubasusa. Kufanele uhlale ucabanga ngengxenye yakho engcono ngendlela enhle. Ukuba nemicabango emihle ngomlingani wakho kusho ukuthi ugxila kukho konke okuhle hhayi okubi. Abantu abasebudlelwaneni obuhle bayakwazi ukukwenza lokhu ngokukhumbula okuhle hhayi izinto ezingathandeki ngakho. Lokhu kusiza ekuqiniseni isibopho.
2. Jabulela imisebenzi yenoveli
Yebo, kufanele nichithe isikhathi ndawonye. Abantu bathi okuphikisana kuyaheha. Ngokubona kwami lokho kuyiqiniso kuphela ngomazibuthe. Ungabenza kanjani ubudlelwano busebenze lapho kungekho lutho olufanayo phakathi kwabalingani? Akunjalo ngoba ebudlelwaneni abantu abanezintshisakalo ezifanayo nokuzilibazisa bavame ukuheha omunye nomunye.
Uma sengikushilo lokho, kuhlale kungumqondo omuhle ukuchitha isikhathi ndawonye. Futhi yenzani imisebenzi ndawonye. Ningenza imisebenzi ehlukahlukene lapho ninomunye nomunye.
Akusona isikhathi enisichitha nobabili kodwa uhlobo lwezinto enizenzayo lapho nindawonye.
Imibhangqwana echitha isikhathi ndawonye ukuzibandakanya emisebenzini emisha futhi eyinselele ijwayele ukuhlakulela uthando olwengeziwe ngomunye nomunye.
Isibonelo, uma uhamba ngokweqa i-bungee ndawonye okokuqala, lokhu kuzosiza ekuqiniseni isibopho sakho.
Ngakho-ke, zama ukuzibandakanya emisebenzini eyinselele ngangokunokwenzeka.
3. Chithani isikhathi sekhwalithi ndawonye
Isikhathi esichithwa ndawonye umbhangqwana akudingeki ngaso sonke isikhathi sibandakanye imisebenzi eyinselele, noma kunjalo. Umqondo ukuchitha isikhathi nomunye. Ungabenza kanjani ubudlelwano busebenze lapho ungafuni ukuzingela izinselelo eningazinqoba nobabili? Ungazibandakanya kwimisebenzi ejwayelekile njengokupenda igumbi elingaphansi ndawonye.
Lokhu kuzosiza ukuletha nobabili eduze komunye nomunye futhi. Imisebenzi enjengale iqinisa isibopho esingokomzwelo phakathi kwalabo abashadile. Ungabheka ezinye izinto njengokuthenga ezitolo, ukupheka nokulima ndawonye. Ukuhlanza indlu ngosizo lomunye nomunye akuzwakali njengenketho embi futhi. Yonke le misebenzi idala ukubopha imizwa phakathi kwabo bobabili.
4. Ukuveza Uthando
Ukwazi ukuthi uyasithanda isigamu sakho esingcono akwanele. Esinye sezeluleko ezibaluleke kakhulu ebudlelwaneni obujabulisayo nobungahlala njalo ukuthi njalo lapho kufanele ukhombise uthando.
Kufanele ukhombise uthando oluzwayo kumlingani wakho ngezindlela zomzimba.
Lokhu akudingeki kube ukuhlangana ngokocansi. Ukuzwa ukuzwa ukuzwa lapho umlingani wakho ekhona esikhaleni sakho somzimba kwanele ukugcina inhlansi. Kulula njengalokho.
5. Khuluma kakhulu ngezinto ozithandayo
Ukukhungatheka nokudinwa kuyingxenye yempilo yomuntu. Kepha lezi zimfanelo noma imizwa akufanele ibuthinte ubuhlobo bakho nganoma iyiphi indlela. Kufanele wazise omunye umuntu lokho okuthandayo noma okuthandayo ukukwenza. Uma kukhona isenzo esikwenzile uzizwe kahle, qiniseka ukuthi wazisa uhhafu wakho ongcono.
Uma kukhona okuthile ngomlingani wakho okuthandayo noma okuzondayo, kudlulisele kubo ngendlela ehloniphekile. Kufanele ukwazi ukukhuluma ngokuzwakalayo ngezinto ozithandayo (noma ongazithandi) nomlingani wakho.
Gcwalisanani. Futhi ngenkathi nenza kanjalo qinisekani ukuthi nobabili niyabonana emehlweni. Yizenzo ezincane zothando njengokuncamisana kobusuku obuhle obuthatha ubudlelwane obude.
Kodwa-ke, kungaba nzima kwabanye ukukhuluma ubuso nobuso noma kungenzeka ukuthi usebudlelwaneni obude. Uma kunjalo, sebenzisa insizakalo yezwi bese ukhuluma ngenhliziyo yakho ngocingo. Kusengcono kunokungakhulumi nakancane!
6. Funda ukulalela
Ukulalela kubaluleke kakhulu. Uma ukholwa ukuthi uzohlala ungaphumeleli ngokukhombisa ukuthi uqinisile, awunaphutha. Udinga ukulalela umlingani wakho uma ufuna ukugcina ubudlelwane obunempilo. Ukusolwa, ukugxekwa, nokuthukwa akwenzeki lutho ngaphandle kokuchitha ubuhlobo bakho. Uma ubona sengathi izingxoxo seziqala ukulwa, ungasheshi ukusabela. Lalelisisa futhi ngomoya ophansi. Ungasheshi ukuzivikela. Lokhu akusho ukuthi awuzivikeli nakancane. Kepha bona ukubaluleka kokulalela kuqala bese uphendula ngesikhathi esifanele.
Lolu uhlu lwezindlela eziningi ezilula zokwenza ubudlelwano bakho buhlale isikhathi eside ongazivumelanisa nobudlelwano bakho ukuze buhlale isikhathi eside. Ngiyethemba uzithola zilusizo ngokwanele ukulungisa izinkinga zakho zobudlelwano.