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- 1. Sebenzisa izitatimende "Mina"
- 2. Shiya okwedlule esikhathini esedlule
- 3. Qinisekisa imizwa yomunye nomunye
- 4. Naka ithoni yakho
- 5. Thatha isikhathi sakho
- 6. Yazi ukuthi kufanele uxolise nini
- 7. Khumbula ukuthi uyiqembu
Yonke imibhangqwana ayivumelani kwesinye isikhathi. Kuyingxenye yemvelo yokwabelana ngempilo yakho nomunye umuntu - ningabantu ngabanye abanemizwa yenu, ukwesaba, nezimbangela ezingokomzwelo, futhi kwesinye isikhathi ngeke nibonane.
Kepha ukungavumelani akudingeki ukuthi kukhombe impi enkulu, intukuthelo, noma ukuzizwa ungavunyelwe. Funda ukukhuluma nomunye ngenhlonipho futhi nizokwazi ukuxoxa nangezinkinga ezinameva kakhulu ngendlela evuthiwe futhi ekugcineni ewusizo. Qalisa ngokulandela lezi zeluleko eziphezulu.
1. Sebenzisa izitatimende "Mina"
Ukusebenzisa u- “Mina” esikhundleni sokuthi “wena” kuyikhono elibalulekile. Yisho ngokwesibonelo ufisa sengathi umlingani wakho angashayela uma bezofika sekwephuzile emsebenzini. “Ngiyakhathazeka uma ungafoni, futhi kungasiza ukwazi ukuthi kufanele ufike nini ekhaya” kuhluke kakhulu kokuthi “awukaze ungishayele ucingo noma ungazise ukuthi ukuphi!”
Izitatimende "Mina" zisho ukuthatha umthwalo wemizwa yakho nokuyazisa. Bavumela umlingani wakho ukuthi ezwe ukuthi uzizwa kanjani ukuze bakwazi ukukucabanga. Izitatimende "Wena" ngakolunye uhlangothi zenza umlingani wakho azizwe ehlaselwa futhi esolwa.
2. Shiya okwedlule esikhathini esedlule
Lesi cishe siyi-cliché manje - futhi ngesizathu esihle. Ukuveza okwedlule kuyindlela yomlilo eqinisekile yokuguqula noma yikuphi ukungavumelani kube yingozi futhi kushiye bobabili amaqembu bezondekile futhi belimele.
Noma ngabe yini eyenzeka phambilini, sekuphelile manje. Ukuyiveza futhi kuzokwenza umlingani wakho abe nomuzwa wokuthi noma yimaphi amaphutha edlule azobanjelwa phezu kwekhanda labo kuze kube phakade.
Esikhundleni salokho, gxila kulokho okwenzekayo njengamanje. Beka amandla akho ekuxazululeni ukungaboni ngaso linye kwakho ngendlela enempilo, futhi uma sekuxazululiwe, kuyekele.
3. Qinisekisa imizwa yomunye nomunye
Ukuzizwa ungazwakali kubuhlungu kunoma ngubani. Ukungavumelani okuningi kwenzeka ngoba elinye noma zombili izinhlangothi azizwa zizwakala, noma zinomuzwa wokuthi imizwa yazo azinendaba.
Zinike isikhathi sokulalela nokuqinisekisa imizwa yomunye nomunye. Uma umlingani wakho eza kuwe ngokukhathazeka, mnikeze impendulo esebenzayo ngezitatimende ezinjengokuthi “kuzwakala sengathi lokhu kukwenza uzizwe ukhathazekile, akunjalo?” noma “ngokwalokho engikuqondayo, lesi simo sikwenza uzizwe ukhathazekile ngokuzokwenzeka.”
Ukusebenzisa izitatimende ezinjengalezi kwenza umlingani wakho azi ukuthi uyaqonda, futhi uzwile imicabango kanye nokukhathazeka kwakhe.
4. Naka ithoni yakho
Kwesinye isikhathi ukungaboni ngaso linye akuyona into oyishoyo, yindlela osho ngayo. Uma ngabe ubenosuku olunzima emsebenzini noma izingane zikukhuphele odongeni, kulula ukubamba umlingani wakho.
Zama ukunaka ithoni yakho lapho ungakwazi. Vele kwesinye isikhathi omunye wenu uzoba nosuku olubi futhi akhulume ngaphambi kokucabanga, futhi kunjalo futhi. Mane ukwamukele bese utshela umlingani wakho ukuthi “Ngiyaxolisa ukuthi ngiphazamisekile” noma “Bekungafanele ngikuthathe ngesankahlu.”
5. Thatha isikhathi sakho
Ungesabi ukuthatha isikhathi uma ingxoxo ibukeka izokwanda ibe yinto ehlekisayo. Uma ulinda kuze kube yilapho omunye wenu esho okuthile ozozisola ngakho, sekwephuze kakhulu ukuba ungabuyela emuva futhi ungakakusho.
Esikhundleni salokho, vumanani omunye nomunye ukuthi ngesikhathi sokuxoxisana, omunye wenu angacela isikhathi esithile. Hamba uyophuza isiphuzo, uthathe uhambo olufushane, thatha umoya ojulile noma wenze okuthile ukukuphazamisa. Ningakhipha nesikhathi senu ndawonye futhi nivume ukuthi nizoxoxa ngodaba lwenu futhi lapho senikulungele nobabili.
Isikhathi sokuphuma sibeka wena nenhlalakahle yomlingani wakho ngaphezu kwesidingo sokuqeda impi.
6. Yazi ukuthi kufanele uxolise nini
Ukufunda ukuxolisa futhi kusho ukuthi kuyikhono elibalulekile kunoma yibuphi ubuhlobo.
Wonke umuntu uyawenza amaphutha kwesinye isikhathi. Mhlawumbe wenze ukucabanga okungalungile, noma awunawo wonke amaqiniso. Mhlawumbe umlingani wakho akaqondanga nje umbono wakho. Emshadweni, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuxazulula izinto ndawonye kunokuba kufanele.
Uma wenza iphutha, gwinya ukuziqhenya kwakho bese utshela umlingani wakho ukuthi uyaxolisa. Bazokuthokozela, futhi ubudlelwano bakho buzoba nempilo enhle ngoba ubheke ekwakheni amabhuloho esikhundleni sokuzuzana amaphuzu.
7. Khumbula ukuthi uyiqembu
Phakathi kwengxoxo kulula kakhulu ukubanjwa isifiso sakho sokwenza iphuzu. Kepha ungakhohlwa iqiniso lokuthi wena nozakwenu niyiqembu. Ukhethe ukwabelana ngempilo yakho futhi nivuleke futhi nibe sengozini komunye nomunye.
Khumbula ukuthi usohlangothini olufanayo. Yenza inhloso yakho eyabiwe yomshado ojabulisayo, ovumelanayo kanye nempilo enhle ndawonye ibaluleke ngaphezu kokulunga. Hlala ukhumbula leyo nhloso lapho uxoxa nomunye. Lona othandekayo wakho; khuluma nabo ngenhlonipho ebafanele futhi ubacele ukuthi benze okufanayo nakuwe.
Ukuxhumana okuhle kungukhiye ebudlelwaneni obunempilo. Sebenzisa lawa macebiso ukuze ufunde ukukhuluma ngokuhloniphana futhi nobabili nizosizakala ngokuzizwa nithandwa kakhulu, nizwakala futhi naziswa kakhulu.