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- Ukususa amabhlogo wangempela akugcina ekutholeni uthando olujulile
- Ukwakha ibhodi lombono elikhohlisayo bese liwela ogibeni lwalo
- Ukuza nezici ezivela ekubukweni kwenzalo yokuphila
- Ukuphuphuthekiswa ngumqondo wamanga othengiselwe thina
- Ukuvumela i-jadedness engena ngemuva kobudlelwano obuhlulekile
- Ukufunda ukukhipha okwedlule
- Ngabe uzimisele ukuziphonsela inselelo?
Kuyo yonke le minyaka, umkhuba wokubeka izithombe zalowo ongase ube ngumlingani wakho othandana naye osika omagazini ebhodini lokubuka sekuyinto ethandwa kakhulu emhlabeni wokukhula komuntu.
Kepha kuwugibe.
Ngokuhlala sigxile kakhulu ekukhangeni kozakwethu ongaba umlingani, singaphuthelwa yisikhathi esikhulu ekufundeni ukuthi singasikhethela kanjani umlingani osifanele.
Ukususa amabhlogo wangempela akugcina ekutholeni uthando olujulile
Eminyakeni engama-29 edlule, umbhali, umeluleki nomqeqeshi wezempilo othengisa phambili uDavid Essel ubelokhu esiza abantu ukususa amabhlokhi angempela, okubenza bangatholi uthando olujulile, futhi basekele izifiso zabo zohlobo lomuntu abafuna ukumthola usuku, hhayi uhlobo oluthile lokucabanga kwemilingo, oluyimfihlakalo, oluyiphupho, kodwa kunalokho ngeqiniso lokuthi hlobo luni lomuntu olungakulungela kakhulu?
Ngezansi, uDavid wabelana ngezindaba eziningana ngabantu abaningana abathola uthando olujulile ezindaweni ezingalindelekile.
"Eminyakeni eyi-12 eyedlule, umqondo wokukhetha izici zomzimba" womphefumulo wethu othembekile ", nokuthola izithombe ezihambisana nalezo zici seziyimfashini ezweni lezothando nokuthandana.
Kepha bambelela. Ingabe ngempela indlela engcono yokuhamba?
Noma ingabe igcwele amabhomu agqitshwayo, okuzosikhipha emikhondweni yethu uma kukhulunywa ngokuthola umlingani omuhle ongumdlalo omuhle kithina?
Ukwakha ibhodi lombono elikhohlisayo bese liwela ogibeni lwalo
Eminyakeni eminingi edlule, owesifazane wangikhetha ukuba ngibe ngumeluleki wakhe kanye nomqeqeshi wokuphila ngokumsiza ekutholeni indoda yamaphupho akhe.
Encwadini yethu yokuqala ethengiswa kakhulu kunazo zonke, "Ukucabanga okuhle akusoze kwashintsha impilo yakho, kodwa le ncwadi izokwenza!", Ngikhuluma yonke indaba kusukela ngomzuzu engena ehhovisi lami waze wathola uthando lwempilo yakhe.
Kepha lezo zikhathi ezimbili empilweni yakhe bezingeke zehlukaniswe kakhulu, futhi iqiniso lomlingani wakhe lamethusa impela.
Wayekwenzile konke lokho lezi zincwadi eziyimfihlakalo amtshela ukuthi akwenze, wenza ibhodi lokubuka, wayefuna indoda eyayingamamitha amabili ezinyawo, izinwele ezimhloshana, amehlo aluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka, enza okungenani u- $ 150,000 ngonyaka futhi ethanda ukumgeza intombi enezipho.
Angidlali, yilokho abekade egxile kukho cishe iminyaka emine ngaphambi kokuthi ngihlangane naye.
Ungichazile ukuthi usehambele imihlangano yokucobelelana ngolwazi eminingi yomphefumulo, wafunda zonke izincwadi zakamuva zokuthi ungamthola kanjani umuntu womphefumulo, futhi ubelokhu elandela le mikhuba yize ibingaphumeleli iminyaka eminingana.
Ukuza nezici ezivela ekubukweni kwenzalo yokuphila
Ngakho-ke ngamnika izivivinyo zokubhala, ukuze aqhamuke nezici ezivela ekubukeni okungokomzwelo, ukuxhumana, kanye nesithakazelo sempilo okungamfanela kahle naye uma kuqhathaniswa nezici zomzimba nezomnotho acabanga ukuthi wayezifuna umlingani.
Ngemuva kwamasonto ambalwa ngilandele iseluleko sami, futhi ngakha uhlu olubandakanya umuntu onethemba, ohlekisayo, ojabulayo, oqhutshwa, othembekile, oqotho nokuningi, ungene wathi akasafuni ukusebenzisana nami ngoba ufuna buyela "kumqondo wakhe omnandi wama-soulmate", futhi wayezothola umfana ophelele owayeyilokho abekade ekufuna: 6 izinyawo ezimbili, izinwele ezimhlophe, amehlo aluhlaza, nokuhola imali eyanele yokuthenga izipho zakhe njalo.
Kwenzeka into ehlekisayo esendleleni yokuthola isithandwa sakhe somphefumulo. Ngihlangane naye eminyakeni eminingana kamuva engqungqutheleni ebengikhuluma kuyo wangitshela ukuthi konke abekade ekwenza maqondana ne "vision board soulmate" yakhe, bekungakaze kwenzeke ngokoqobo.
Ngakho-ke wathi ngemuva kokuphuma ehhovisi lami ezinyangeni ezimbalwa kamuva, wabuyela ekulandeleni iseluleko sami, futhi wethuka lapho ethola ukuthi umyeni wakhe weminyaka emine uzoba mfushane, abe nempandla, hhayi ngobukhulu obukhulu kodwa wayehlekisa, ethembekile , othakazelisayo, okhulumisanayo, futhi mhlawumbe indoda ezinze kakhulu kunabo bonke ake wahlangana nabo empilweni yakhe.
Ukuphuphuthekiswa ngumqondo wamanga othengiselwe thina
Izikhathi eziningi ekufuneni kwethu uthando, siphuphuthekiswa izincwadi ezidayiswa kakhulu kanye nemihlangano yokufundisana yangempelasonto ezithi “ungaba nanoma yini oyifunayo, inqobo nje uma uzokwenzela isiqiniseko nebhodi lombono elifanele ukukulethela lona.”
Kuhlekisa. Yebo ngiyazi ukuthi kuyahlekisa, kepha abantu abaningi basalandela lo mbhedo.
Kuthiwani ngawe? Ngabe wake wazibona unomuntu owayekhubazekile ngokomzimba?
Ngabe wake wazibona unomuntu ongaphelele? Lokho bekungalingani nephrofayili yakho "yendoda noma yowesifazane" ekahle?
Ngenkathi ngiyobhala incwadi yami yakamuva ethi “Angel on a surfboard: a romantic romance novel that gives the keys to deep love“, angikaze ngicabange ukuthi kuleyo ncwadi lesihloko singaba yindikimba esemqoka.
Ukuvumela i-jadedness engena ngemuva kobudlelwano obuhlulekile
Umlingisi oholayo, umbhali uSandy Tavish, ugijimela endaweni enhle yasendlovukazi yasolwandle futhi baqala ukuba nengxoxo ejulile, nenogqozi mayelana nokuthi kusho ukuthini ukuba sothandweni, nokuthi kulula kanjani ukuba ne-jaded uma usuqedile ulinyazwe kanye noma kabili ebudlelwaneni.
Indlovukazi yangaphambilini ye-surf ahlangana nayo, uJenn, iqala ukusunduza uSandy maqondana nezinkolelo ngamadoda, futhi esikhathini esifushane uSandy angasho ukuthi udidekile kakhulu maqondana nobudlelwano bonke, futhi akathembi lutho indoda ahlangana nayo.
Ukuheha kwakhe ngokomzimba kuyabonakala impela, kepha uSandy maduze uzobona ukuthi unokukhubazeka okukhulu ngokomzimba, futhi ngenxa yokuthi amadoda amaningi esikhathini sakhe esedlule ayemshiyile ngenxa yalokhu kukhubazeka, wayesephatheke kabi ngendlela eyisimanga ngabesilisa emhlabeni wokuthandana.
Ukufunda ukukhipha okwedlule
USandy ngobuciko ubamholela endleleni ehlukile, indlela yokuvula ingqondo yakhe, nokuyeka indlela yakhe efiphele yokujola, lapho emtshela ukuthi uma engashintsha isimo sakhe sengqondo futhi akhulule okwedlule, uzoheha indoda uzomthanda ngayo yonke inhliziyo yakhe, ngaphandle kokukhubazeka kwakhe ngokomzimba.
Ingesinye sezahluko ezihamba phambili zencwadi, futhi esisodwa ngicabanga ukuthi sidinga ukukhuluma ngokuningi.
Lapho unaka kakhulu omagazini ne-Intanethi, kulapho ungancela kakhulu ku-vortex lapho umlingani wakho kufanele alingane nalesi sikhunta esihle, ngokwezimali, ngokomzimba, nangaphezulu futhi ekucabangeni kwethu okuncane, kungenzeka siphuthelwe umdlalo ofanele omile emnyango wethu wangaphambili.
Ngabe uzimisele ukuziphonsela inselelo?
Ngabe uzimisele ukuphonsela inselelo izinkolelo zakho mayelana nothando, nayo yonke le nto yomphefumulo?
Uma kunjalo, usendleleni yokuheha uzakwethu omangalisayo, yeka imicabango emnandi nokucabanga okufisa okuzungeze wonke lo mbhedo maqondana nokuheha umlingani ophelele ngemicabango yakho namabhodi wokubuka.
Esikhundleni salokho, ziphonsele inselelo yokushintsha, futhi ubuke umhlaba wakho ushintsha ngakuwe.