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- Ingabe ikhona iresiphi eyimfihlo yokuphumelela?
- Ubudlelwano uqobo buyinto ephambili
- Yakha ubudlelwano nekusasa
- Kujabulele
Wonke umuntu uphupha ngokuba nomuntu amthandayo kusenesikhathi esikoleni samabanga aphansi futhi ngesikhathi esisesikoleni esiphakeme, sesizwile izindaba ezanele, sabuka amanye ama-movie, noma sathandana nathi uqobo.
Obunye ubudlelwano bothando be-puppy buqhakaza buqhubeke isikhathi eside. Iningi ligcina njengolwazi lokufunda njengoba sihamba ngempilo. Kuyathakazelisa ukuthi yize kunesilinganiso esiphansi sokushaya, abantu bayaqhubeka nakho. Kukhona labo ababenokwanele, kepha ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, bathandana futhi.
Imbongi yama-Victorian u-Alfred Lord Tennyson ushaye isipikili ekhanda lapho enza umphefumulo wakhe waba ngcono "Tis better to be loved and lost than than never have loved at all" ngoba wonke umuntu ekugcineni uyakwenza.
Ngakho-ke kungani ubudlelwane obunye buhlala unomphela, kanti iningi lingahlali ngisho neminyaka emithathu?
Ingabe ikhona iresiphi eyimfihlo yokuphumelela?
Ngeshwa, ayikho. Uma kukhona into enjalo, ngeke ihlale iyimfihlo isikhathi eside, kepha kunezindlela zokwandisa isilinganiso sakho sokushaya. Ngaphandle kokukhetha ngokucophelela umlingani wakho, ukuhlela izinto eziza kuqala kusiza ekunqobeni izingqinamba.
Ngakho-ke yiziphi izinto ezintathu ezibaluleke kakhulu ebudlelwaneni? Lapha awekho kuhlelo oluthile.
Ubudlelwano uqobo buyinto ephambili
Isizukulwane esedlule, besinokuthile okubizwa ngokuthi “Ukulunywa kweminyaka eyisikhombisa. ” Yisikhathi esimaphakathi imibhangqwana eminingi ehlukana. Imininingwane yesimanjemanje inciphise ubude obujwayelekile bobudlelwano kusuka eminyakeni engu-6-8 kuye (engaphansi) kweminyaka engu-3 kuye kwengu-4.5.
Lokho kwehla okukhulu.
Basola imithombo yezokuxhumana ngokushintsha okukhulu kwezibalo, kepha imithombo yezokuxhumana yinto engaphili. Njengezibhamu, ngeke ibulale noma ubani ngaphandle kokuthi othile ayisebenzise.
Ubudlelwano yisidalwa esiphilayo esidinga ukondliwa, ukunakekelwa, nokuvikelwa. Njengengane, kudinga ukulinganisela okulungile kwesiyalo nokuthakazelisa ukuze kuvuthwe.
Masibe ocacile, suke ku-Facebook bese umanga umlingani wakho!
Iminyaka yedijithali isinikeze amathuluzi amaningi amahle wokuxhumana nabantu emhlabeni jikelele. Kushibhile, kulula, futhi kuyashesha. Kuyindida ukuthi futhi kudle isikhathi.
Abantu bahlala ngaphansi kophahla olulodwa ngoba bafuna ukuchitha isikhathi esiningi ndawonye, kepha njengoba isikhathi sihamba, sikhumbula abanye abantu ezimpilweni zethu futhi ekugcineni sifinyelele kubo. Ngakho-ke esikhundleni sokuba nozakwethu njengomuntu ovelele owabelana ngempilo yethu, manje sesikwenza nawo wonke umuntu, ngisho nabantu esingabazi, ngoba singakwazi.
Kungazwakala kuyinto enkulu, kepha isekhondi ngalinye olichitha uxoxa nabanye yisibili osichitha ukude nobudlelwano. Imizuzwana inqwabelana ibe yimizuzu, imizuzu kuya emahoreni, njalo njalo njalo njalo. Ekugcineni, kuzoba sengathi awukho ebuhlotsheni nhlobo.
Izinto ezimbi ziqala ukwenzeka ngemuva kwalokho.
Yakha ubudlelwano nekusasa
Akekho ofuna ukuzibophezela isikhathi eside kakhulu ezintweni ezingenangqondo. Kungakunika ukuhleka nokuzilibazisa okuhle, kepha ngeke sinikele impilo yethu kukho. Ubudlelwano ikakhulukazi umshado, buqhubeka nempilo njengesithandani. Imayelana nokuya ezindaweni, ukufeza izinhloso, nokukhulisa umndeni ndawonye.
Akukhona ukukhukhuleka okungapheli olwandle lwesihlabathi.
Yingakho kubalulekile ukuthi imibhangqwana ihambisane nezinhloso zayo. Bayayixoxa besathandana futhi ngethemba lokuthi izofika ndawo thile.
Ngakho-ke uma omunye umlingani efuna ukuya e-Afrika futhi achithe impilo yakhe enakekela izingane ezibulawa yindlala, kanti omunye ufuna ukuba ngumakhi wezakhiwo eNew York, kusobala ukuthi, umuntu kufanele alahle amaphupho akhe kungenjalo alikho ikusasa ndawonye. Kulula ukucabanga ukuthi amathuba obudlelwano obusebenzayo aphansi.
Ukwakha ikusasa ndawonye kungenye yezinto ezintathu eziseqhulwini ebudlelwaneni. Kudinga ukuba nokuthile okungaphezu kothando nje, ucansi, ne-rock n 'roll.
Kujabulele
Noma yini engamnandi kunzima ukuyenza isikhathi eside. Abantu ababekezelayo bangasinda emsebenzini oyisidina iminyaka, kepha ngeke bajabule.
Ngakho-ke ubudlelwano kufanele bube mnandi, isiqiniseko sokuthi ucansi lumnandi, kepha awukwazi ukuya ocansini ngaso sonke isikhathi, futhi noma ungakwenza, ngeke kube mnandi ngemuva kweminyaka embalwa.
Izinto eziseqhulwini emhlabeni jikelele ekugcineni zigcina zithathe izimpilo zabantu, ikakhulukazi uma kunezingane ezincane ezithintekayo. Kepha ukuzijabulisa okuzenzakalelayo luhlobo oluhle kakhulu lokuzilibazisa futhi izingane ngokwazo aziwona umthwalo, izingane kungakhathalekile ukuthi zingumthombo omkhulu kangakanani wenjabulo.
Ubumnandi buphansi futhi. Eminye imibhangqwana inakho ngokuhleba ngomakhelwane bayo kanti abanye badinga ukuya ezweni elikude ukuze bazijabulise.
Ubumnandi buhlukile enjabulweni. Ingenye yezakhi zayo ezibalulekile, kepha hhayi inhliziyo yayo. Akudingeki ukuthi ibize, izithandani ezinobudlelwano obuhlala isikhathi eside ziyakwazi ukuzijabulisa ngaphandle kokusebenzisa isenti.
Konke kusuka ekubukeni iNetflix, ukwenza imisebenzi yasekhaya, nokudlala nezingane kungaba mnandi uma une-chemistry elungile nomlingani wakho.
Lapho ubudlelwane besikhathi eside buba mnandi, kubuye kube yisicefe yingakho ubudlelwano budinga ukuba bube mnandi, bube nenjongo futhi bubekwe eqhulwini. Njengezinto eziningi kulo mhlaba, kudinga umzamo oqinile ukuze ukhule futhi uvuthwe.
Uma isikhulile, iba umsindo wangemuva. Okuthile okuhlala kukhona, futhi sikujwayele ukuthi singabe sisazihlupha ngokukusebenza. Kuyingxenye yethu yokuthi siyekelele imisebenzi yethu sidlule kokulindelekile futhi siduduzeke ngokuthi kuzohlala kukhona.
Ngalesi sikhathi, oyedwa noma bobabili abalingani baqala ukufuna okuthile okwengeziwe.
Izinto eziyiziphukuphuku zingena ezingqondweni zabo njengokuthi, “Ingabe yilokhu kuphela engikulindele empilweni yami?” nezinye izinto ezingenangqondo abantu abanesithukuthezi abacabanga ngazo. Isaga seBhayibheli sathi, "Ingqondo / izandla ezingasebenzi ziyindawo yokusebenzela kasathane." Kusebenza nakubudlelwano.
Okwamanje lapho umbhangqwana uzithela ngabandayo, yilapho imifantu iqala ukuvela khona.
Umzamo oqotho, nesandiso, uyadingeka ukugcina izinto zingasebenzi. Ngenxa yokuthi udeveli akahlanganise lutho nayo, kukuzithandani ukuthi zisebenzele ebudlelwaneni bazo zibenze buchume. Umhlaba uyajika futhi uma kwenzeka, izinto ziyashintsha, ungenzi lutho kusho ukuthi umhlaba unquma izinguquko zakho nobudlelwano bakho.
Ngakho-ke yiziphi izinto ezintathu ezibaluleke kakhulu ebudlelwaneni? Izinto ezibaluleke kakhulu ezintathu ezifanayo zanoma yiluphi uhlobo lwempumelelo. Umsebenzi onzima, gxila, futhi ujabule.