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- 1. Sebenzisa abasizi bakho
- 2. "Isikhathi Sami" silungele wonke umuntu
- 3. Dala igama lekhodi noma ibinzana
- 4. Yazisa umhleli wakho womshado
- 5. Thola ibhodi elizwakalayo (Ngaphandle kozakwenu)
- 6. Bhala ngokubonga kwakho
- 7. Qala ngegama elinomusa
- 8. Phumula, ulale, hhayi i-caffeine
- 9. Ungakhohlwa ezothando
- 10. Khumbula, empeleni usuku nje
Ukuhlala uhluzekile engqondweni futhi ujabule ngosuku lwakho lomshado akufanele kube yinto ekukhathazayo — ngemuva kwakho konke, lokhu kufanele kube ngolunye lwezinsuku ezijabulisa kakhulu empilweni yakho!
Kepha imizwa izobe iphakama kakhulu futhi ukugcina ingqondo yakho iba yinselele.
Injabulo, ukujabula, nokuthokoza konke kuhambisana nomcimbi okhethekile. Futhi akuyona nje engokwemvelo kuphela, kodwa futhi ngokweqile comon ukuzizwa ukhungathekile futhi ngikhathele yiyo yonke le ndaba, futhi into yokugcina noma ubani ayifunayo ngosuku lwabo lomshado umuzwa osondelayo wokukhathazeka noma ukwesaba.
Ngakho-ke yiziphi izinyathelo ongazithatha ukusiza ukunciphisa ukucindezeleka futhi uqinisekise usuku olujabulisayo? Ngena ngoba sihlanganise uhlu lwamathiphu okuhlala sane futhi sijabule ngosuku lwakho lomshado.
Buka futhi:
1. Sebenzisa abasizi bakho
Mhlawumbe ucabanga ukuthi uhlu lwakho lwezinto okufanele uzenze lukhulu kangangokuba abangane nomndeni bazokucasukela uma usuphelile umshado? Ngabe uzama ukwenza konke ngokwakho futhi usalwela ukuhlala uhluzekile futhi ujabule?
Empeleni, kungenzeka kakhulu ukuthi okuphambene ngqo kuyiqiniso! Ucwaningo lukhombisa ukuthi abantu basithanda kakhulu lapho sicela usizo. Nasi esinye iseluleko kumakoti ngosuku lomshado wakhe.
Qala ukukhipha lokho okufanele ukwenze-uhlu uma ufuna ukuhlala unengqondo futhi ujabule.
Uma uhlela umkhosi wendabuko, kungenzeka ukuthi usuvele uqoke incekukazi yakho (noma indoda) yodumo.
Kulindeleke ngokwesiko ukuthi lo mngani okhethekile uzophatha eminye yale mininingwane emangalisayo, athathe lezo zingcingo eziphikelelayo, noma aphendule imibuzo evela kuzivakashi zakho.
Isisebenzi esihloniphekile sivame ukucelwa ukuthi sibhale "i-killer toast" nokunye okuningi. Futhi yebo, i-toast yokwamukela ibaluleke kakhulu. Futhi kuyiqiniso ukuthi ukubhala konke kungadala ingcindezi enkulu futhi kuthathe isikhathi esihle kodwa nguwe ozoshada- impilo yakho yengqondo ibaluleke kakhulu.
Esinye sezeluleko zosuku lomshado olubushelelezi, kulungile ukucela usizo oluncane noma oluningi!
Cabanga ukusebenzisa uhlelo lokusebenza oluphefumulelwe nguKanban ukugcina leyo misebenzi ihlelekile, futhi ungakhawuleli abasizi bakho entombazaneni yakho noma endodeni ehloniphekile. Hlanganisa wonke umuntu obonakala enentshisekelo (kufaka phakathi umkhwekazi wakho!), Bese ubuke lapho iqembu lakho libhubhisa lokho okufanele kwenziwe!
Noma mhlawumbe uhlela indawo ongaya kuyo futhi awunabo abe khona? Yebo, yilokho abaxhumanisi bemishado abakhona, ukuze ukwazi ukuphumula futhi uzijabulise eholidini lakho. Futhi uma unemibuzo noma ukukhathazeka, ukuhlela okuhle komshado ngeke kunqikaze ukukukhulula.
2. "Isikhathi Sami" silungele wonke umuntu
Uma ufuna ngempela ukuhlala uhluzekile ngokomqondo futhi ujabule, ungesabi ukuthi “Linda.”
Hlela isikhathi sakho ngokwakho njengoba wenza ibhizinisi elibalulekile lomshado.
Elinye lamathiphu okusindisa ingqondo yakho ukuvimba imizuzu engama-20 noma amahora amaningi ngosuku lapho wazi ukuthi uzokhungatheka kakhulu. Futhi qiniseka ukuthi ugcine lokho kubonana nawe!
Kwesinye isikhathi "Mina Isikhathi" kumane kusho umzuzwana owodwa noma emibili yokuqoqa imicabango yakho. Noma ikhefu le-Starbucks lemizuzu engamashumi amabili. Noma ngisho nokuzitika ngokweqile kosuku lonke kweNetflix. Njalo umzuzwana wokuzinakekela kubalulekile!
Lapho ujabulile, wonke umuntu uyajabula! Wena (nomlingani wakho) nizoyithokozela indlela i- “Me Time” yakho ewuvuselela ngayo umoya wakho.
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3. Dala igama lekhodi noma ibinzana
Ngubani othi ama-codewords enzelwe izinhloli kuphela?
Ama-codecords ayindlela enhle yokugwema ukuhleba okungathandeki noma ukubheka eceleni kwesikhashana ngenkathi ugcina okuthile phansi. Mhlawumbe ujwayele ukukhathazeka emphakathini? Noma mhlawumbe unenkinga yokuba nabasekhweni lakho ngemuva kokuphuza iziphuzo ezimbalwa?
Ukwakha i-codeword kukunikeza amandla wokudonsela amehlo ngobuhlakani kulesi simo ngenkathi ukhombisa abasizi bakho abaqokiwe ukuthi usizo lwabo luyadingeka nge-ASAP.
Lapho umlingani wakho esecacile ukuthi "Ngidinga ikhefu lekhofi" kusho ukuthi usengcupheni yokuhlaselwa ukukhathazeka, bazokwazi ukugxumela esenzweni futhi benze noma yini okudingeka yenziwe ukuze bakunikeze isikhala.
Ngokunjalo, uma umuntu wakho ohloniphekile eqonda ukuthi "Izinyawo zami ziyangibulala" zihumusha ngokuthi "Ngisindise kumalokazana wami," bazokwazi kahle ukuthi bangaya nini kumama wakho omusha futhi bacele ukubona izithombe zeCorgi yakhe. –Ukukuvumela isikhathi esiningi sokushelela lapho ethwebula ifoni yakhe ngenjabulo.
4. Yazisa umhleli wakho womshado
Abaxhumanisi besayithi bagcina uhlu oluningiliziwe lwezinto eziza kuqala nokukhathazayo futhi bangochwepheshe ekubhekaneni nazo zonke izingibe ezibonakala zivela ezinsukwini zomshado Qiniseka ukugcina umhleli wakho womshado esesikhathini kuzo zonke izingqinamba ezingase zivele. Umhleli womshado onolwazi usiza ukuqinisekisa ukuthi usuku lwakho olukhulu luhamba ngokohlelo.
Ingabe kukhona amandla omndeni anzima? Ngabe umngani wakho akafuni ukuba seduze kwendoda engcono kakhulu ngenxa yobudlelwano obaba muncu eminyakeni edlule? Ngabe udadewenu uphikelela ngokuthi ingoma ayidlalwa ngoba “yingoma yakhe yomshado”? Umhleli wezobuchwepheshe uzokwenza inothi ngenkathi uqhubeka nokuhlala uhluzekile futhi ujabule.
5. Thola ibhodi elizwakalayo (Ngaphandle kozakwenu)
Kujwayelekile impela ukuthi uzizwe uphelelwe amandla nabantu obathandayo njengoba usuku lwakho olukhulu lusondela, futhi yize kuyimfuneko enkulu ukuxoxa ngezinkinga zangempela nomlingani wakho, akuwona umqondo omubi ukusindisa okuncane okuvulela izindlebe zomngane osondelene naye.
Thola umuntu omethembayo ngaphandle kwemibandela (empeleni umuntu ongenakho ukwethembeka okuqinile ohlangothini ngalunye lwephathi yakho yomshado) futhi buza ngqo ukuthi ungafinyelela yini lapho udinga ukuthola okuthile esifubeni sakho.
Ukuze uhlale uhlaziyekile futhi ujabulile, kwenze kube lula futhi uthembeke: “Ngikhathazekile ngomshado. Ngingakuthumelela imiyalezo noma ngikushayele ucingo ngezikhathi ezithile ukuze uveze umoya wami? ”
Ukubuza ngqo kuzokhombisa lo muntu ukuthi lo "ngumsebenzi wakhe." Bazobona ukuthi ubathemba ngale ndaba eyimfihlo, futhi uthembele kubo ukuthi balalele.
Ukuba namandla okuzixolela nokuthumela umyalezo wesikhalazo olandelwa izimpawu eziyishumi zokubabaza kungaba yi-cathartic enkulu. Ibizwa ngokuthi "ukukhipha" ngesizathu! Lapho usukhiphe lowo moya oshisayo, ungabuyela kunoma yini obuyenza ngekhanda elipholile nangombono omusha.
6. Bhala ngokubonga kwakho
Ukuze usebenzise ngokugcwele le thiphu ukuze uhlale uhlaziye futhi ujabule, zama ukubhala amagama athi “ngiyabonga” kulabo abaseduze nawe — uzobe unikeza ama-keepakes azobaluleka impilo yakho yonke. Futhi noma ngabe uthatha isinqumo sokuwabelana ngalezi zinto eziyigugu zokubonga, isenzo sokubonga sisiza ekunciphiseni ukudangala nokuvusa imizwa yenjabulo.
Izinto zihamba kabi noma abantu baziphatha ngendlela esifisa ngayo ngabe bebengenayo. Futhi yize kukuhle ukukhipha ibhodi lakho elizwakalayo, ukuthatha isikhashana ukucabanga ngabantu nezinto ozibongayo kungaba nomthelela ohlala njalo empilweni yakho yengqondo. Impilo imnandi, qala ukubhala ngayo!
Uzizwa unomoya wokubonga? Nayi eminye imiyalo yencwadi ekuqalisayo:
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Uma ungathanda ukulinda ezincwadini zomuntu siqu, cabanga ngokugcina incwadi yokubonga. Lezi zikhumbuzi zemfashini nakanjani ziyoba yindlalifa yomshado engenakubuyiselwa!
7. Qala ngegama elinomusa
Kepha kunethuba eliphezulu lokuthi abantu obhekene nabo banezinhloso ezinhle, bamane baziveza ngendlela engenamsebenzi. Yize lokho kungenjalo Ngezinye izikhathi izenzo ezibukeka zingacabangi noma ezingenanhlonipho zalabo abasizungezile zingadumaza kakhulu kangangokuthi konke esifuna ukukwenza ukubabhekisa kubo bese sibuza ukuthi, “Benicabangani?!”
kusho ukuthi ukuziphatha kweqiniso okungekuhle kufanele kuthethelelwe, ukuhola ngegama elinomusa kungasiza ekuvimbeleni noma yikuphi ukungaqondi kahle noma intukuthelo yesikhathi esizayo.
Ngakho-ke ngaphambi kokuba uphendule, phefumula bese uzibuze “Bakholelwa ukuthi bazama ukungisiza ngani?” Bese uzama le ndlela: Yithi ngiyabonga, chaza uhlangothi lwakho, nangaphambi kokuba baphendule bacele umusa osebenzisa amakhono abo ahlukile.
Nasi isibonelo saleli qhinga lisebenza:
Isimo: Ngesikhathi sokugqoka kwakho udadewenu ngokuthuka uthuka iveli lakho futhi akutshele ukuthi ususe.
Impendulo: "Ngiyabonga ngokungifunela okungcono kakhulu, kodwa ngiyayithanda impela leveli."
Okulandelayo, nika umsebenzi wokumazisa ukuthi ubonga amakhono akhe: “Ngingasebenzisa iso lakho ngempela kwezemfashini ngezicathulo zami, noma kunjalo. Ngingawuthola umbono wakho ngalaba bobabili? ”
Ukusho ukuthi “Ngiyabonga” kuyizindlela ezimbili. Uma umuntu okhuluma naye ngobuqotho enezinhloso ezinhle, lapho-ke ungagwema imizwa elimele bese uqhubeka ngaphandle kwesihibe.
Futhi uma kungenzeka ukuthi bafuna ukukwenza uthukuthele, okuholela kokuthi “Ngiyabonga ngokungifunela okuhle,” kukuvumela thatha umgwaqo ophakeme ngenkathi ubakhumbuza ukuthi okufanele bakubeke phambili ukusiza yenza usuku lwakho olukhethekile lube oluhle kakhulu kungaba njalo.
8. Phumula, ulale, hhayi i-caffeine
Leli thiphu lokuhlala unengqondo futhi ujabulile lifushane futhi liya ephuzwini: Lala ngokwanele!
Izidingo zokulala zawo wonke umuntu zehlukile, futhi uyazi ukuthi yini okusebenzela kangcono umzimba nengqondo yakho. Ngakho-ke faka ifoni yakho ku- “Ungaphazamisi,” cisha lezo zikrini eziluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka, bese ugaxa nomlingani wakho kusesekuseni kakhulu.
Akukona ukuphumula kobuhle kuphela, kubuye kube ukuphumula kwengqondo!
9. Ungakhohlwa ezothando
Ukulesi simo nomngane wakho omkhulu! Into enhle ngokushada ukwakha isibopho esiyohlala impilo yakho yonke.
Ngakho-ke ngenkathi uphupha ngokusika lelo khekhe, qiniseka ukuthi uphinde usike amahora ambalwa ukuze uthole omunye wakho obalulekile. Lokhu kungasho noma yini kusuka ohambweni olwandle olwandle, inothi lothando elisele esihlalweni somshayeli noma ngisho nokuyekethisa kosuku lomshado.
Ingabe ufuna iwayini esikhundleni se-champagne? Ngabe ukhetha wena ngombala oluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka navy esikhundleni sobumnyama bamaphakathi nobusuku? Kungani ungavumeli ushintsho? Ukuyekethisa kuyindlela elula nelula yokuthi “Ngiyakuthanda.”
Uma umshado wakho usebhishi, hlela ukuvakashela ogwini usuku olulodwa noma ezimbili ngaphambi kosuku olukhulu. Hamba ngesihlabathi nomlingani wakho, i-snorkel olwandle olucwebile, noma ulethe ikhofi elibandisiwe nabantu-bukela njengoba uphupha emcimbini okhethekile.
Noma upake i-PB & J bese uyahamba ngezinyawo ukuze ukhuphuke ehlathini. Akunandaba ukuthi wenza kanjani ngakho, ukuvusa uthando lwangaphambi komshado kuyindlela eqinisekile yomshado wakho ukuqala kahle!
10. Khumbula, empeleni usuku nje
Lokho kulula ukukusho kunokukwenza, kepha esikimini esikhulu sezinto, usuku lwakho lomshado ngempela ngolunye usuku. I-post-wedding blues yinto yangempela, futhi imizwa yokudumala noma ukungabi nalutho ingalandela uSuku Olukhulu uma umcimbi uphathwa njengendawo yokugcina hhayi ukuqala.
Njengoba usuku lusondela, zikhumbuze ukuthi umshado wakho umaka ukuqala kohambo lwakho njengabantu abashadile futhi (njengoba kusho isisho) uhambo olubalulekile! Gubheni ndawonye!
Uma unesikhathi sokuphumula, thatha isikhathi esithile ekuhleleni umshado nemininingwane ukhiphe usuku lwakho lokuqala njengombhangqwana oshadile!
I-jet ebeka i-honeymoon? Kuhle! INetflix nobhavu we-ayisikhilimu? Kungcono kakhulu! Uzosigubha kanjani isikhumbuzo sakho seviki elilodwa? Inyanga yakho?
Tshala enye injabulo yakho yokuthi "ngenza" ekuhleleni izinsuku ezizayo, zama ukuyigcina ilula futhi isondelene. Ngemuva kwesivunguvungu somshado, wena nomlingani wakho nizokuthokozela ukuba nokuthile okunokuthula eningakulindela!
Noma yini eyenzekayo, zama nje ukuhamba nokugeleza! Futhi uma kwenzeka uzwa sengathi kungaphezu kwamandla akho, unganqikazi ukufinyelela kumeluleki we-bonafide. Usuku lwakho lomshado lubalulekile ... kepha uyazi ukuthi yini ebaluleke kakhulu? Wena! Ngakho hlala uhluzekile engqondweni futhi ujabule.