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- 1. Nquma ukuthi yini ebalulekile futhi engabalulekile kuwe
- 2. Phuma endaweni yakho yokunethezeka
- 3. Zijwayeze ukwenqaba
- 4. Yehlisa okulindele
- 5. Prakthiza amakhono obudlelwano
Imvamisa ngisebenza namakhasimende ngifuna ukubambisana nothando abagcina befuna ukwazi ukuthi bangaba sebudlelwaneni kanjani.
Ubudlelwano buthatha umsebenzi, isikhathi, nokuzinikela, kepha sivame ukufuna isisombululo esisheshayo.
Sinemibuzo eminingi kakhulu maqondana nobudlelwano. “Yini okufanele uyenze ebudlelwaneni?” "Okungafanele ukwenze ebudlelwaneni." “Ngifuna ubuhlobo obunjani?” "Ngifunani ebudlelwaneni?"
Izimpendulo zemibuzo yethu yobudlelwano azilula njengoba imibuzo ibenza bazwakale!
Umqondo wokuthola uthando lwempilo yakho uthandeke kakhulu futhi wenza ezentengiselwano, iningi lethu alinakho ukuqonda okungokoqobo kokuthi ukungena ebudlelwaneni kusebenza kanjani.
Izindaba ezimnandi ukuthi, uma unelukuluku lokuthi ungaqala kanjani ubudlelwano, ukuthi ungathola kanjani ukuthi ufunani ebudlelwaneni, noma ukuthi ungamthola kanjani umaqondana, kunezinto ezithile ongazenza ukuze usethe impilo ezuzisayo nenempilo isipiliyoni.
1. Nquma ukuthi yini ebalulekile futhi engabalulekile kuwe
Uma ubuka ama-movie anele noma usebenzisa imithombo yezokuxhumana eyanele, ungakholelwa ukuthi izinto ezithile kufanele zibe khona kumlingani noma ebudlelwaneni.
Ucwaningo oluhlola imiphumela yezinkundla zokuxhumana ekubukeni kobudlelwano luphakamise ukuthi ukusetshenziswa kwamahlaya othando kwandisa ukuthambekela komuntu ekubeni nemibono ephuphayo ngobudlelwano.
Olunye ucwaningo luveze ukuthi ukuqhathanisa komphakathi, ukukhungatheka, nokudangala yimiphumela emibi yezinkundla zokuxhumana ebudlelwaneni bezothando.
Imizimba ephelele, amaholide amahle nezimoto ezibizayo zigcwele izikrini zethu futhi kusiholele ekukholweni ukuthi lezo zithako ziyadingeka ebudlelwaneni.
Iqiniso ukuthi, bangaba kodwa futhi akudingeki ukuthi babe njalo.
Ufanele unqume ukuthi yini engabalulekile kuwe ebudlelwaneni, noma ngabe abezindaba noma abanye abantu bangakutshela ini. Ubuye ushintshe umqondo wakho njengoba isikhathi sihamba!
Zama ukucabanga ngalokho okufunayo ebudlelwaneni nophathina njengamanje, bese uzibuze ukuthi kungani ukufuna.
Kwesinye isikhathi sicabanga ukuthi kukhona okubalulekile, kepha uma sizibuza ukuthi kungani ... asikwazi ukuza nalutho! Lokhu kuvivinya kungakusiza ufike empandeni yalokho okufunayo, ongakufuni, nokuthi kungani kubalulekile kuwe.
2. Phuma endaweni yakho yokunethezeka
“Angazi ukuthi ngizoba kanjani ebudlelwaneni!” Ngabe uke wacabanga ngalokhu muva nje? Uma kunjalo, ukwesaba okungaziwa kungenzeka kungena endleleni yakho yokuthola noma ukuqala ubudlelwano.
Kepha, ayikho indlela elungile yokuba sebudlelwaneni.
Ubudlelwano ngabunye buhlukile, ngoba abantu abakubo bahlukile, nabo. Esikhundleni sokukhathazeka ngokuthi ungabuthola kanjani ubuhlobo noma ukuthi ubudlelwano buqala kanjani, phuma lapho bese uzama!
Ukuphuma endaweni yakho yokunethezeka futhi uhlangane nabantu, ubuze okufunayo, futhi uthathe isinyathelo kuyindlela yokuthola izimpendulo zemibuzo yakho.
Uma ukhathazekile ngokuthi ungahle wenqatshwe, funda amathiphu okuphatha lowo mphumela ongaba khona (futhi mhlawumbe).
3. Zijwayeze ukwenqaba
Ukwenqatshwa kuyesabeka. Sizitshela zonke izinhlobo zezindaba zokuthi kungani omunye umuntu esenqaba, bese sizizwa sibi impela.
Iqiniso liwukuthi, izindaba eziningi esizitshela zona azilona iqiniso futhi azisekelwe ebufakazini bangempela.
Asivamisile ukubuza omunye umuntu ukuthi kungani esitshela ukuthi cha, noma usenqaba. Ngakho-ke, asiyitholi impendulo yangempela.
Esikhundleni salokho, singena ekucindezelekeni okungokomzwelo, sinqume ukuthi asibamnandi / sizacile / sihlakaniphile / siphumelele ngokwanele, futhi sifihle uthando.
Kuthiwani uma othile ethi akanandaba ngoba usanda kuphuma ebudlelwaneni noma kwenzeke isehlakalo esibuhlungu empilweni yakhe? Kuthiwani uma futhi bacabanga ukuthi abalungile ngokwanele futhi bagwema ukuzilimaza bona?
Asazi kaningi ukuthi omunye umuntu unezizathu ezizwakalayo okungenzeka ukuthi azihlangene nathi.
Ukuze ube ngcono ekusingatheni ukwenqatshwa, ungahle uzame ukusetha ukwenqatshwa ngamabomu. Lokhu kungazwakala kungasile, kepha ukuphela kwendlela yokunethezeka ngokuthile ukukwenza kaningi.
Buka le vidiyo ngezinsuku eziyi-100 zokwaliwa ezinye izindlela zokudala zokusebenzisa leli khono elibalulekile lempilo!
4. Yehlisa okulindele
Umphakathi, nezinkolelo zethu, kusisethele iwebhu eyindida yokulindela maqondana nobudlelwano nabalingani. Sikholelwa ukuthi ziningi izinto "okufanele" noma "okumele" zenzeke ukuthola uthando.
Ingxenye yokufunda ukuthi ungaba sebudlelwaneni yini ukubona lokho okulindelwe futhi ukuyeke.
Uma uqaphela ukuthi ujabulisa imibuzo nemicabango ephakamisa ukuthi ubudlelwano kufanele buhambe ngendlela ethile, bayiqaphele futhi uzibuze ukuthi kungani lokho kufanele kube yiqiniso?
Imibuzo efana nokuthi “kuthatha isikhathi esingakanani ukuthanda umuntu” ngokwesibonelo, ayinazo izimpendulo zangempela futhi yakha okulindelwe namazinga avame ukuletha ukudumala.
Ngisebenze namakhasimende athandana nezinsuku, kanti ezinye zithathe iminyaka. Abukho ubuhlobo obungcono noma obubi ukwedlula obunye. Zihluke ngokuphelele kodwa ziphilile ngokuphelele.
Esikhundleni sokugxila kokufanele kwenzeke, zama ukuletha wena manje kulokho okwenzekayo bese uqaphela ukuthi lokho kuzwakala kanjani esikhundleni salokho. Uma ujabulile lapho ukhona, vumela lokho kukuqondise lapho ufuna ukuba khona!
5. Prakthiza amakhono obudlelwano
Noma ngabe usebudlelwaneni noma cha, ukuba namakhono athile wobudlelwano ngaphansi kwebhande lakho kungakhuphula umuzwa wakho nempumelelo.
Ukwazi ukuthi ungaxhumana kanjani nomlingani wakho, ulalele, futhi uphikisane ngozwela yizithako ezibalulekile zobudlelwano obunempilo.
Nawa amakhono ambalwa abaluleke kakhulu okwakha ubudlelwano ongawafaka ekwakhiweni kwamathuluzi akho okuthi “ungaba kanjani ebudlelwaneni”:
- Ukuxhumana (Ukhuluma ngezinto lapho zivela, kufaka phakathi imizwa, ukwesaba nemicabango.)
- Ukulalela okusebenzayo (Ungalalela lokho okushiwo umlingani wakho, qaphela ulimi lomzimba wabo nethoni, futhi abalaleli kuphela ukuphendula ngemicabango yakho.)
- Ukuthatha umbono kanye nozwelo (Uthatha isinyathelo emuva bese uzama ukuqonda ukuthi omunye umuntu uzizwa kanjani noma ungavumelani nokuthi kungani bezizwa ngaleyo ndlela)
- Ilukuluku (Ubuza imibuzo ukuze ujulise ukuqonda kwakho esikhundleni sokuzama ukuthi umyalezo wakho uzwakale. Uzama ukungaphikisani, kodwa ukuze ubone kangcono ukuthi kungani umlingani wakho ezwa ngale ndlela abazizwa ngayo.)
- Ukuba sengozini (Uneqiniso, uthembekile futhi wabelana ngezinto noma ngabe kuzwakalisa ukwethuka. Lokhu kusiza ekwakheni ukwethembana)
- Ukuzithambisa (Ungakwazi ukusingatha imizwa yakho, futhi uzame ukungabeki imithwalo yakho engokomzwelo kumlingani wakho. Ubhekana nengcindezi nokukhathazeka kwakho futhi ungaceli umlingani wakho akwenzele.)