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- 1. Bobabili kumele bakhethe ukuhlobisa kwendlu
- 2. Phathani imali ndawonye
- 3. Ukuhlanza kuyingxenye yokuphila kwansuku zonke
- 4. Ukwabelana ngendlu yangasese
- 5. Funda ukwabelana isikhala
- 6. Umbhede omkhulu ngumbhede ongcono
- 7. Wonke umuntu udinga isikhathi sokuba yedwa
- 8. Nsuku zonke kuzoletha okutholakele
- 9. Ungahlala uthembele komunye nomunye
- 10. Ukubukeka okukodwa kuzokwanela
- 11. Manje “Mina” sengingu “we.”
- 12. Kufanele umzamo
Akungabazeki ukuthi unyaka okhetheke kakhulu empilweni yalezi zithandani, ngemuva kwakho konke ukuhlela, sekuyisikhathi sokujabulela impilo yababili. Kepha noma ngabe sekunesikhathi eside kangakanani imibhangqwana ihleli ndawonye, ezinye izinto zizotholakala kuphela onyakeni wokuqala womshado.
Ufuna ukwazi ukuthi kwenzekani ngonyaka wokuqala womshado nezinto ozifundayo onyakeni wokuqala womshado?
Noma ngabe abashadikazi sebeneminyaka bethandana, imikhuba eminingi noma imfashini izovela kuphela lapho behlala ngaphansi kophahla olulodwa. Inqubo yokuphila kwansuku zonke izohluka kusukela ohambweni lwangempelasonto lwesigaba sokuthandana, futhi amanye amasiko angabonwa kuphela lapho eqala ukuhlala ndawonye.
Imibhangqwana eminingi isivele ihlala ndawonye ngaphambi kokuthatha isinqumo sokushada, isivele yazana ngokwanele. Kepha abaningi badlula esikhathini sokuzivumelanisa ndawonye, futhi lokho kudinga ukubekezela, inhlonipho, nezingxoxo eziningi.
Babe nokuhlangenwe nakho okuningi lapho behlela ukusebenzisa umhlobiso womshado noma ukubhekana nokwehluka ekuchazeni ukuthi izimemo zomshado zizobukeka kanjani.
Ngakho-ke, ngaphandle kokuphatha izimbali ngezikhathi ezithile zomfazi, noma ukulungiselela isidlo esithandayo somyeni, bona kungadingeka ukuthi enze ushintsho lapho bebona izinto ezithile kulo nyaka wokuqala womshado.
Nazi izinto eziyi-12 ozifunda ngemuva komshado wakho ezingakusiza ekuzivumelaneni nempilo yomshado:
Buka futhi:
1. Bobabili kumele bakhethe ukuhlobisa kwendlu
Njengoba omunye wenu ebelungile ngokukhetha umhlobiso oluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka emshadweni; akusho ukuthi kufanele uqondise umhlobiso ngokwakho. Bobabili badinga ukufaka amandla abo emphefumulweni wendlu ukuze babe nobuso babo.
2. Phathani imali ndawonye
Uma bekungadingeki uphendule ngomholo wakho phambilini, manje sekufanele ubeke phambili izikweletu zasekhaya. Izindleko zomuntu siqu zibalulekile kepha zizohlala ngemuva. Ungahle ungakwazi ukuthenga ingubo yephathi engenisiwe njalo uma uthola isimemo njengoba ubujwayele ukwenza.
3. Ukuhlanza kuyingxenye yokuphila kwansuku zonke
Ngemuva kokuvula zonke izipho nokuhlela ikhaya elisha kuza okuncane okungajabulisi: ukuhlanza indlu. Uzohlukanisa kanjani imisebenzi?
Akunandaba noma ngabe awuthandi ukugeza izitsha noma unengekile ngokuhlanza indlu yangasese, udinga ukufunda ukuphatha indlu.
4. Ukwabelana ngendlu yangasese
Uma ujwayele ukuthatha amahora ukwenza izimonyo futhi uqondise izinwele zakho, khumbula ukuthi lokhu akumayelana nokuhlolwa kwekhanda lomshado elihle kakhulu phambi kwesibuko, yumyeni wethu naye udinga isikhathi esanele sokusebenzisa indlu yangasese.
5. Funda ukwabelana isikhala
Umdlalo othi "I adapt" uzoba yinto eqhubekayo ekhaya nasebudlelwaneni. Uzofunda ukunikezela kwezinye zobuhlanya zomunye nomunye futhi, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, uzothatha futhi wamukele ezinye izinto ezincane ezingasoze zashintsha.
Ukufunda ukwabelana ngesikhala kubalulekile ekuguqukeni ebudlelwaneni futhi uphile umshado ojabulisayo.
6. Umbhede omkhulu ngumbhede ongcono
Impela, ekuqaleni, konke kuyamangalisa lapho uhlala ufuna ukulala ugaxa ndawonye, kepha ngokuhamba kwesikhathi nobabili niyadinga indawo yokulala, futhi omunye wenu uthola ukuthi isikhala sakho silinganiselwe impela.
7. Wonke umuntu udinga isikhathi sokuba yedwa
Kungani imibhangqwana kufanele ibe nesikhathi sodwa?
Akukhona nje ukuthi ushadile futhi nihlala endaweni eyodwa lapho nidinga ukwenza konke ndawonye. Ukufunda ukuhloniphana isikhala somunye nomunye kubalulekile ukuze ungalahli ubukhulu bokuthi ungubani.
Umzuzwana wedwa wokufunda incwadi noma ukubukela uchungechunge ongawulandeli omunye, ukuzihlalela nabangane, kubalulekile futhi kufanele kubhekwe ngokukhululeka futhi okuhle kini nobabili.
8. Nsuku zonke kuzoletha okutholakele
Ngelinye ilanga uthola ukuthi umyeni wakho akasithandi lesi sidlo osithanda kakhulu, noma uthole ukuthi uklwebha isilevu lapho ekhathazeke kakhulu! Yebo, nsuku zonke kuzoba ukutholakala, futhi uzokwazi onke amandla ayo nobuthakathaka bayo. Ukunaka, uneso lakhe nakuwe!
9. Ungahlala uthembele komunye nomunye
Kuzo zombili izikhathi ezinhle nezimbi, uzothola ukuthi ukwangana okukodwa kuzokwanela ukwehlisa umoya. Nizosekelana kukho konke, nifunde ukuhlala ngokunqotshwa nokunqoba komunye nomunye, futhi lokho kuzokwenza ubuhlobo buqine kakhulu.
10. Ukubukeka okukodwa kuzokwanela
Kungenzeka ukuthi awuqondanga umzuzu lapho akubuka edidekile lapho usetha ikhekhe lomshado lesikwele, kepha kuzofika isikhathi lapho ungeke usasho lutho ngoba vele nazana kahle impela ngeke kudingeke ukuthi nikhulume okwamanje, ukubukeka okukodwa kuzokwanela.
11. Manje “Mina” sengingu “we.”
Lokhu akusho ukuthi amaphrojekthi womuntu kufanele akhohlwe. Kepha ukuze ubudlelwano busebenze, ngaphambi kokwenza isinqumo noma ukuhlela okuthile okungashintsha izimpilo zabo, kumele bacabange ngo “we”
Ukuphikisana ngokusobala ngezifiso nokulalela ukuthi omunye uthini kubalulekile ekuqiniseni ubudlelwano.
12. Kufanele umzamo
Uma ubheka emuva, uzobona ukuthi ukhule kangakanani kulowo nyaka wokuqala womshado. Umzamo wokuba nomhlobiso womshado bebefuna kakhulu futhi konke ukuzidela ukuthenga ifulethi bekufanele.
Yize kuyisikhathi sothando futhi ungeke uqiniseke njalo ngalokho ongakulindela onyakeni wokuqala womshado, khumbula nje ukuthi yisikhathi sokufunda okuphelele ukwazi imininingwane encane yomunye nomunye ukubenza bajabule nakakhulu.
Ngakho-ke isikhathi ngasinye lapho uzwa umculo wokungena komshado, inkumbulo yenjabulo enjalo izokhunjulwa.
Futhi noma nini lapho ubheka izithombe zokuqabulana kokuqala kwabantu abashadile noma i-toast ngaphansi kwekhekhe lomshado, uzoqiniseka ukuthi wenze kanjani ukukhetha okulungile. Ngemuva kwakho konke, njengoba isisho esidala sithi, "uthando lwakha kuphela."