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- 1. Ungalokothi uthi yebo lapho umkakho ekubuza ukuthi ubukeka ekhuluphele yini
- 2. Ungalokothi uqhathanise amakhono okupheka kamama wakho nawomkakho
- 3. Ungalokothi utshele umkakho ukuthi “yehlisa umoya” noma ukuthi “usabela ngokweqile”
- 4. Ungalokothi uvume ukuthi uthola noma yimuphi umngane wesifazane noma osebenza naye ekhanga
- 5. Ungalokothi usebenzise le mpikiswano- “Ngabe yileso sikhathi senyanga”
- 6. Ungalokothi usho noma yini kumkakho mayelana nokubelesela
- 7. Ungalokothi ukhulume lutho ngezintombi zakho zangaphambili
Owesifazane wayemi phambi kwesibuko. Ebheka isisu sakhe esivele sikhukhumale kancane, wathi kumyeni wakhe, “Sengikhulile kakhulu, ngizizwa ngiphansi kakhulu. Mhlawumbe ukuncoma kungenza ngizizwe ngingcono ”. Umyeni wakhe waphendula wathi, "Kahle kahle, ubona kahle!"
Ngalobo busuku umyeni walala kusofa.
Amadoda amaningi ashadile kufanele achithe ubusuku obuningi ngaphandle kwegumbi lawo lokulala kusofa. Futhi-ke bayazibuza ukuthi yini eyenze ukuthi amakhosikazi abo aphenduke abehlanya ngemizuzwana!
Abesilisa bathola ukuthi abesifazane bayinkimbinkimbi kakhulu futhi akukho lutho oluningi olungenziwa ngalokho. Akunakwenzeka ukuthi amadoda aqonde ukuthi abesifazane bacabangani. Kepha, okungenani bangalandela eminye imithetho eyisisekelo engabasiza ukuthi bagweme ukulwa nabesifazane babo.
Nazi izinto eziyi-7 amadoda okungafanele neze azisho kubafazi bawo-
1. Ungalokothi uthi yebo lapho umkakho ekubuza ukuthi ubukeka ekhuluphele yini
Unkosikazi: Ngibukeka ngikhuluphele?
Umyeni: Cha!
Impendulo ihlale ingu-NO!
Noma ezuze ama-oodle wesisindo,
Noma engakutshela ukuthi wethembeke,
Noma engakutshela ukuthi ngeke acasuke uma uthi yebo,
Ungalokothi uvume ukuthi ubukeka ekhuluphele!
Uma ekubuza lo mbuzo, kusho ukuthi uzizwa enokuzethemba okuncane futhi kufanele uzame ukukhulisa ukuzethemba kwakhe futhi umncome.
2. Ungalokothi uqhathanise amakhono okupheka kamama wakho nawomkakho
Wake wakhuluma into enjengalena kumkakho, “Sthandwa, ubhake amakhekhe amahle, acishe afane nawomama, noma i-lasagna imnandi, iresiphi kamama ibingcono kakhulu”? Iphutha elikhulu! Ungahle ucabange ukuthi uncoma umkakho, kepha esikhundleni salokho uyamhlanyisa.
Ungumkakho, hhayi unyoko. Akafuni ukuba ngumama wakho noma angaqhathaniswa naye. Ngakho-ke, noma nini lapho ekuphekela okuthile okuhle (noma akukuhle kangako), kwazise futhi ukujabulele, kepha ungazami ukumqhathanisa nonyoko.
3. Ungalokothi utshele umkakho ukuthi “yehlisa umoya” noma ukuthi “usabela ngokweqile”
Lapho umkakho ekucasukela ngokukhohlwa okuthile noma ukwenza okuthile okungahambi kahle, into embi kakhulu ongayenza ukumtshela ukuthi ehlise umoya noma umtshele ukuthi wenza ngokweqile. Ngeke ehlise umoya, uzodinwa kakhulu. Mane uxolise bese ulinda ukudlula kwesiphepho!
4. Ungalokothi uvume ukuthi uthola noma yimuphi umngane wesifazane noma osebenza naye ekhanga
Noma ngabe usuneminyaka emingaki ushade nonkosikazi wakho, ungalokothi uvume ukuthi uthola umngane wakho / osebenza naye / omjwayele ekhanga Ungase ucabange ukuthi ubudlelwano bakho sebudlulile esigabeni somona wezingane kodwa lokho akwenzeki neze into embi). Uma ungafuni ukubhekana nokuhlukunyezwa komkakho nokuphathwa buthule, kungcono uma ungavumi ukuthi uthola omunye wesifazane ohehayo.
5. Ungalokothi usebenzise le mpikiswano- “Ngabe yileso sikhathi senyanga”
Abesilisa bavame ukusebenzisa le nkulumo lapho bexabana nomlingani wabo. Lokhu kungazweli ukusho futhi kungasaphathwa kokuya ocansini ngokweqile. Unkosikazi wakho ungumuntu onengqondo futhi ngeke alwe nawe ngaphandle kokuthi wenze okuthile okungalungile.
6. Ungalokothi usho noma yini kumkakho mayelana nokubelesela
Akunasizathu sokukhononda ngokubelesela. Ubamba kuphela lapho ukhohlwa okuthile noma wenza okuthile okungalungile. Futhi ukukhononda ngokukhononda kwakhe ngeke kumenze ayeke, kuzomenza athukuthele kakhulu. Kungcono ukuvele wamukele iphutha lakho bese uzama ukulilungisa, ukuze angabe esakuhlupha.
7. Ungalokothi ukhulume lutho ngezintombi zakho zangaphambili
Kufanele ngabe ukhulume ngama-ex wakho ekuqaleni kobudlelwano bakho. Ngakho-ke ikati liphumile esikhwameni, kepha kungcono uma ungasazwani nalo. Zama ukungakhulumi ngezintombi zakho zangaphambili kumkakho. Ukukhuluma nge-ex yakho ngeke kumsize futhi ngeke kukusize. Uzomenza azizwe engavikelekile futhi ecasukile ngokukhuluma ngezintombi zakho zangaphambili.
Uma ugwema ukusho lezi zinto eziyi-7, uzoba nezingxabano ezingatheni nomkakho kanye nokuphila komshado okunokuthula.