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- Hlakaza inganekwane yokuba sothandweni
- Inani elikhulu labantu lihlala linamathele emshadweni omubi noma ngezindlela ezithile
- Ukungashadi akulingani nokungafaneleki
- Ingcindezi iyamangalisa ukuthandana nomuntu empilweni
- Isikhumbuzo esihlala njalo sokungashadi siphonsa abantu ku-tizzy
- Ukuzethemba okonakele nokuzethemba
- 1. Ukusebenza
- 2. Ukujabula
- 3. Ukuba nokuthula
- 4. Jabula futhi ube nokuthula ngenkathi ungashadile
- Kepha ukuba sothandweni akusona isiphetho sakho konke ukuphela
- Sebenzela ebhokisini. Ungabe usalandela isixuku
Sihlaselwa nsuku zonke, omagazini, izikhangiso zethelevishini, izingxoxo zomsakazo, ama-blog e-Intanethi. Injongo yangempela yokuphila ukuthola "umphefumulo" wakho futhi uphile ngokujabula njalo.
Kodwa ingabe lokhu kuyiqiniso? Noma ingabe iyinkulumo-ze, umkhiqizo wokwazi kwabantu okuholela abantu endleleni engafanele yokuphila?
Eminyakeni engama-28 edlule, umbhali, umeluleki nomqeqeshi wezempilo othengisa phambili kunabo bonke, uDavid Essel ubesiza ekuqedeni izinganekwane ngempilo, uthando kanye nenjongo yokuba khona kwethu.
Hlakaza inganekwane yokuba sothandweni
Ngezansi, uDavid ukhuluma ngamanga amakhulu kakhulu esike sawaphakelwa emphakathini namuhla, nokuthi ungayiphula kanjani inganekwane yokuba sothandweni.
“Kuze kwaba ngo-1996, endimeni yami njengomeluleki, umqeqeshi wempilo, isikhulumi samazwe omhlaba nombhali, ngangihamba umhlaba wonke ngikhuluma ngamandla othando ... Uthando lukaNkulunkulu ... Isizathu sokuba khona kwethu kumele kube ukuveza lolo thando nomuntu oyedwa omunye umuntu.
Futhi, uqagele, bengifile ngephutha.
Ngangithengile enkulumweni-ze, ukunyakaza kwabantu abaningi, okusifaka sonke kule vortex, kudala izinxushunxushu eziningi nomdlalo ongakholelwa kuwo.
Ini? Ingabe lokhu ukuhlambalaza?
Abantu abaningi lapho beqala ukungizwa nginikeza le nkulumo, bacabanga ukuthi kumele ngibe ngumsangano ngoba ngiveza ifilosofi eqonde ngqo yalokhu ozozibona, uzwe futhi ufunde kwabezindaba nezinhlelo zezinkulumo ezithandwayo namuhla.
Ngeshwa kwabaningi, ifilosofi yami ilungile ngo-100%.
Futhi ngikwazi kanjani lokho?
Inani elikhulu labantu lihlala linamathele emshadweni omubi noma ngezindlela ezithile
Bheka ubuhlanya ebudlelwaneni bothando namuhla. Imishado yokuqala, i-55% yayo izogcina ngesehlukaniso.
Imishado yesibili? Izibalo zimunca kakhulu. Ngokwezifundo ezithile, ama-75% abantu abasemishadweni yesibili bazohlukanisa.
Futhi kuthiwani ngamaphesenti amakhulu abantu abahlala benamathele ebudlelwaneni nasemishadweni eyesabekayo? Kungani bahlala?
Isizathu esikhulu kunazo zonke ukuthi besaba ukuba bodwa. Abafuni ukucosha futhi baqale phansi. Kungcono ukuba nomuntu embhedeni wakhe, noma ngabe abakwazi ukumelana, khona-ke ukuze ube wedwa.
Futhi yavelaphi lefilosofi?
Ukungashadi akulingani nokungafaneleki
Uyitholile. Abezindaba, amanoveli othando, izincwadi zokuzisiza nokuningi ... Obani abasiholela endleleni eya ekubhujisweni komuntu siqu ngokusitshela ukuthi uma singashadile kukhona okungahambi kahle ngathi.
Cishe eminyakeni emibili eyedlule umnumzane wangithinta ukuze ngenze izifundo zami “ukubambelela ekulawuleni umthetho”, ngemuva kokubona enye yamavidiyo ami ku-YouTube ekhuluma ngobuhlanya bengcindezi yokuba nothando.
Wayeluhlobo lomuntu, futhi kunezigidi zabantu abalandela le filosofi, ababengafuni ukuba bodwa.
Ungitshele ngesikhathi sokuqala kwakhe, ukuthi noma azi ukuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle ngendlela yakhe yokuphila, uzonda ukuba yedwa ngoLwesihlanu ebusuku.
Ngemuva kokusebenza isikhashana sindawonye, wathi kimi ngesikhathi esisodwa, “David, inhloso yokuba khona kwethu akukhona ukuthanda umuntu, futhi enye injongo yokuba khona kwethu ukungashadi futhi sibe sodwa?”
Futhi kunengqondo? Noma kunini lapho iphesenti elikhulu labantu lithenge kwifilosofi, silindele nje ukuthi kufanele ilungile.
Kepha sonke asilungile uma sikholwa ukuthi inhloso yalobu bukhona ukuthi "sithandane."
Futhi kungani kunjalo?
Ingcindezi iyamangalisa ukuthandana nomuntu empilweni
Ingcindezi iyaqhubeka nokugcina abantu begxuma besuka embhedeni owodwa beya kolandelayo, ubudlelwane obulandelayo buya kolunye, besaba ngokuphelele ukuba bodwa empilweni.
Ifilosofi enhle kakhulu uma ungibuza, futhi umphumela wokugcina ufakazela ukuthi ngiqinisile.
Isikhumbuzo esihlala njalo sokungashadi siphonsa abantu ku-tizzy
Uma ungashadile njengamanje, ingabe abangane bakho bavame ukuphawula kuwe “wena ungowokudotshwa kakhulu emhlabeni, ungashada kanjani?”
Lolo hlobo lwengcindezi, ikakhulukazi ngabesifazane, lubaphonsa kwi-tizzy futhi uma beyizwa ngokwanele bazobamba umfana olandelayo ohamba ngomgwaqo bangene ebudlelwaneni nabo, obuzohluleka, njengabo bonke okwedlule ubudlelwane.
Ukuzethemba okonakele nokuzethemba
Lapho uthwala ingcindezi, yangaphakathi, emqondweni ongazi lutho, Ngaphandle emqondweni owaziyo, ukuthi injongo yokuba khona kwakho ukuthola umphefumulo wakho futhi ube nabo, uma ungekho ebudlelwaneni obunothando obunempilo, abantu abaningi bazizwa lapho kukhona okungahambi kahle ngabo.
Baqala ukungazethembi ngokwengeziwe. Bazoqala ukuncika kakhulu ekudleni njengomthombo wenduduzo wokunciphisa imizwa yabo, noma utshwala, noma i-nicotine, noma ithelevishini ...Noma ukugembula. Kuyadabukisa.
Manje, ungangizwa kabi, ngicabanga ukuthi ezothando, nothando, nezocansi nakho konke okuhambisana "nobudlelwano bothando obunempilo", kubaluleke kakhulu empilweni, kepha akuyona injongo yokuba khona kwethu.
Yini injongo yokuba khona?
1. Ukusebenza
Ukusiza abanye. Ukwenza umehluko omuhle kulo mhlaba. Ukushiya inhlebo nokwahlulela ngemuva.
2. Ukujabula
Manje cabanga ngalokho, ngikholwa ukuthi injongo yesibili yokuba khona kwakho ukujabula.
Uma ucindezelekile ngokungashadi, noma uma ukwenye ubudlelwane obuhlanya, mina nawe siyazi ukuthi ayikho indlela ongajabula ngayo. Futhi uma ungajabuli? Izingane zakho ziyahlupheka, futhi noma ngubani onesihogo onaye njengamanje naye uyahlupheka.
3. Ukuba nokuthula
Ngitshela wonke amaklayenti ami angashadile akhononda ngohlobo oluthile lobudlelwano bothando, abalangazelela ukuthola abalingani babo bomphefumulo, ukuthi uma uletha lolo hlobo lwentshisekelo emhlabeni wokuqola uzoheha umuntu osangene njengaye njengoba unjalo.
Bayoba ngokuphelelwa yithemba. Bazoba nesizungu ngoLwesihlanu ebusuku befuna noma ngubani ozovala isikhala. Futhi uzobuyela ku-roller coaster yobudlelwano obunamahloni ngemuva kobunye.
Lokho akukhona ukuthula nhlobo.
4. Jabula futhi ube nokuthula ngenkathi ungashadile
Ngiyakhuthaza njengoba ufunda le ndatshana ukufaka leli phuzu lokugcina enhliziyweni yakho: uma ungakwazi ukuthola injabulo emangalisayo ngokusebenzela abanye, ukujabula nokuba nokuthula ngenkathi ungashadile, awusoze waheha umuntu onempilo ukuba abe ubuhlobo no. Ungalokothi.
Abantu abahluphekayo, abantu abangazethembi baheha abalawuli noma abanye abantu abaswele nabangazethembi. Iresiphi yenhlekelele.
Ngakho-ke iseluleko sami kumakhasimende ami nakuwe ofunda le ndatshana ukuthi usebenze imbongolo yakho ukuze uthole ukuthula kwangaphakathi uma ungashadile.
Uma usebudlelwaneni obuhlukumeza ngokomzwelo noma ngokomzimba, noma usebudlelwaneni nomuntu onomlutha futhi ngeke bakunakekele, phuma esihogweni njengamanje.
Futhi khumbula engikushilo ngenhla, mayelana nenjongo yangempela yokuphila. Ukuze ube wenkonzo. Ukujabula. Ukugcwaliswa ngokuthula.
Lapho ukwazi kahle lowo ongashadile, usendleleni yokuthola isizathu sesine sokuba khona kwakho: ukuba sothandweni.
Kepha ukuba sothandweni akusona isiphetho sakho konke ukuphela
Bheka abantu abanjengoMama Teresa, uJesu Kristu, uBuddha futhi uhlu luyaqhubeka. Abantu abebengashadi, hhayi ebudlelwaneni bothando, kepha abenze umehluko omkhulu ezimpilweni zabo nasemhlabeni ngokuzinikela kwabo ekusebenzeni, enjabulweni nasekuthuleni kwangaphakathi.
Ungakha ubudlelwano bothando obungakholeki ngokusebenzisana nezinhlangano ukusiza izingane ezikhuliswa ngabazali, izingane ezinganakiwe, izilwane ezihlukunyezwayo, izilwane ezinganakiwe, abantu abadala abanganakiwe, abantu abaphikisiwe ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo.
Uthando luza ngezindlela eziningi nangobukhulu obukhulu, akudingeki ukuthi lube “umphefumulo womoya omangalisayo ozokwenza impilo yakho ilunge.”
Sebenzela ebhokisini. Ungabe usalandela isixuku
Ngokuzayo lapho ubona incwadi ekhuluma ngenhloso yokuba khona kwethu ukuthandana nomunye umuntu, yiphonse esihogweni semoto yakho.
Ngiyazi ukuthi kubizwa ngokulahla udoti, kepha mhlawumbe yilokho okudingekayo ukuze kubhidlizwe ukwazi kwabantu abaningi, okuhambisana "nokulandela umholi", "noma ngabe ngubani lowo mholi," lokho bekusenza sicabange ukuthi asanele okwethu.
Ukuthi kukhona okushodayo uma singashadile, ukuthi kukhona okushodayo uma singenabo ubudlelwane obujulile bothando.
Futhi uyazi ukuthi yini okulahlekile ngempela lapho ungakwazi ukuthola ukuthi ungajabula kanjani uwedwa? Injongo yokuphila kwakho. "