-Delile
- Izinkinga zemali
- Ukungabekezelelani
- Ukulindela okungenangqondo
- Ukungabi nozwela
- Ukuthatha kancane
- Ukungabi nokusondelana
Ngabe uzizwa ucindezelekile ukuthi umshado wakho awusebenzi? Ingabe uyazibuza kungani umshado unzima kangaka? Futhi yini eyenza umshado ube nzima?
Awujabuli yini ukuthi ubudlelwane bakho nomlingani wakho buzizwa bunobutha futhi bunolaka?
Inkinga ngemishado yanamuhla ukuthi seyiyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu. Imibhangqwana eminingi ibonakala ikulungele ukulwa nabalingani bayo kunokuthatha imizamo yokwenza umshado wabo usebenze.
Akumangalisi ukuthi kungani imishado yanamuhla inzima, futhi isehlukaniso siya ngokuya siba sikhulu.
Ngabe konke lokhu kusho ukuthi imishado yezinsuku zakudala beyinenkinga encane futhi ibisebenza kangcono?
Ngandlela-thile, yebo. Thatha udaba lwami, ngokwesibonelo. Ngineminyaka engu-18 ngishadile, futhi isehlukaniso asikaze singene emicabangweni yethu nakanye.
Yiqiniso, mina nomyeni wami sasinezingxabano ezithile, kodwa emshadweni wethu kwakungekho ntukuthelo. Izimpi azikaze zithathe isikhathi esingaphezu kosuku, futhi sisebenze kanzima ukwenza ubuhlobo bethu bube mnandi nothando, ukunakekelwa nokunakwa.
Ngakho-ke kungani i-a umshado emphakathini wanamuhla ube njalo futhi?
Ubudlelwano obuningi abukho ukubekezelelana nokuhambisana kulezi zinsuku, okwenza umshado ube nzima kakhulu.
Nazi izinto okufanele uzikhumbule phakathi neminyaka enzima kakhulu yomshado.
Izinkinga zemali
Ngokocwaningo lweMoney Magazine, imibhangqwana ilwa ngemali ephindwe kabili kunaleyo eyilwa ngocansi. Imali ibeka ubunzima obukhulu ebudlelwaneni.
Kubalulekile ukuqonda imicabango yemali yomlingani wakho - ingabe bayisebenzisa noma bayonga? Kuyasiza futhi ukuvumelanisa nowakwakho ukuqinisekisa ukuthi okulindelwe kwezezimali nezinto eziza kuqala kuyefana.
Khumbula iqiniso lokuthi awusoze wagcina izimfihlo zezimali kumlingani wakho. Hlela izimali zakho, qiniseka ukuthi uyazi ukuthi uhola malini nokuthi kungakanani okusetshenziswayo.
Iba nezingxoxo ezithembekile ngezinto ezihlobene nezindleko zanyanga zonke nezabelomali.
Buka okulindele, futhi uma uzwa ukuthi udinga usizo ekuphatheni izindaba zemali, khona-ke funa 'ukwelashwa kwezezimali' insimu ekhulayo ezinikele ngokukhethekile ekusizeni abashadayo ukuthi bahambe enkingeni yezezimali.
Ukwelashwa kungakusiza ukuthi nenze uhlelo lwezezimali olusebenzelayo nobabili futhi luqinisekise ikusasa eliphephile ngokwezezimali emshadweni wenu.
Ukungabekezelelani
Ukungabekezelelani kuyisici esivamile emishadweni eminingi yanamuhla. Amaphutha amancane ayakhuliswa futhi enziwa into enkulu.
Ukubekezelelana yikho okwenza umshado ujabulise. Ikhono lakho lokwazisa, ukuhlonipha nokwamukela amaphutha owakwenu yilokho okuqinisa uthando phakathi kwakho noshade naye.
Kubalulekile ukuthi uvulele umqondo wokulungisa izinto uma ufuna umshado wakho usebenze - futhi lokhu kufanele kwenziwe yibo bobabili abalingani.
Ukukhulisa umshado wakho ngokunakekelwa okuningi, uthando nokubekezela kungalungisa ukuphendula kwakho kwentukuthelo nokungaphatheki kahle. Ukubekezela nokubekezelelana yizimfanelo ezenza umshado ube nothando futhi uzinze.
Umshado unzima lapho ungakutholi enhliziyweni yakho ukuba nozwela nokubekezelela umlingani wakho.
Ukulindela okungenangqondo
Lapho othile engena emshadweni, ebeke zonke izinhlobo zamathemba angenangqondo, nakanjani bazokwethuka kabi.
Kubalulekile ukwazi ukuthi umshado awulona ikhambi lesizungu nesithukuthezi; akuyona into yokuxokozela ngokobulili noma ushintsho olulula, ngalokho.
Umshado usebenza kanzima futhi kudinga uthando oluningi nokunakekelwa. Yeka ukucabanga ukuthi umlingani wakho unesibopho senjabulo yakho; qiniseka ukuthi nobabili nilindele izinto ezifanelekile emshadweni.
Okunye okulindelekile emshadweni kufaka:
- ububele
- inhlonipho
- ukuzibophezela
- ukuchitha isikhathi sekhwalithi
- ukusondelana ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo
- ukwazisa
- ukuxhumana ngokukhululekile
Ngaphandle kokubeka okulindelwe emshadweni, ukuphatha okulindelwe emshadweni nakho kubaluleke kakhulu ukuze ube nobudlelwano obujabulisayo nobanelisayo.
Zama ukugcina okulindelwe kungokoqobo, zibuze ukuthi uzokwazi yini ukuhlangabezana nokulindela okufanayo koshade naye. Xoxa kahle ngokulindelekile futhi uxoxe nganoma yikuphi okulindelwe okungenakulinganiswa ebuhlotsheni bakho.
Bukela le vidiyo ethokozisayo ekhuluma ngokuthi kungani kungafanele silindele okungenakwenzeka kozakwethu:
Ukungabi nozwela
Uzwela yilona olusenza sikwazi ukuqonda ukuthi abalingani bethu bazizwa kanjani.
Ukusebenza kuwe ukuqonda okwengeziwe imizwa nombono womlingani wakho kudlala indima enkulu empumelelweni yomshado wakho. Inhlonipho ngesinye isici.
Hlala uhloniphana ngaso sonke isikhathi, futhi ungalokothi uzivumele usuke kude noshade naye ngengqondo noma ngokomzimba. Prakthiza uzwela ngangokunokwenzeka.
Qaphela ukuthi umlingani wakho uzizwa kanjani bese uzama ukuthola imbangela yalowo muzwa. Zizwe ngokuzwakalayo, noma ngabe kungaba nzima kangakanani kuwe ngoba ukulalela kuyindlela enhle yokwenza oshade naye azizwe engcono.
Ukuthatha kancane
Yenza isikhathi sokubukeka kahle futhi wenze nesikhathi sokumphekela ukudla noma ukumkhiphela i-movie. Ukucabanga ukuthi kulungile ukuyeka lezi zinto ngemuva kweminyaka eyisishiyagalombili yomshado akulungile!
Ukubonisa ukwazisana, ukubatshela ukuthi usabathanda kangakanani, nokulalela ukukhathazeka kwabo ngemuva kosuku lomsebenzi onzima kungaba nomthelela omuhle emshadweni.
Hlanganyela nomunye futhi wenze umshado wakho mnandi. Khumbula, nguwe olawulayo lapha!
Ukungabi nokusondelana
Abantu izidalwa zomphakathi futhi bayaphumelela emandleni abo okuzihlanganisa nabanye ababazungezile. Ukusondelana yilokho okusivumela ukuthi sigcine ukuxhumana kwezenhlalo okunempilo nokuthelayo.
Kungaba ngokomzimba, ngokomzwelo, ngokocansi, noma nangokomoya, ukusondelana kubalulekile kunoma yibuphi ubuhlobo ukuze buqhubeke. Ukusondelana kusivumela ukuthi sivuleke futhi sibe sengozini phakathi kwabanye, futhi lapho kusetshenziswa emshadweni, ukusondelana kuthathwa njengomqondo wokusondelana phakathi kwabantu abashadile.
Ukuntuleka kokusondelana emshadweni kuqeda ukuxhumana nokusondelana okungenzeka ukuthi wakuzwa ngomlingani wakho. Ukuntuleka kokusondelana yikho okwenza umshado ube nzima.
Akudingeki nje ukusondelana ukuze kuqiniswe ubudlelwano emshadweni, kepha futhi kubalulekile ekuthuthukiseni impilo yakho engokomzimba, ukuqeda ingcindezi, kanye nokukhulisa ukuzethemba kwakho.
Umshado ubudlelwano obuhle kuphela uma unakekelwa ngothando nokunakekelwa. Ungayenzi inkinga impilo yakho yomshado futhi ulahlekelwe injabulo yakho. Faka uthando nokunakekela kuyo ukuze ikwenze uzuze futhi ube nenjongo.