-Delile
- H - Umlando
- E - Imizwelo
- A - Isimo Sengqondo
- T - Ukukhuluma
- H - Hang-in-there
- Y - Izolo
- M - Imikhuba
- A - Uthando
- R - Iqiniso
- R - Ukufinyelela ngaphandle
- Mina - Imibono
- A - Ukwazisa
- G - Ukukhula
- E - Isipiliyoni
Uma ngabe ubuzoqhubeka nokufuna ukuthola i- amathiphu omshado wokugcina anempilo, akungabazeki ukuthi ungavela nempendulo eyodwa nje.
Empeleni, ngabe ubungacela imiphakathi engamashumi amahlanu enempilo futhi ejabule emshadweni wayo, ungavele uvele nezimpendulo ezingamashumi amahlanu ezahlukahlukene zokuba nomshado ojabulisayo nokuthi yiziphi izihluthulelo zomshado ophumelelayo!
Ngempela, kunezimfihlo eziningi zomshado ojabulisayo ezisiza ubudlelwano buhlale ngendlela enhle nenempilo. Manje yini eyenza umshado omuhle? Futhi ungaba kanjani nomshado onempilo?
Njengedayimane elikhulu neligugu elinezici eziningi ezicwebezelayo, umshado onempilo nawo uyigugu elinamacala amaningi, ngazo zonke izici unezela enanini nasenjabulweni yawo.
Ezinye zalezi zici zempilo yomshado ojabulisayo kuzoxoxwa ngazo ngezansi ngesimo se-acrostic kusetshenziswa izinhlamvu zamagama: H-E-A-L-T-H-Y M-A-R-R-I-A-G-E
H - Umlando
Bathi uma singafundi ngomlando, kudalekile ukuthi siphinde. Bheka umlando wakho futhi ubone ukuthi yini ongayifunda kubazali bakho noma kwezinye izibonelo.
Bona amanye amaphuzu amahle ongawathatha emshadweni wakho, kanye nezifundo ezingezinhle okufanele uzigweme. Ngokufunda emaphutheni abanye, kwesinye isikhathi singazisindisa isikhathi esiningi nobuhlungu benhliziyo.
E - Imizwelo
Ngemuva kwakho konke, uyini umshado ngaphandle kwemizwa - ikakhulukazi UTHANDO! Emshadweni onempilo futhi ophumelelayo, bobabili abashadile bazizwa bekhululekile ukuveza imizwa yabo ngokukhululekile - imizwa emihle nemibi.
Izinkulumo ezingokomzwelo zingaba ezingakhulumi nangamazwi. Imizwa engemihle, efana nentukuthelo, ukudabuka, nokukhungatheka, idinga ukwaziswa ngokufanelekile ngaphandle kokusongela noma ukulimaza oshade naye.
A - Isimo Sengqondo
Isimo sengqondo esibi sifana nesondo eliqhumile - awukwazi ukuya noma kuphi uze ulishintshe! Futhi kuyefana nasemshadweni.
Uma ufuna ubudlelwano besikhathi eside obuyimpumelelo noma umshado oqinile, udinga ube nesimo esihle sokuvuma maqondana noshade naye, lapho nobabili nifuna ngenkuthalo ukwakhana.
Uma ugxeka, wehlisa isithunzi, futhi unombono ongemuhle, ungalindeli ukuba nomshado ojabulayo futhi onempilo
Lapho ningahleka ndawonye, konke kubonakala kulula, futhi umhlaba uba indawo engcono ngokushesha. Uma ungathola okuthile ozohleka ngakho noshade naye nsuku zonke, ngokuqinisekile uzoba nomshado onempilo.
Uma uhlangabezana nehlaya elincane noma uthi uyazi ukuthi oshade naye angalithanda, ligcine bese wabelana ngalo lapho nindawonye - noma ulithumele kuWhatsapp noma kuFacebook ukuze kukhanye usuku lwakhe.
T - Ukukhuluma
Kunezikhathi lapho kunethezeke futhi kufanelekile nje ukuba ndawonye ngaphandle kokukhuluma. Kepha ngokujwayelekile, lapho uphelelwa izinto ongakhuluma ngazo, akusona isibonakaliso esihle emshadweni.
Uyini umshado onempilo? Imibhangqwana enobudlelwano obunempilo iyakujabulela ukwabelana ngemicabango nemizwa yayo nsuku zonke komunye nomunye, futhi nayo hlola izihloko ezintsha nezintshisekelo ndawonye, ezibanika uphethiloli ongapheli wengxoxo.
H - Hang-in-there
Ilanga alikhanyi nsuku zonke, futhi lapho kufika imvula, izinsuku ezinesiphepho, udinga ukuhlala lapho futhi uvumele ukuzibophezela kwakho komunye nomunye kukuncede.
Hlala uzikhumbuza ukuthi kungani ushade kwasekuqaleni futhi ukhumbule ukuthi bubaluleke kangakanani ubuhlobo bakho nowakwakho. Vumela izikhathi ezinzima zikusondeze ndawonye. Isikhathi saseNtwasahlobo ngaso sonke isikhathi siza ngemuva kobusika.
Y - Izolo
Noma yini eyenzeke izolo ayisekho unomphela. Funda ukuthethelela futhi ucele ukuxolelwa, beka izinto ngemuva kwakho, bese uqhubekela phambili, ikakhulukazi uma kukhulunywa ngokungaboni ngaso linye kanye nezingxabano okungenzeka ukuthi nibe nazo.
Ukugcina amagqubu nokukhulisa ama-gripes amadala kuyindlela eqinisekile yokumuncu noma yibuphi ubuhlobo. Enye yezinto ezibalulekile amathiphu omshado onempilo ebudlelwaneni obuhlala njalo ukuxolelwa.
M - Imikhuba
Ukuthi 'ngiyacela' nokuthi 'ngiyabonga' kuhamba ibanga elide. Uma ukwazi ukunaka imikhuba yakho kwezenhlalo noma zomsebenzi, kungani unganaki ubudlelwano bakho obuthandwa kakhulu ngumlingani wakho nezingane?
Ungawenza kanjani umshado usebenze? Uzothola ngezindlela eziningi ukuthi inhlonipho ibaluleke kanjani ekwenzeni umshado usebenze.
Ukumela intokazi, ivule umnyango, noma ukuyisiza ukuba ihlale esihlalweni sayo konke kuyizimpawu zomnumzane weqiniso ongadingi ukuphuma emfashini.
A - Uthando
Yini eyenza umshado uphile kahle?
Uthando oluningi lugcina umshado uphilile futhi ujabulile, njengamanzi agcina isitshalo siphila. Musa ukuvalelisa ekuseni ngaphandle kokumanga nokuqabula okuhle, futhi futhi lapho nihlangana futhi ekupheleni kosuku.
Ukuthinta ingalo ngobumnene, ukuphulula izinwele, noma ikhanda eliphumule kahle ehlombe kukhuluma lukhulu ngaphandle kokusho igama.
R - Iqiniso
Kwesinye isikhathi singakhathazeka kakhulu futhi sizimisele ukuthi sibe 'nephupho-lomshado' size sigcine sesihlala ekuphikeni lapho ubudlelwane buphenduka bungaphelele. Yilapho lapho udinga ukuxhumana futhi neqiniso futhi uthole usizo oludingayo.
Abanye izinkinga zomshado azixazululi ngokwazo, futhi ukungenelela okuthile okufika ngesikhathi okuvela kumeluleki oqeqeshiwe kungasebenza kakhulu ekusizeni ubhekane nemizabalazo yakho yokuthola umshado onempilo.
R - Ukufinyelela ngaphandle
Umuntu ohlakaniphile wake wathi uthando lweqiniso aluqukethe ukubukana omunye nomunye kodwa ukubheka ndawonye ngasohlangothini olulodwa.
Nanti elinye icebo lomshado ophumelelayo. Lapho ninomgomo ofanayo nobabili enilwela ukuwufinyelela, nakanjani kuzonisondeza komunye nomunye.
Ukunweba nokusiza labo abaswele futhi ube yisibusiso kwabanye kuzoholela ekutheni umshado wakho ubusiswe futhi.
Mina - Imibono
Ukudala nemibono emisha kusiza gcina ubudlelwane busha futhi bujabulisa.
Cabanga ngezinto ezintsha eningazenza ndawonye, bese nizama ukumangala okuzenzekelayo ngezikhathi ezithile, njengokushiya amanothi amancane lapho oshade naye angakuthola khona ngesikhathi esingalindelekile.
Shintshanani ukuhlela okuthile okuhlukile ukwenze osukwini lwenu lobusuku noma ekugubheni usuku lokugubha usuku.
A - Ukwazisa
Ukubonga nakanjani kuyisibonakaliso esihle ebudlelwaneni. Ukuveza ukwazisa kumlingani wakho ngakho konke akwenzayo, ngokushesha kukhanyisa usuku futhi kunikeze umuzwa wokwaneliseka.
Zinike isikhathi sokubheka izinto ezincane nezingajabulisi kakhulu ezenza impilo yakho ibe mnandi kakhulu. Ukuthi nje ‘ngiyabonga, sithandwa sami’ kungenza umehluko omkhulu futhi kulethe ugqozi olukhulu lokuqhubeka.
G - Ukukhula
Ukufunda impilo yakho yonke kumayelana nokuthi, futhi ukukhula ndawonye kwenza umshado uphile. Khuthazanani omunye nomunye ukuphishekela izindawo zokuthakazelisa nokukhulisa ulwazi lwenu namakhono, noma ngabe kuyindlela yokuzilibazisa noma indlela yokusebenza.
Ukukhula kubalulekile kuzo zonke izindawo ezifana nezikamoya, ngokwengqondo nangokomzwelo nangokomzimba.
E - Isipiliyoni
‘Kubeke phansi ukuze ubone’ isisho esihle okufanele usikhumbule njengoba isikhathi sihamba emshadweni wakho.
Konke enihlangana ndawonye njengendoda nenkosikazi, noma kukuhle noma kubi, kukuzuzela ulwazi olubalulekile oluzokubeka ethubeni elihle eminyakeni ezayo, hhayi ebudlelwaneni bakho kuphela kepha futhi nokusiza abanye, ikakhulukazi okulandelayo isizukulwane.
Futhi Buka: Izithandani ezishade iminyaka engu-0-65 zabelana ngemfihlo yazo yomshado onempilo: