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- Ukubhekana nokungaboni ngaso linye emshadweni
- Ubungani emshadweni
- Ubungani kanye nentshisekelo ilingana nomshado ogculisayo
Angihlekisi. Kukhona indlela elula yokwenza umshado wakho uhlale phakade. Kepha uma kulula kangaka kungani imishado eminingi ingahlali unomphela? Umbuzo omuhle. Kungenxa yokuthi ubuciko obalahleka kudala bokwenza ubungani bekhwalithi bulahlekile.
Iningi lethu lihlala lixhumana nabantu "esixhumene" nabo ezinkundleni zokuxhumana. Asazixhuma kakhulu njengakuqala ngokuhlala ngaphesheya kwetafula (ngaphandle kocingo lwethu noma enye idivaysi ye-elektroniki) futhi sixoxe nalowo ohlezi ngaphesheya kwethu noma wakhe izinkumbulo ezingaphezu kwezishutha. Angiyona imithombo yezokuxhumana noma ubuchwepheshe obuphikisana nomphakathi nganoma iyiphi indlela kepha njengombukeli wabantu engibabonile kanye nezifundo ezikhombisa inani lokuxhumana ngokomzimba phakathi kwabantu lehlile.
Asazi ukuthi kunjani ukungavumelani ngenhlonipho omunye nomunye. Kulezi zinsuku uma ungakuthandi okushiwo omunye umuntu noma umbono wakhe, okumele ukwenze nje ukuthatha isithombe-skrini samazwana, ukuwabeka ekhasini lakho bese uklebhula lowo muntu nemibono yakhe.
Yikes. Ngiyazi ukuthi ukubonile kwenzeka.
Noma kunjalo noma ngabe sithuthuke kangakanani kwezobuchwepheshe, ezinye izidingo eziyisisekelo azisoze zashintsha. Isidingo sokuba nobudlelwano bangempela nomlingani wakho yiso esizodala ukuthi umshado wenu uhlale phakade.
Ukubhekana nokungaboni ngaso linye emshadweni
Kungumqondo olula ngokwanele. Lapho zonke izimvemvane sezihambile futhi ukungaboni ngaso linye kuqala ukwenzeka futhi izibuko ezinemibala yama-rose ziqala ukusula futhi imishudo yombani lapho uqabula iphenduka izinduma ezincane futhi iqiniso liqala ukungena ngesigaxa sakho sothando isisekelo esiqinile, esiqinile sobudlelwano kudingeka ukuthi nginingenise nobabili kulokho engikubiza ngokuthi 'ukwenza impilo ndawonye kuze kube phakade'.
Ubungani emshadweni
Leso sisekelo esiqinile kuzoba ngamandla obuhlobo bakho nomlingani wakho. Iningi labantu ngeke lisho kepha ubudlelwano obuqinile obuhlolwe isikhathi kuzoba ngumshado onesisekelo esiqinile sobungani. Ngaphandle kobungani obuqinile izinto ezinhle wena nezitayela zakho enizodlula kuzo noma ngabe kuyizinkinga zokwethembana, ushintsho lomsebenzi, ubunzima bokubeletha, noma ukungathembeki, noma ukukhula kwezingane ubungane bakho bukusiza ukuba ube nombono ofanele.
Kuningi kakhulu okuza nokuba nobuhlobo bekhwalithi njengokuhloniphana okuvumela ukuxhumana okusebenzayo ukuthi kwenzeke; inkulumo elula lapho imibono emibili ingafani; umuntu ofisa ukukuthanda ebunzimeni nasebubini; ukusebenza ngobuhlungu obungenakugwemeka [obunempilo] nobuhlungu obuza ngokuthanda omunye umuntu. Umshado udinga u-10X ukuthi uhlanganise nezilinganiso zokuxolelwa.
Ubungani kanye nentshisekelo ilingana nomshado ogculisayo
Uma uzohlala unomphela noshade naye njengoba ubuhlose lapho ushintshanisa izifungo zakho ubungani bakho buzoba yinto ebaluleke kakhulu. Ungayifaki kusishisi sangemuva ungavumeli izimo nezimo ukuthi zikuhlukanise. Uma usudlule kokuningi ebudlelwaneni bakho futhi uzizwa ufuna ukuyeka ukufuna ukwelashwa noma ukwelulekwa kuqala ukuze ubone ukuthi ubungane onabo nomlingani wakho bufanelekile yini ukubulungisa nokulungiswa. Kwesinye isikhathi ukuqonda kweqembu lesithathu elingathathi hlangothi kungaba umehluko phakathi kokumelana nokubekezelelana ukuphinda umlilo phakathi kwenu nobabili.
Sebenzela ubungani bakho nomngane wakho omkhulu wokuphila kwakho konke, oshade naye. Ngukutshala imali okuhle kakhulu ozokwenza futhi imbuyiselo izoba yaphakade.