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- Isifo Sokuqedwa Komzali
- Izibonelo zokuziphatha okuhlukanisayo zifaka:
- Ungaphendula kanjani ekuhlukanisweni komzali okubangelwe ukwehlukana komshado
- Ukwehlukaniswa nezingane kuyabandakanyeka: Ukubhekana neQiniso
- Isehlukaniso nemiphumela ekukhuleni kwengane
- Ukukhuluma nezingane ngokwehlukana
Ukwehlukana nomlingani wakho kungaba inqubo enzima kepha ukwahlukana komshado nezingane kusenzima namanje. Esinye sezici ezingemnandi neze semiphumela yokwehlukaniswa komshado ezinganeni nasezikhungweni zesehlukaniso ngeqiniso lokuthi izingane zivame ukuthinteka kabi ngosizi ababhekana nalo abazali.
Ukwehlukana komshado kanye nethuba lokuhlukanisa kuyizinqubo ezibuhlungu ezingaphazamisa kakhulu izingqondo zezingane.
Kaningi kunalokho, izingane zabazali abahlukene zihlukumezeke kakhulu ngenqubo yokwehlukaniswa komshado kangangokuba ziba nokwesaba ukuzibophezela njengomuntu omdala.
Yize kuyiqiniso ukuthi abazali bazama ukufihla imininingwane eminingi yokwehlukaniswa nezingane ngoba kungenzeka ukuthi basebancane kakhulu ukuthi bangaqonda konke, kungcono ukuveza obala.
Futhi, abazali abahlukene kwesinye isikhathi babambeke kakhulu ezingeni lokuphazamiseka okungokomzwelo kangangokuthi kungenzeka bangami babuze ngezidingo ezingokomzwelo zengane.
“Isehlukaniso asiyona inhlekelele enjalo. Ukuhlala kabuhlungu emshadweni ongajabulisi, ufundisa izingane zakho izinto ezingalungile ngazo uthando. Akekho owake wabulawa isehlukaniso. ”
Lesi silinganiso somlobi owaziwayo waseMelika uJennifer Weiner singeqiniso. Ngempela kungcono kakhulu ukuhlukaniswa lapho izingqinamba zingasonjululwa kunokufaka izingane zakho ezinsongweni noma umshado ungahambi kahle kepha kubalulekile ngokufanayo ukulawula imizwa yazo ukuze zingakhuli zinemibono engafanele.
Ukwehlukaniswa kwesilingo nezingane kungahle kudide uma kungaphathwa kahle njengoba inqubo yebutho kwesinye isikhathi ibanga i-Parental Alienation Syndrome ezinganeni. Funda ukuze wazi ukuthi kuyini nokuthi ungakugwema kanjani ukuyibangela uma uzohlukaniswa ngokomthetho noma ukwahlukaniswa kwesivivinyo nezingane.
Isifo Sokuqedwa Komzali
Udokotela wezifo zengqondo uRichard Gardner wethule ngokusemthethweni umphakathi owelaphayo kulokho akubiza ngeParental Alienation Syndrome (PAS) ephepheni elenziwa ngo-1985. enganeni.
I-PAS ibhebhezelwa ukuhlukaniswa kwabazali, uchungechunge lokuziphatha okusetshenziswa ngumzali ohlukanisayo, kungaba ngokwazi noma ngokungazi, ukonakalisa ubudlelwano bengane nomzali ohlosiwe ngesikhathi nangemva kokuhlukana komshado noma ezinye izingxabano.
Yize kungagcini lapho ezimweni zokuchitheka komshado, ukuhlukaniswa kwabazali kanye ne-Parental Alienation Syndrome okuba nomphumela kuvame ukuvela ezingxabanweni zokuthola umntwana.
Izibonelo zokuziphatha okuhlukanisayo zifaka:
- Sebenzisa ingane njengesithunywa semininingwane phakathi kwabazali esikhundleni sokuzijwayeza ukuxhumana komzali nomzali.
- Ukutshala izinkumbulo ezingamanga zokuhlukunyezwa nokunganakwa enganeni ezilulaza umzali ohlosiwe.
- Ukuthululela ingane isifuba nokwabelana ngemicabango ngokungathembeki komfokazi nenzondo yomzali oqondisiwe.
- Ukusola umzali obhekiswe kuye ngokuqedwa komshado noma ukwahlukana komshado.
- Ukuhoxisa ukwesekwa kwengane ngokomzwelo nangokomzimba lapho ingane iqinisekisa uthando nobuhle bomzali ohlosiwe.
Ungaphendula kanjani ekuhlukanisweni komzali okubangelwe ukwehlukana komshado
- Uma izingane zibanjwa kuziphambano zokuchithwa komshado wakho, qiniseka ukuthi ziyezwakala, ziyaxhaswa, futhi ziyathandwa.
- Ungaze ubeke omunye umzali kabi lapho izingane zikhona phambi kwakho. Umsebenzi wakho, noma ngabe uyamzonda umuntu wakho wakudala, ukwenza isiqiniseko sokuthi izingane zakho zijabulela ubudlelwano nomunye umzali.
- Futhi ungabekezeleli i-Parental Alienation Syndrome, noma. Uma uyisisulu, tshela umeluleki nejaji ngokushesha.
Ukwehlukaniswa nezingane kuyabandakanyeka: Ukubhekana neQiniso
Ukwehlukana nezingane kuvivinya amakhono akho wokuba umzali. Akunandaba ukuthi uzizwe ulimele kangakanani noma ukuthi sonke isimo sibukeka singenabulungiswa kanjani. Izingane zakho akufanele neze zithwale umthwalo wakho noma ulaka lomuntu oshade naye noma ukuziphatha okulimazayo noma ngabe izinto ziqala ukwehla kini nobabili.
Isehlukaniso nemiphumela ekukhuleni kwengane
Ngokocwaningo olwenziwe ngesehlukaniso sabazali noma ukwehlukana nempilo yengqondo yezingane, olushicilelwe ephephabhukwini le-The World Psychiatric Association, ukwehlukana nesehlukaniso kungathinta ukukhula kwengane ngezindlela eziningi kubandakanya ukwehla kokuvuthwa kwezenhlalo nangokwengqondo, ushintsho kumbono wokuziphatha ngokocansi. njalo njalo.
Ukukhuluma nezingane ngokwehlukana
Imiphumela yokwehlukana enganeni ingancishiswa ngokubatshela iqiniso ngohlelo lwamanje nolwesikhathi esizayo lwezinto. Kepha ungazibuza, ukuthi ungatshela kanjani izingane ngokwahlukana?
- Musa ukwenza izinto zibe nzima, nikeza incazelo elula
- Thatha isikhathi sokuphendula yonke imibuzo
- Kungazwakala kunzima kodwa khuluma ngemizwa yabo nangeyakho
- Uma bengaqiniseki ngesinqumo sakho, phakamisa ukukhuluma nomuntu othembekile
- Ungashintshi izinto kakhulu
- Bangazizwa bengenalusizo ngakho-ke mabanqume izinto ezimbalwa futhi
Ukuze uthole umbono olungile mayelana nokusingatha ukuhlukaniswa komshado nezingane, ungaxhumana nesazi emkhakheni onjengompetha, umeluleki wemishado noma isazi sezengqondo sezingane esingasebenza eduze nawe ukuqonda izinselelo futhi sisebenze kuzo.
Ngenkathi kungenzeka ukuthi ubhekene nesikhathi esinzima ngesikhathi sokuhlukana komshado wakho, khumbula ukuthi imiphumela efanayo nayo iyazwakala ezinganeni zakho. Yenza konke okusemandleni ukubenza banethezeke futhi ubagcine bengenacindezelo ngalesi sikhathi ukunciphisa imiphumela yokwehlukaniswa komshado ezinganeni.