-Delile
- Khuthaza umlingani wakho
- Lalela
- Yenza ubuciko ngalokho onakho
- Funda isigqi
- Sebenzisa ulimi lomzimba wakho
- Akukho okuyoke kube ngcono ngaphandle kokuzijwayeza
Ukuqomisana okungajwayelekile kungafana nokuzijabulisa okungajwayelekile, futhi yize abantu bevame ukukucabanga ngokufana “nokuya ocansini nomuntu ongathandani naye”, izinto azikhuphuli masinyane ngezikhathi zokuqala lapho nihlangana khona.
Yebo, kungafika kulokho ekugcineni, kepha ukuthandana nomuntu, noma ngabe kuyinto engatheni futhi kungeyona into ebucayi, kufana nesiko, futhi sonke siyazi ukuthi yonke imicikilisho inemithetho yayo. Ukhiye kunoma ibuphi ubudlelwano, obungajwayelekile noma obuzinzile, ukwazi ukuthi ungakhuluma kanjani nomlingani wakho futhi umyengele ngobuhlakani bakho bokuqonda nokuxoxa.
Isikhathi esiningi esisichitha nabantu esithandana nabo ngokwethu siyathandana.
Kwesinye isikhathi kungahle kwenzeke ukuthi sigcine sinamathele esihlokweni esingabazisayo, noma siqale isihloko esibucayi phakathi nezingxoxo ezincane esinazo nabalingani bethu, futhi sibe namahloni okuthi asikwazi ukuqhubekisela phambili ingxoxo; lokhu akusho ukuthi kufanele kube ukuphela kwengxoxo emnandi obukade uhlanganyela kuyo futhi uyijabulela.
Siqoqe amathiphu amahle kakhulu wokuxoxa wezinkulumo ezingathandani zokuphola, njengokulalela, ukukhuthaza, nezinye izeluleko eziwusizo ongazakha kalula amakhono asebenzayo, nokuthi uzisebenzisa kanjani futhi kanjani ukuze zisebenze kahle kakhulu.
Khuthaza umlingani wakho
Uma ubambeka esihlokweni bese uphelelwa yimibono, zama ukukhuthaza omunye umuntu ukuthi akhulume kabanzi ngaye.
Abantu bayathanda ukukhuluma ngabo, futhi leyo yindaba abazijwayele.
Qala ukubuza imibuzo, futhi ukhumbule, ngaso sonke isikhathi yiba nesithakazelo sangempela kubalingani bakho nokuthi bathini.
Lalela
Ukuba umuntu okhulumisana kahle kusho ukuba yisilaleli esihle, futhi lokhu akusho ukuthi kufanele uye ngaphandle, emaphethelweni engxoxo futhi uzihlukanise nomunye; usadinga ukubamba iqhaza engxoxweni osusondele kuyo.
Yiba nentshisekelo yangempela kulokho umlingani wakho akushoyo futhi uqiniseke ukuthi esinye isikhulumi sithini ngokulalelisisa phakathi nengxoxo, ukunqekuzisa ikhanda noma ukumamatheka, nokunikeza imibono emihle ngomlayezo ozama ukukuhambisa kuwe.
Abanye abantu bakhetha ukujola okungajwayelekile kwesinye isikhathi ukuze nje babe nomuntu obalalelayo.
Yenza ubuciko ngalokho onakho
Njalo yiba nezihloko ezithokozisayo osungazithathela izingxoxo.
Zama ukuhlala unolwazi ngezindaba, ezokuzijabulisa, noma izitayela zakamuva, ukuze uhlale unokuthile okuhle ukuqala nokungeza engxoxweni yakho.
Funda isigqi
Kufana nomculo nje, futhi kubalulekile ukuthi udinga ukwazi ukuthi ume nini bese ulinda enkulumweni.
Uma uqala ukulawula ingxoxo bese uthatheka kakhulu, khona-ke inkulumo izoqala ukubukeka njengokuphenywa ngemibuzo, hhayi ingxoxo enobungane, futhi umlingani wakho ophikisayo uzocasuka futhi ekugcineni ayilahle. Lokhu kuhamba ngokufana.
Sebenzisa ingxoxo kuphela lapho othile ekubeka kuleso sikhundla ngokukhombisa intshisekelo ebukhali kuwe.
Sebenzisa ulimi lomzimba wakho
Kuyaziwa ukuthi ama-55% wokuxhumana kwethu avezwa ngokungenankulumo, ngokusebenzisa izinkomba ezingezona ezokukhuluma, isimo sobuso, noma izinguquko zokuma komzimba.
Iningi lemininingwane esizama ukuyidlulisa iza ngokungazi futhi ihambisana nenkulumo ngalezi zinto ezilandelayo, kepha futhi singafunda ukuyiveza ngokuqaphela.
Akukho okuyoke kube ngcono ngaphandle kokuzijwayeza
Imvamisa uzithola usezindaweni ezibucayi lapho inkulumo encane izoqala ukuthatha isiqondiso esiyisidina futhi uzophoqeleka ukukhanyisa isimo, lokho kungukuthi uma ungafuni ukulahlekelwa yingxoxo.
Akunandaba ukuthi ukuphi, kukheshi emsebenzini ubingelela osebenza nabo, ekhaya nowakwakho, ku-cashier esitolo sakho sangakini, ungasebenzisa zonke izindlela ezingenhla esizibhalile kunoma yisiphi isimo ukukhanyisa umoya ngokuxoxa panache.
Uzoqala ukuthola 'amagugu okuxoxa', izingcezu zolwazi ezingakulethela inani langempela, elifakwe ezingxoxweni ezingajwayelekile.
Futhi uzomangala ukuthi nawe uzophonsela la 'magugu' kwabanye. Singafunda okuningi kakhulu futhi sibe nobudlelwano obuhle, obuchumile nobucebile uma sikhuthaza kuphela, silalela, futhi sidansa kakhulu ngesigqi samagama esiwabelana ngawo ezimpilweni zethu zansuku zonke.