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- 1. Masiqale ngento ebambekayo kunazo zonke - ezezimali
- 2. Ukukhathazeka ngokuthi "uzokwanela ingane" ngokwanele
- 3. Umbuzo wokucwaswa
- 4. Ukungazethembi njalo nokuzizwa unecala
Ukuba ngumzali ongayedwa kuza nezinkinga eziningi, ake sikususe lokho endleleni. Kepha, ake futhi siveze ukuthi ukuba ngumzali, ngokuvamile, kuyinto enzima ukuyenza. Okujabulisa kakhulu impela, kepha kunzima.
Umzali ongayedwa (ovame ukuba ngumama, kepha ngo-2013 bekuno-17% wobaba abangabodwa e-US futhi) ubhekene nezinselelo eziningi ezengeziwe - ezengqondo, ezenhlalo nezomnotho. Ngakho-ke, yini ukuba umzali ongayedwa kunjani, futhi kubukeka kanjani enhlalakahleni nasekukhuleni kwezingane?
1. Masiqale ngento ebambekayo kunazo zonke - ezezimali
Ukukhulisa ingane kuyinto ebiza kakhulu, futhi ukuzenzela wedwa kungabonakala kungenakwenzeka ukuthi usuke. Akunandaba noma ngabe uthola malini komunye umzali uma ikhona, ukuba ngumondli oyinhloko wakho nezingane zakho kungasabisa impela.
Ukuthola imfundo ephakeme mhlawumbe kuyindlela engcono kakhulu yokuphuma, kepha ukuthola isihloko ngenkathi unakekela konke okunye ngokwakho kwesinye isikhathi akulula. Lokhu kwesaba kuvame ukucindezela abazali abangabodwa ukuthi bathathe imisebenzi abayifanele ngokweqile futhi bavame ukusebenza amahora wokuhlanya.
Isimo esinjalo, yize kuvame ukungenzeki ukugwema, ngeshwa, singathatha inani laso ngokwengqondo.
Abazali bacindezelekile. Ngaso sonke isikhathi. Uma ungumzali, khona-ke uyazi ukuthi indima ifuna wena kangakanani, nokuthi zingaki izinto odinga ukuzenza futhi ucabange ngazo zonke izikhathi zokuvuka. Futhi umzali ongayedwa akanakho ukunethezeka kokuthatha isikhashana uphumule. Uma bekwenza, konke kungahle kushayeke phansi. Lokhu kungenzeka futhi kungabi yiqiniso ngokuphelele, kepha okuqinisekile ukuthi wonke umzali ongayedwa uzizwa kanjalo.
Ngenxa yalokho, bangabantu abacindezeleke kakhulu emhlabeni wonke, noma ngabe bengabonakali kanjalo.
2. Ukukhathazeka ngokuthi "uzokwanela ingane" ngokwanele
Njengoba kunikezwe ukuthi badinga ukuba bobabili umama nobaba, badinga ukwenza konke ukujezisa, isidingo sokwenza konke ukudlala. Ngaphezu kwalokho, umuntu ungaphezu nje kokuba ngumzali - sonke sinesidingo sokufezwa emisebenzini yethu, ukuba nempilo yothando nempilo yezenhlalo, nakho konke lokho abanye abakutholayo.
3. Umbuzo wokucwaswa
Akuvamile kakhulu ezweni lanamuhla laseNtshonalanga ngomzali oyedwa (umama, cishe kuphela), ukwahlulelwa ngesimo sakhe, kepha umzali ongayedwa usengakuzwa ukungavunyelwa lapha nalaphaya. Njengokuthi akwanele ukubhekana nabo bonke ubunzima obusebenzayo nobungokomzwelo bokuba ngumzali ongayedwa, cishe wonke umama onjalo wahlangana nokubukeka ukwahlulela okungenani kanye empilweni yakhe.
Ukuba ngumama ongayedwa kuza nehlazo lokuthi uziphatha kabi futhi ukhulelwe ngaphandle komshado, noma unkosikazi omubi bese uthola isehlukaniso. Futhi ukubhekana nobandlululo olunjalo kungenza impilo yomuntu yansuku zonke ikhungathekise kakhulu.
Ngakho-ke, yebo, ukuba ngumzali ongayedwa kunzima ngezindlela eziningi.
4. Ukungazethembi njalo nokuzizwa unecala
Kukhona ukwesaba okungenangqondo mayelana nokuthi izingane zakho azikhuli emndenini ophelele. Kepha, lapho ungena ekuzindleni ngazo zonke lezi zinkinga, khumbula ukuthi enganeni kungcono ukukhula nomzali oyedwa onothando futhi onemfudumalo kunokukhulela emndenini ophelele lapho kuhlala khona ukulwa nokuthukuthela, ngisho nolaka .
Okubalulekile enganeni ukuthi ikhule nomzali onobungane nothando.
Umzali ohlinzeka ukusekela nothando. Ngubani ovulekile futhi othembekile. Futhi lezi zinto azibizi lutho futhi azincikile kunoma ngubani ngaphandle kwakho. Ngakho-ke, ngesikhathi esizayo lapho uphuma emqondweni wakho uzama ukukwenza konke, vele uzisike kancane futhi ukhumbule - okudingwa ingane yakho ngothando lwakho nokuqonda kwakho kuphela.
Akunandaba ukuthi sifisa kangakanani ukuthi kufane nokwabelana ngomthwalo, akunjalo. Noma ngabe ungumama noma ungubaba wengane (noma wezingane) ozikhulisela wedwa nganoma yisiphi isizathu, kuyindlela ebucayi phambili. Kodwa-ke, thola induduzo ngokuthi kuwumgwaqo ofana nabazali abenza ndawonye nsuku zonke ngoba ukukhulisa izingane kunzima. Uzodinga nje ukwenza umzamo owengeziwe owengeziwe, kepha, njengoba sikukhombisile kulesi sihloko, kungokuhlangenwe nakho okuzuzisa kakhulu ongakaze ube nakho, okungaholela ekubeni wena nezingane zakho nibe ngabangcono kakhulu.