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- Ukuhlanganisa kuyinselele enkulu kunokwakha umndeni
- Izinselelo izingane ezibhekana nazo
- Ukubhekana nezinkinga ngombono wengane
Imibhangqwana eminingi eqala inqubo yokuxuba izimpilo zayo kanye nezingane zayo ikwenza lokho ngokulangazela okwamukelekile kepha nangokwesaba okuthile ngalemingcele emisha yokunqoba. Njengoba sazi, okulindelwe kungaletha ukuphoxeka lapho kugcwele amathemba aphezulu, izinhloso ezinhle kanye ne-naiveté.
Ukuhlanganisa kuyinselele enkulu kunokwakha umndeni
Ukuhlanganiswa kwemindeni emibili ehlukene kuzoba yinselelo enkulu kakhulu futhi eyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu kunalapho kwakhiwa umndeni wokuqala. Le ndawo entsha igcwele imigodi engaziwa futhi imvamisa engalindelekile nokuphambuka emgwaqweni. Igama lokuchaza lolu hambo belizoba elisha. Konke kusha ngokuzumayo: abantu abasha abasha; izingane; abazali; amandla amasha; ikhaya, isikole noma igumbi; izingqinamba zesikhala esisha, izingxabano, umehluko, nezimo ezizoqhamuka izinyanga ngisho neminyaka kuleli lungiselelo lomndeni elisha.
Ukubuyekeza lo mbono we-panoramic ngempilo yomndeni ehlanganisiwe, kungaba khona inqwaba yezinkinga ezingalindelekile zokuxazululwa nezintaba ezingagqunywa. Ngenxa yezinselelo ezinkulu ezingadalwa, ingabe inqubo ingancishiswa ukuze izingane nabazali bathole izindlela zokuzivumelanisa?
Izinselelo izingane ezibhekana nazo
Enye yezinto ezibaluleke kakhulu, ezibalulekile nezingahle zibe nezinkinga zokuxuba imindeni yilokho okwenziwa yindima entsha yomzali wesinyathelo. Izingane zeminyaka ehlukahlukene zibhekana ngokungazelelwe nomuntu omusha omusha othatha indima yokuba ngumzali ezimpilweni zabo. Igama elithi step step-mother or step-father libonisa iqiniso laleyo ndima. Ukuba ngumzali ezinganeni zomunye umuntu akwenziwa ngemibhalo esemthethweni kanye nezinhlelo zokuhlala. Ukucabanga esikwenzayo kokuthi oshade naye omusha usho ukuthi umzali omusha yinto esingacabanga ukuyibheka kabusha.
Abazali begazi banethuba elikhulu lokukhulisa ubudlelwano babo nezingane zabo cishe kusukela ekukhulelweni. Kuyisibopho sokusebenzisana esakhiwe ngokuhamba kwesikhathi futhi siqoshwe ngobuningi bothando nokwethembana. Kwenzeka cishe ngokungabonakali, ngaphandle kokuthi amaqembu ake azi ukuthi ukuzimisela kwabo ukubamba iqhaza kudoti yomzali nengane kwenziwa umzuzwana nomzuzu, usuku nosuku, unyaka nonyaka. Ukuhloniphana nokunikeza nokuthatha induduzo, ukuholwa kanye nokondliwa kuyafundwa ezikhathini eziningi zokuxhumana futhi kuba yisisekelo sokusebenzisana okunempilo, okusebenzayo phakathi kwabazali nezingane.
Lapho umuntu omusha omusha engena kulobu budlelwano, usuke engekho kulowo mlando wangaphambilini odale isibopho somzali nengane. Kunengqondo yini ukulindela ukuthi izingane zingene ngokungazelelwe ohlotsheni lokuxhumana lomzali nengane nalomuntu omusha omusha yize kukhona lo mehluko omkhulu? Abazali bokutholwa abaqala umsebenzi wokukhulisa izingane ngaphambi kwesikhathi ngokungangabazeki bazomelana nalesi sithiyo semvelo.
Ukubhekana nezinkinga ngombono wengane
Izinkinga eziningi ezihlobene nokukhuliswa komzali wesinyathelo zingagwenywa uma izindaba zibhekwa ngombono wengane. Ukuphikiswa kwezingane lapho zithola ukuqondiswa kumzali wesinyathelo esisha kungokwemvelo futhi kufanelekile. Umzali wesinyathelo esisha akakalitholi ilungelo lokuba ngumzali ezinganeni zomlingani wakhe. Ukuthola lelo lungelo kuzothatha izinyanga ngisho neminyaka yokuxhumana kwansuku zonke, okuyizakhi zokwakha noma yibuphi ubudlelwano. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, abazali bokutholwa bangaqala ukwakha ukuthembana, inhlonipho kanye nobungane obubalulekile ekuqinisekiseni ubudlelwano obuqinile nobenelisayo.
Imfundiso yakudala yokuthi izingane kufanele zithathe ukuqondiswa noma isiyalo kunoma yimuphi umuntu omdala manje seyilahliwe sekusondele indlela ehloniphayo, esuka enhliziyweni ehambisana nezigaba zokukhula komuntu. Izingane zizwela kakhulu ezicashile ezicashile zobudlelwano kanye nokuthi izidingo zabo zifezekiswa kangakanani. Umzali ongumzali ozwela ngokufanayo futhi onozwela ngezidingo zengane uzobona ubunzima bokuba ngumzali ngaphambi kokuba ingane ilunge.
Thatha isikhathi sokwakha ubungane nezingane ezintsha ezizelwe; hlonipha imizwa yabo futhi unikeze isikhala esanele phakathi kokulindele kanye nesidingo sabo sokuphendula. Njengomuntu omdala ohlala kulesi simo esisha somndeni, gwema ukucabanga ukuthi izingane kufanele zijwayele kukho kokubili okukhona kanye nokuthandwa ngumzali ongumzali ezintweni eziphathelene nokukhulisa izingane. Ngaphandle kokuthatha isikhathi esanele ukwakha isisekelo salobu budlelwano obusha, yonke imizamo yokubeka ukuqondiswa nokwakheka kwabazali ingaphikiswa ngamabomu nangokunengqondo.
Abazali bokutholwa kumele bazijwayeze izingane zomlingani wabo kuqala futhi bakhe ubungane beqiniso. Lapho lobo bungani bungasindwa ngamandla okufakelwa, bungaqhakaza futhi bukhule buqonde ebudlelwaneni obunothando, obufanayo. Uma lokho sekwenzekile, izingane zesinyathelo-ke zizokwamukela ngokwemvelo lezo zikhathi ezidingekayo lapho ukuholwa komzali kwenzeka lapho kunikezwa ngumzali wokutholwa. Lapho lokho kufinyelelwa, ukuhlanganiswa kwangempela kwabazali nezingane kufezeka.