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- Uhambo lomshado
- Imishado ayibushelelezi
- Thola umnyombo oyimbangela yezingxabano
- Uhambo lomshado lwehlukile kwabesilisa nabesifazane
Umshado uhluke kakhulu namuhla kunaseminyakeni eyikhulu edlule. Indima yendoda nenkosikazi ayicaci, futhi umphakathi wethu ubonakala ungenayo imithetho ebekiwe kubo. Noma kunjalo, iningi labantu lilindele okukhulu ukwaneliseka kwezothando emshadweni, kanye namathemba aphezulu okuphulukiswa nokuzithuthukisa. Umlingani ngamunye ulangazelela, ngokuqaphela noma ngokungazi, ukuthi omunye aphulukise amanxeba abo ebuntwaneni, futhi abathande, abamukele, futhi abazise.
Uhambo lomshado
Uhambo lomshado luhambo lweqhawe nolweqhawekazi olunezigemegeme eziningi ezibandakanya ulwazi lokubhekana nokwesaba kwakho, ukuthola isibindi, ukuthola abeluleki, ukufunda amakhono amasha, nokufa kumqondo wakho wakudala ozizwa unjengokudangala ngaphambi kokuthi uzwe njengokusha nokuphila okubaluleke kakhulu. Kuzothatha isikhathi ukwenza le adventure, kepha ngumzamo ofanele womuntu. Inamandla okuguqula umuzwa wakho wothando ube yinto eqine kakhulu kunalokho ongakucabanga.
Imishado ayibushelelezi
Indlela yeqhawe lothando neqhawekazi akufanele ibe uhambo olubushelelezi. Azikho izinqamuleli. Ukubona umhlaba, wena uqobo, nozakwenu ngombono omkhulu njalo kuyindlela ejulile yokwelula nokuyeka. Ukuqonda inqubo yethu yokuhlangabezana nokuxazulula lokho okuhlangenwe nakho esimeni sokukhula kwabantu abadala kuzokuvumela ukuthi ucabange ngempilo yakho, futhi kukukhuthaze ukuthi usebenzise izinselelo emshadweni wakho ukwenza ngcono nokukhula ebudlelwaneni bakho bezothando.
Umnyeni wami UMichael Grossman, MD(udokotela wokuvuselela ukuguga onguchwepheshe we-bioidentical hormone replacement and stem cell therapy), ulandisa ukuthi saqonda kanjani futhi salungisa isithiyo empilweni yethu yomshado-
“Indaba yethu eholela ekuguqulweni kwethu yaqala ekuqaleni kweminyaka engamashumi amathathu lapho sekusebusuku kakhulu, kwaba nokuduma kwezulu okungajwayelekile eSouthern California ngakithi. UBarbara ubelokhu engicindezela ukuba ngikhulume ngenkinga ethile engokomzwelo emshadweni wethu ngenkathi ngiphelelwa isineke sokulala. Kodwa-ke lapho engicindezela ngokwengeziwe, ngathukuthela ngokwengeziwe. Ngangikhathele emsebenzini futhi ngangikulangazelela ukuphumula ngilale. Njalo ngemizuzu embalwa, kwaphazima umbani kude egumbini lethu lokulala, futhi emva kwemizuzwana embalwa kuduma okuthile okungazwakali kahle. UBarbara wagomela ngokuthi angibambisani, ngingenangqondo, futhi angizimisele ukukhuluma ngalezi zinkinga, kodwa ngangilokhu ngikubeka eceleni ngithi ngangikhathele futhi ngilinde kuze kube kusasa ngemva kokuba sesilale kancane. Noma kunjalo, waphikelela futhi sobabili saba nolaka.
UBarbara wayelokhu ephikelela, kwaze kwaba sekugcineni, sobabili saqhuma. Ngamemeza ngathi, “Uzicabangela wena wedwa,” wabe esememeza ethi, “Awunandaba nami!”
Intukuthelo ilandela ukubhujiswa
Ngaleso sikhathi, phakathi nokuhayiza kwethu nokumemeza kwethu, kwaqhamuka umbani omkhulu wazamazamisa indlu ngamandla amakhulu. Isibani esikhulu sakhanyisa ikamelo lethu lokulala njengokukhanya kwemini isikhashana, futhi sageza izinhlansi zomlilo ngensimbi evikelekile ezungeze iziko. Umlayezo ovela emazulwini? Simangele sathula sabukana nje, ngokuzumayo sabona amandla okubhubhisa wentukuthelo yethu.
Ngaso leso sikhathi sobabili sasazi ukuthi sidinga ukuthola indlela engcono yokuxhumana nokubhekana nezidingo zethu zomuntu ngamunye ngokomzwelo. ”
Thola umnyombo oyimbangela yezingxabano
Kuyo yonke imishado, kunezinkinga ezidala ukulwa okufanayo kaninginingi. Impi ingathatha izindlela ezahlukahlukene futhi ivele ezimweni ezahlukahlukene, kepha ihlala ingxabano efanayo emgodini. Cabanga ngomshado wakho kanye nezindlela zakho eziphindaphindiwe zokungajabuli. Ukuzibophezela okujulile ekuxazululeni lezo zingqinamba ezisemshadweni kudinga ukuthi indoda nomfazi ngamunye bathathe uhambo lokulapha njengomuntu ngamunye, nohambo lokuhlangana lokupholisa njengabalingani.
Inqubo yokuphulukisa umshado wami noBarbara yangidinga ukuthi ngifunde amakhono amasha ngithole amakhono amasha, konke okwakubonakala kungaphezu kwamandla ekuqaleni. Ukulalela umkami kwakuyinto okwakudingeka ngifunde ukuyenza — ngisho noma kwakubuhlungu.
UMichael ukhumbula ukuthi wayehleli ekilasini lokuqeqeshwa kwezokuxhumana futhi ebhanqana nomfundi nezinsuku ezingahleliwe, kwakudingeka alalele afunda naye futhi anikeze impendulo ngalokho hhayi lokho akushoyo kuphela, kodwa nangalokho ayekucabanga ngemizwa yakhe engaphansi. Wayekwazi kahle ukukubeka kahle lokho ayekusho kofunda naye, kepha wayengenalo nhlobo ulwazi ngemizwa yakhe eyisisekelo. Ngisho nohlu lwamagama olusizayo lokuchaza imizwa, wehlulekile. Kungaleso sikhathi kuphela lapho abona khona ukuthi udinga ukukhula kulo mkhakha ongokomzwelo wokuphila.
Uhambo lomshado lwehlukile kwabesilisa nabesifazane
Uhambo lweqhawe luhlukile ngandlela thile kowesilisa nowesifazane. . Ngemuva kokuthi indoda ifunde ikhono eminyakeni yama-20 nengama-30, kudingeka ifunde ukuthobeka eminyakeni elandelayo. Ngemuva kokuthi owesifazane afunde ukuxhumana, udinga ukuthola izwi lakhe eminyakeni engama-30 nengama-40. Indlela yeqhawe neqhawekazi ayifanele ukuba ibe bushelelezi. Iziqephu ezinzima nokuguquka kwempilo akunakugwenywa ebudlelwaneni bezothando. Azikho izinqamuleli. Ukubona umhlaba, wena uqobo, nozakwenu kusuka kumbono omkhulu njalo kuyindlela ejulile yokwelula nokuyeka.
Umqondo wokuthi kukhona okungafanele kwenzeke kithi kulolu hambo noma ukuthi asilufanele lolu buhlungu obungokomzwelo buvela kuleyo ngxenye yethu elwela ukugcina umbono wethu olinganiselwe we-ego. Lesi simo sengqondo sivimba inqubekela phambili ohambweni lokuphulukisa. Ngokombono wethu njengabantu abanobugovu, abazicabangela bona bodwa, sihlala sishintshwa, sikhohliswa, siphathwa kabi, futhi asaziswa kakhulu njengoba silindele. Ngokombono omkhulu, njengoba uNkulunkulu angasibuka, sidinga ukusetshenzwa, siqhekezwe, sibunjwe, futhi siguqulwe sibe isidalwa esihlakaniphile nesinothando.
Intuthuko engokomzwelo nengqondo evuselelwa ukungqubuzana kwabantu ababili ngokubambisana kanye nesifiso ngasikhathi sinye sothando nomndeni kukhulu futhi kunomvuzo. Kuyisisekelo sokupholisa nokujulisa uthando. Inhloso yethu ukuxhasa uhambo lwakho ukuze ufeze amandla omshado wakho.