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- Inkinga yangemva kokuhlukana
- Ukuhlelwa nokwakheka kunikeza ukuphepha okungokomzwelo
- Nqumani imithetho ngokuvumelana
- Imibuzo echaza ubudlelwane babazali nezingane
- Yiba nemithetho yekhaya engaguquguquki
- Gwema ukulwa lapho ingane yakho iseduze
- 3. Akukho ukuziphindisela ngokwephula umthetho
- 4. Yenza imikhuba yokuguqula izingane
- 5. Gwema ukuncintisana
- 6. Yamukela umehluko
- 7. Gwema ukwahlukana nokunqoba isifo
- 8. Ungazifaki izingane phakathi
- 9. Ukuziphindiselela nge-ex yakho
- 10. Thatha umgwaqo ophakeme
Izingane zifanelwe ilungelo lokuthi bobabili abazali basebenze njengeqembu ekusekeleni izintshisekelo zezingane zabo.
Inkinga yangemva kokuhlukana
Kuyahlekisa. Nihlukane ngoba anizwani ndawonye.
Manje njengoba sekudlulile, utshelwa ukuthi kufanele uthuthukise ukubambisana nje ngenxa yezingane zakho. Nihlukane ngoba beningasafuni ukuzibandakanya phakathi kwenu. Manje uyabona ukuthi usenobudlelwano bempilo yonke.
Izindaba ezimnandi ukuthi ungaba nokuxhumana okuncane, okunokuthula ne-ex yakho. Kepha ukuze uphumelele kufanele uvume ukulandela imihlahlandlela efanayo yokukhulisa izingane ngokubambisana.
Ukuhlelwa nokwakheka kunikeza ukuphepha okungokomzwelo
Izingane zivikeleka ngokomzwelo ngenqubo ejwayelekile kanye nokwakheka.
Imizila nezakhiwo zisiza izingane ukuba ziqonde futhi zibikezele umhlaba wazo. Ukuqagela kwenza izingane zizizwe zinamandla futhi zizolile. “Ngiyazi ukuthi isikhathi sokulala sinini.”, Noma, “Ngiyazi ukuthi angikwazi ukudlala kuze kuqedwe umsebenzi wami wesikole.”, Isiza izingane zikhule zikhululekile futhi zizethembile.
Ukuzijwayeza okuyisisekelo kusho ukuthi izingane akudingeki zisebenzise ubuhlakani namandla azo ukuphatha isimanga, isiphithiphithi nokudideka. Kunalokho, bazizwa bephephile futhi belondekile. Izingane ezivikelekile ziyazethemba futhi zenza kangcono ngokwenhlalo nangokwezifundo.
Izingane zifaka ngaphakathi ngaphakathi lokho okuvezwa njalo kuzo.
Imithetho iba yimikhuba. Lapho abazali bengekho, baphila ngamanani nezindinganiso ezifanayo abazenze ngaphambili kubazali babo.
Nqumani imithetho ngokuvumelana
Ngezingane ezincane, imithetho kufanele kuvunyelwane ngayo ngabazali bobabili bese yethulwa ezinganeni. Musa ukuphikisana ngale mithetho phambi kwezingane. Futhi, ungavumeli izingane zakho ezincane zikunqumele ukuthi yimiphi imithetho okufanele ibe yiyo.
Njengoba izingane zikhula, imithetho izodinga ukuzivumelanisa nezidingo zayo ezintsha. Ngenxa yalokhu, bobabili abazali kufanele baphinde baxoxe ngemithetho kaningana ngonyaka.
Njengoba izingane zivuthwa, zidinga ukuthatha umthwalo omningi ekwenzeni nasekugcineni imithetho. Ngesikhathi izingane zisakhula, kufanele ukuthi zixoxisane nawe ngenhlonipho ngemithetho.
Ngesikhathi sebekhulile esikoleni esiphakeme, intsha idinga ukuthi yenze cishe i-98% yemithetho yayo.
Kungumsebenzi wakho njengabazali obambisene nabo ukuqinisekisa ukuthi imithetho yabo ihambisana ne-ARRC - ukuba ne-Accountable, Respectful, Resilient, and Caring.
Imibuzo echaza ubudlelwane babazali nezingane
- Wawuhambisana kangakanani nabazali bakho ngenkathi nisebenzisa imithetho futhi nihlinzeka ngohlaka?
- Wenze kahle kangakanani uMama wakho uma eqhathaniswa noBaba wakho?
- Kukuthinte kanjani ngaleso sikhathi? Manje?
- Ngabe abazali bakho bakunikeze kanjani ukuzimela okwengeziwe ekwenzeni imithetho yakho njengoba ukhula?
Imithetho ephezulu engu-10 yokubambisana njengomzali:
Yiba nemithetho yekhaya engaguquguquki
Izingane zayo yonke iminyaka zidinga imithetho engaguquguquki.
KULUNGILE uma zihlukile emakhaya ahlukene. Iphuzu eliyinhloko ukuthi izingane zidinga ukubikezela nokubala ngezihloko ezingezansi -
- Isikhathi sokulala
- Isikhathi sokudla
- Umsebenzi wesikole
- Ukuthola amalungelo
- Ukuthola isiyalo
- Imisebenzi yasekhaya
- Isikhathi esibekelwe ekhaya
Amaphuzu okukhuluma
- Yayingaguquguquki kanjani imithetho ekhaya lakho lobuntwana?
- Kukuthinte kanjani lokho?
Gwema ukulwa lapho ingane yakho iseduze
Lokhu kufaka phakathi ukungathumeli imiyalezo ngempi yakho noma ukuchitha isikhathi udoti komunye nomunye kuFaceBook.
Izidingo zengane yakho zokunakwa ngekhwalithi ezivela kuwe zibaluleke kakhulu. Ungalokothi uvumele lowo owayengumlingani wakho aphuce ingane yakho isikhathi sakho sokuyigcina.
Bhekana nokungaboni ngaso linye lapho ingane isesikoleni.
Amaphuzu okukhuluma
- Abazali bakho bakusingatha kanjani ukulwa kwabo?
- Ugcina kangakanani ukulwa kude nezingane?
- Iyiphi inselelo enkulu obhekana nayo yokungalwi uzungeze izingane?
3. Akukho ukuziphindisela ngokwephula umthetho
Ungathola amaphuzu nezingane zakho bese uziphindiselela kowawungumlingani wakho.
Ungaphula imithetho yobuzali ngokunikeza ingane yakho imvume yezinto ezidinga ukwenqatshelwa okuqinile kubazali.
“Ungahlala kuze kube sebusuku kakhulu futhi ubuke nami i-TV ...,” “Ungaxoxa endlini yami ...”, njalonjalo.
Kepha cabanga - uma uvilapha ukungaguquguquki, utshela izingane zakho ukuthi azikufanele umzamo odingekayo ukuze ube ngumzali. Ubeka isidingo sakho sempindiselo emnandi ngaphezu kwezidingo zabo zokuthula.
Iphuzu elisemqoka ngaleli phuzu ukuthi ukwephula umthetho wokuphindisela kusho ukuthi utshela izingane zakho ukuthi awuzazisi.
Amaphuzu okukhuluma
- Kwenzekani ezinganeni ezingazizwa zibalulekile?
- Uzifundisa kanjani izingane zakho ngokudlala ngokulingana? Mayelana nokuziphindisela?
- Mayelana nokusebenzisa abanye (izingane zakho) njengezidladla?
- Mayelana nokumodela ukuba ngumzali oqinile futhi onokwethenjelwa?
4. Yenza imikhuba yokuguqula izingane
Yiba nesethi yesikhathi nezindawo zokushintshana ngabantwana.
Nikeza amagama abikezela ukwamukelwa kanye nomsebenzi othile wokuzikhukhumeza osiza ingane ukuthi ijwayele. Ukumomotheka nokugona okungaguquki, ihlaya, ukudla okulula kusiza ukugcina ukugxila enganeni kunokungathembani noma intukuthelo ongayizwa noma nini lapho ubona owakwakho wakudala.
Thungatha ingane yakho.
Ezinye izingane zidinga ukushisa amandla ngokulwa komcamelo, ezinye zingadinga isikhathi sokuthula lapho uzifundela, ezinye zingafuna izingoma zazo ezizithandayo zeDisney zidlalwe ngomsindo omkhulu ngenkathi ushayela ekhaya.
Amaphuzu okukhuluma
- Yimiphi imicikilisho yenguquko onayo?
- Ungakwenza kanjani ukuthi kwamukeleke ngokwengeziwe noma kujabulise?
5. Gwema ukuncintisana
Umbango wabazali ujwayelekile futhi ungaba muhle ebudlelwaneni obunempilo.
Kodwa-ke, uma ubambisana nomzali wakudala okunengekayo, obonakala efuna ukukuqeda, noma ongabonakali ezinakekela izingane, umbango ungalimaza.
Lapho ingane ibuya ekuvakasheni futhi ithi owakwakho wangaphambili wenza isidlo esingcono noma kumnandi ukuba nabo, phefumula kakhulu, bese uthi, “Ngijabule kakhulu ukuthi unomzali okwazi ukwenza lezo zinto kwakho." Bese uyiyeka.
Shintsha isihloko ngokushesha noma uqondise kabusha umsebenzi. Lokhu kudala umngcele ocacile omisa umbango onobuthi.
Amaphuzu okukhuluma
- Yimuphi umbango wabazali okhona ebudlelwaneni bakho bobuzali bobabili?
- Wawunjani umbango wabazali ngenkathi ukhula?
6. Yamukela umehluko
Kujwayelekile uma imithetho esekhaya lakho yehlukile kuleyo esemzini walowo owawushade naye.
Cacisa ngemithetho yakho. “Yileyo ndlela esenza ngayo izinto kuleli khaya. Omunye umzali wakho unemithetho yakhe, futhi lokho kulungile kulelo khaya. ”
Amaphuzu okukhuluma
- Yimiphi eminye imithetho ababheki bakho ababengavumelani ngayo?
- Yimiphi eminye imithetho ehlukene izingane zakho ezikhula nayo?
7. Gwema ukwahlukana nokunqoba isifo
Ngabe nihlukanisile ngoba ngenxa yokungqubuzana ngamanani?
Izingane zinelukuluku lemvelo lokufunda ngomehluko wabazali.
Enye indlela abazokwenza ngayo lokhu ukuqala ukusabela kwakho okungokomzwelo okubi kakhulu. Lokhu kuvamile futhi akunabungozi. Izingane zizokwenza konke okusemandleni azo ukuhlukanisa abazali kude ukuze babone okungaphakathi. Bazohlola imithetho, bacindezele isimo, basebenzise ubuqili.
Umsebenzi wabo noma umsebenzi wokuthuthuka ukuthola nokufunda, ikakhulukazi ngabazali babo.
Amaphuzu okufanele awakhumbule
- Ungathathi ngamawala uma ingane yakho idlala ngokwesaba kwakho okubi kakhulu ngokwenzeka ekhaya lomuntu owawushade naye.
- Musa ukuqhuma noma ukhale phambi kwabo uma bethi “Angiyithandi lapho”.
- Angifuni ukuvakasha.
- Ungacabangi ukuthi inhlekelele yenzeka njalo lapho ingane yakho ibuya ingcolile, ikhathele, ilambile futhi icasukile.
Ungasisingatha kahle kanjani isimo
Ungagxili eziphethweni noma ulahle umuntu owawushade naye. Lapho uzwa izinto ezivela ezinganeni zakho ezikwenza ubambe umoya, phefumula futhi uthule.
Khumbula ukuthi noma yikuphi ukuphawula okungalungile okwenziwa izingane zakho kuvame ukuthathwa ngohlamvu lukasawoti.
Hlala ungathathi hlangothi lapho ingane inika imibiko engemihle mayelana nesikhathi sayo ne-ex yakho.
Ngemuva kwalokho kufanele uyihlole kepha ngaphandle kokubabeka icala -
"Izingane zithe azisafuni ukukuvakashela, ungangichazela lokho", noma "Hheyi, izingane zingcolile-kwenzekeni?" isebenza kangcono kunokuthi “Wena oyisiphukuphuku. Uzokhula nini futhi ufunde ukunakekela izingane? ”
Iphuzu eliyinhloko ukuthi izingane zingazizwa zinecala ngokuzijabulisa nomuntu ongamthandi.
Ngemuva kwalokho badinga ukuvumelanisa ukwethembeka kwabo nomzali abanaye ngokusho izinto ezimbi ngomunye umzali. Lokhu kuvamile.
Ucwaningo lukhombisa ukuthi ingane yakho ingafunda ukukucasukela nokungakuthembi uma weqisa kulokho ekutshela khona.
Amaphuzu okukhuluma
- Uhlukanise kanjani ukusebenzisana komzali wakho ngenkathi usakhula?
- Izingane zenu zizama kanjani ukunihlukanisa nokuninqoba nobabili?
8. Ungazifaki izingane phakathi
Kunezindlela eziningi kakhulu ukuthi izingane zifakwa phakathi. Nazi izigebengu eziphezulu ezi-5.
Ukuhlola umuntu owawushade naye
Ungaceli ingane yakho ukuthi inhloli omunye umzali wayo. Ungahle ulingwe kakhulu, kepha ungabagcobi. Le mihlahlandlela emibili idweba umugqa phakathi kokugcoba nengxoxo enempilo.
- Kugcine kuvamile.
- Babuze imibuzo evulekile.
Ungahlala ubeka izingane zakho emibuzweni evulekile efana ne, "Ibinjani impelasonto yakho?", Noma "Wenzeni?"
Kodwa-ke, ungazidingi imininingwane enjengokuthi, “Ingabe uMama wakho ubenaye umuntu athandana naye?”, Noma “Ingabe uBaba wakho wayebukele iTV ngempelasonto yonke?”
Imibuzo emibili yokugcina imayelana nesidingo somzali sokuhlola hhayi ukuthi ingane ifuna ukukhuluma ngani. Kungokwemvelo ukuzizwa ukhathazekile noma ukufuna ukwazi ngempilo entsha yalowo owawushade naye. Kepha khumbula-sekuyisikhathi sokuyeka uye phambili.
Ukufumbathisa izingane zakho
Ungafumbathisi izingane zakho. Musa ukungena ekudonsweni kwempi yezipho okwandayo ne-ex yakho. Esikhundleni salokho, fundisa izingane zakho ngomehluko phakathi "kwezipho zabazali nokuba khona kwabazali".
Uhambo lwecala
Ungayisebenzisi imishwana eyenza izingane zizizwe zinecala ngesikhathi osichithe nomunye umzali. Isibonelo, kunokuba uthi "Ngikukhumbule!", Yithi "Ngiyakuthanda!".
Uphoqe izingane zakho ukuthi zikhethe phakathi kwabazali
Ungabuzi ingane ukuthi ifuna ukuhlala kuphi.
9. Ukuziphindiselela nge-ex yakho
Musa ukuthola ngisho
Ngisho noma lowo owawushade naye ekuhlambalaza, ungaphindiseli emuva. Lokho kuphonsa ingane yakho phakathi nenkundla yempi embi. Kululaza inhlonipho yengane yakho ngawe.
Ungathi uma ungazivikeli, ingane yakho izokubona ubuthaka. Kepha, ukuvezwa kobutha yikhona okuqeda inhlonipho yengane kubazali bayo hhayi ukwehluleka kwakho ukuzivikela.
Noma nini lapho wehluleka ukubeka phambili ukuphepha kwabo ngokomzwelo uyabadumaza, futhi bayakwazi lokho.
Amaphuzu okukhuluma
- Abazali bakho bakubeke kanjani phakathi?
- Uzifake kanjani izingane zakho phakathi?
Dala uhlelo lomndeni olwandisiwe
Xoxa futhi uvumelane ngeqhaza amalungu omndeni azolidlala kanye nokufinyelela abazokunikezwa ngenkathi ingane yakho isengamele omunye nomunye.
Vumela futhi ukhuthaze izingane zakho ukuthi zigcine izibopho nogogo nomkhulu wazo, obabekazi, omalume, nabazala kuzo zombili izinhlangothi zikamama nobaba.
Amaphuzu okukhuluma
- Bhala ukuthi ingane yakho izotholani ngokuhlala uxhumekile kolunye uhlangothi lomndeni wakhe
- Yini ekukhathazayo ngengane yakho nangalolo hlangothi lomndeni wayo?
10. Thatha umgwaqo ophakeme
Noma ngabe umlingani wakho osebenza naye engundabamlonyeni, awutholi ukuzithoba kulelo zinga.
Owayengumlingani wakho kungenzeka ukuthi unenhliziyo embi, uyaphindisela, uyakhohlisa, unolaka kodwa lokho akukwenzi kulungele ukuthi nawe wenze okufanayo.
Uma osebenza naye esebenza njengentsha eyonakele, qagela ini? Awutholi ukwenza njengabo. Kuyalingana ngoba bayahamba.
Unelungelo lokuthukuthela, futhi udabuke. Kepha uma izingane zakho zinomzali oyedwa osebenzayo, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi uhlale ungumuntu omdala.
Khumbula, ufundisa izingane zakho ukuthi zingazisingatha kanjani izimo ezinzima nobudlelwano obunzima nobunzima. Izingane zakho zimunca isimo sakho sengqondo namakhono okubhekana nezikhathi ezinzima.
Ngiyaqinisekisa ukuthi ngolunye usuku lapho sebekhulile futhi bebhekene nenkinga, bazothola ngaphakathi kubo amandla esimilo, isithunzi, nobuholi obukhombisile eminyakeni enzima lapho bekhula.
Kuzofika usuku lapho bezobheka emuva bese bethi, “Umama wami [noma ubaba] uziphathe kahle futhi ehlonipha kangangoba ngiyabona ukuthi ubengithanda kangakanani. Umzali wami wasebenzela ukunginikeza ubuntwana obumnandi. Ngibonga kakhulu ngaleso sipho. Ngifisa sengathi omunye umzali wami ubengazideli ngale ndlela. ”
Amaphuzu okukhuluma
- Bathathe kanjani abazali bakho umgwaqo ophakeme?
- Uphakama kahle kangakanani ngaphezu kwakho namuhla?