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- Usayizi owodwa awulingani konke
- Ukuqomisana kwangemva kokuya esikhathini
- Kungani abesifazane abadala befuna abesilisa abasebasha
- Ivelaphi imilingo
Emuva ngosuku, umuntu wayengakwazi ukubona abesifazane asebekhulile bethandana nendoda esencane kangako. Kepha kulezi zinsuku, kubonakala sengathi kukhona izifo eziwumqedazwe zama-cougars laphaya.
Lapho kuxoxwa, abanye banikeza izixazululo zebhayoloji, ezinye zengqondo nezenhlalo. Kunoma ikuphi, iqiniso ukuthi itaboo ezungeze leyo midlalo ayisenamandla njengakuqala. Ngaphezu kwalokho, abesifazane abaningi asebekhulile nabo bashada abalingani babo abasebasha. Nayi i-101 yabesifazane asebekhulile abathandana nowesilisa osemncane.
Usayizi owodwa awulingani konke
Into ebaluleke kakhulu ongayithatha kulesi sihloko yile - ayikho inhlanganisela elungile noma engalungile yendawo yonke yabalingani. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngokubuka kwe-anthropological, izinto zibonakala zilokhu ziguquka ngaso sonke isikhathi kanye nezinguquko kwezenhlalo nezepolitiki.
Futhi lokho kungaphakathi komphakathi owodwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Uma uthatha okujwayelekile emasikweni ahlukene, uyabona ukuthi ayikho, empeleni, into efana nokuthi "ejwayelekile".
Lokhu okutholwe yi-anthropological kukhombisa ukuthi imikhuba eminingi isuselwa kulokho umphakathi onikeziwe ongakubheka njengokufiselekayo, kungaba ngokombono webhayoloji noma wezenhlalo. Kakhulu, uma kukhulunywa ngokuthandana, kuyindaba yokuzala.
Kepha, ezikhathini zanamuhla nasemiphakathini yanamuhla, njengoba singadingi ngempela ukwenza izimpilo zethu kanye nemiphakathi yethu igxile kulokho, ezinye izitayela ziyavela futhi zichume.
Lokhu kufaka phakathi okubizwa ngama-cougars, kanye nemibhangqwana yobulili obufanayo, noma ezinye izimo lapho ukudala inzalo kungeyona into ebaluleke kakhulu.
Isimo senkolelo yentsha encane, ebuthakathaka kodwa evundile nendoda enamandla enamandla, ecebile ingumkhiqizo webhayoloji.
Kepha, kugcinwa futhi ngumphakathi, njengoba umphakathi uthanda okwaziwayo, okuqinile, futhi, okubaluleke kakhulu - izakhiwo nemikhuba ebikezelayo.
Ukuqomisana kwangemva kokuya esikhathini
Iqiniso elingenalutho lokuqomisana ukuthi ekugcineni, linenhloso yokukhiqiza inzalo. Lokhu kusuka ngokombono webhayoloji. Kepha, abantu bayinkimbinkimbi kakhulu kunalokho, futhi kunezinye izinto eziningi ezizodlala.
Njengoba umphakathi wethu uthuthuka, kanjalo nobude bempilo, futhi okubalulekile, izinga lempilo eminyakeni yobudala. Ngakho-ke, kwabesifazane, ukunqamuka kokuya esikhathini akusho ukuphela kwempilo yokuphola.
Eqinisweni, lo mkhuba osanda kuvela futhi ovelele emasikweni aseNtshonalanga. Njengoba izingane zihlelwe emikhondweni yazo, izibalo ziveza, ngokwanda abesifazane bacela isehlukaniso kubalingani babo.
E-UK, kuphela phakathi kuka-2015 no-2016, iphesenti labesifazane abaneminyaka engaphezu kwengama-55 abacela isehlukaniso leqe ngo-15%, nokuyinto eyenyuka kakhulu.
Kungani abesifazane abadala befuna abesilisa abasebasha
Njengoba ukuzimela kwabesifazane kwezezimali nakwezenhlalo kukhuphuka, kunjalo, ngokusobala, inkululeko yabo yokukhetha abalingani abangasekelwe ezimisweni zendabuko zokuthi bakwazi ukumnakekela. Abesifazane basakhangwa abesilisa abaphumelelayo, kepha lokhu akuhunyushelwa esiqeshaneni sabesifazane abasebasha abafuna amadoda amadala.
Esikhundleni salokho, abesifazane abaningi abafinyelela eminyakeni ethile bavukela indlela ebekiwe yokuguga.
Abafuni ukuthi impilo yabo yezocansi iphele ngamaqanda abo engasakhiqizi amaqanda. Futhi kaningi ababatholi abalingani babo amashumi amaningi eminyaka bejabulisa.
Noma, abakaze bashade kepha balandela izifiso zabo zobungcweti nezifundo esikhundleni salokho.
Manje, njengoba befika lapho befuna ukuba khona njengabantu ngabanye, bafuna umlingani ogcwalisa izidingo zabo. Abafuni ukuzinza.
Futhi bazethembile futhi bazi kangcono izidingo nezifiso zabo kunabesifazane abasebasha.
Njengalokhu, laba besifazane abasha empeleni abayitholi indoda eneminyaka yabo ikhanga noma ivuselela ngokwanele. Ngokufana nabesilisa, abesifazane bangathola nobuhle nentshisekelo yesithandwa esisha.
Ivelaphi imilingo
Ngaphandle kwalokhu esesishilo, umdlalo phakathi kowesifazane osekhulile nowesilisa omncane awenelisi kowesifazane kuphela, kunjalo.
Bobabili abalingani bathola okuthile kukho. Ngokuvamile, kungenzeka ukuthi ukuhlukahluka phakathi kwabo kungumthombo wenjabulo nentshisekelo engapheli.
Abesilisa nabesifazane banezidingo ezingafani ngezigaba ezahlukene zempilo yabo. Abesilisa, ngokuvamile, babonakala bevulekele ngokwengeziwe kokuhlangenwe nakho okuhlukile, futhi bengaqondile ukufeza izinhloso zabo zokuzala umntwana. Abesifazane bavame ukuba nalesi sidingo sokugxila ekuziphatheni kwabo jikelele.
Kepha, njengoba owesifazane ekuhlula lokhu, ngandlela thile noma enye, yena, kanye nomlingani wakhe omncane, baqala ukujabulela isasasa lamazwe ahlukene ngokucindezela okuncane kakhulu nokulindelwe.
Okuvame ukuguqula kube ubudlelwano obenelisa kakhulu, lapho abantu ababili bachitha isikhathi ndawonye njengabantu abazimele, bejabulela ubudlelwano bangempela, futhi ngenxa yalesi sizathu kuphela.