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- Luyini ucansi lwezothando iningi lethu?
- Yenza imvelo yakho ibe yothando ngokwengeziwe
- Hlanganisa ikhabethe lakho
- Dala isingeniso esifanelekayo sokwenza uthando
- Thola ulimi lwakho lothando
- Ungayicishi le ndlela
Ucansi nezothando akuhlangani. Ngakho-ke, kusho ukuthini ukuthandana ngocansi?
Ubulili bezothando buveza lezi zithombe zemibhangqwana eminingi.
- Ukuhamba kwelanga okude emabhishi amhlophe athambile athambile
- Izimbali zezimbali ezibomvu ezineziqu ezinde ukufika kwakho ekhaya noma emsebenzini
- Ibhokisi lamashokoleti amahle obisi amnyama aseSwitzerland zilethwe emnyango wakho
- Idina lekhandlela yakhiwa ukudla okuthandayo ne-champagne
Zonke lezi zimo zilandelwa ucansi olunethenda kunazo zonke, olunothando nolumangalisayo ongalucabanga.
Yebo, iningi lethu lezi zinganekwane ezinhle zebhayisikobho, kepha kunezindlela eziningi zokwenza ucansi (futhi nempilo!) Zithandane kakhulu.
Kukhona ezinye izeluleko ezimnandi zocansi ongazilandela ukukhulisa i-quotient yothando empilweni yakho futhi ujabulele ubulili obuhle kakhulu bezothando ne-bae yakho.
Ngakho-ke, ungabe usabheka eminye imibono yezocansi! Ake sizibandakanye ngokocansi ocansini 101
Luyini ucansi lwezothando iningi lethu?
Ngaphambi kokuthi singene emibonweni yokuthuthukisa ubulili kwezothando emshadweni, ake siqale siqonde ukuthi wonke umuntu wakha imephu yemicabango yomuntu uqobo yokuthi luyini uthando.
Umbono wakho wokuthi kuyini okuthandanayo ungahluka kakhulu kunalokho kwe-BFF yakho, engahle yehluke kakhulu kunombono womlingani wehhovisi lakho wokuthi yini eyenza into yothando, njalonjalo.
Ngakho-ke, ungaba kanjani nobulili bezothando lapho kungekho usayizi owodwa olingana sonke isixazululo sokulungisa ubudlelwano be-bland?
Ukuguqula ubudlelwano bakho busuke blah buye enjabulweni, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi abantu abaningi banemibono ejwayelekile yalokho okubandakanyekile ocansini lwezothando.
Okokuqala, abantu ababili abathandana ngempela yisiqalo esihle.
Ungaba nesikhathi esimnandi ngokumangalisayo nomunye umuntu ngaphandle kokuthi "nithandane" noma "nithandane," kepha ngandlela thile ingxenye yothando ayibonakali iyinto eyinhloko kulokho kubala.
Ngakho-ke ukufingqa, iziphi izithako ezidingekayo zencazelo yakho yomuntu siqu yezothando, nokuthi ungayifeza kanjani le njongo?
Ngizothatha eyodwa kukholamu B, amabili enombolo 117, manje ngikwenze inombolo 46. Kuzwakala kudida?
Yebo, izinto eziholela ocansini lwezothando zifana kancane nalawo amamenyu amade kakhulu, adidayo owathola kwezinye izindawo zokudlela zamaShayina. Ake sibheke ezinye zazo ukuvuselela ezothando ebudlelwaneni bakho.
Yenza imvelo yakho ibe yothando ngokwengeziwe
Ucabanga ukuthi ukuphi lapho uzithanda khona wena?
Ingabe kusekhaya embhedeni wakho, noma ngabe kusendaweni ehluke ngokuphelele, lapho okusha kwengeza khona esimweni sezulu sothando?
Uma kusekhaya, uyathanda kufaka phakathi umculo, amalambu ahlukile, amashidi alineni aqabulayo nezimbali etafuleni lombhede?
Ngabe wenza indawo yothando ukukhulisa kusihlwa (noma ntambama, ekuseni, kahle, noma nini)? Noma ingabe indawo yakho yothando ibandakanya ukukhishwa ususwe uye endaweni ongakaze ube kuyo ngaphambili?
Mane ukhumbule, noma ngabe kubonakala kunesibindi noma kuthandana kangakanani, ukuba ne-tryst endaweni yomphakathi akuyona nje kuphela into engekho emthethweni, kungahle kube yihlazo uma bekungenzeka ukuthi kube ikhasi elilodwa lephephandaba lendawo!
Hlanganisa ikhabethe lakho
Ingabe uzizwa uthandana kakhulu ukugqoka okuthile okukhangayo nokuvezayo (uma ungowesifazane) noma dapper futhi suave a la James Bond (uma uyindoda)?
Impela, lokhu kuzwakala njengengubo yokukhohlisa ehlukile, kepha kunesizathu.
Abantu abaningi bazizwa bethandeka kakhulu lapho izingubo abazigqokile ziveza imizwa yabo yothando. Abesilisa nabesifazane bangazizwa bethandana begqoke amajini kanye nezikibha.
Izembatho akudingeki ukuthi zibe yizintambo, izintambo ze-g-lingerie nezingubo zangaphansi ezi-skimpy ukuze zithandeke!
Abanye abantu bakuthola ukugqoka ngemvunulo kungajabulisa.
- URomeo noJuliet?
- UCleopatra noMark Antony?
- Scarlett noRhett?
Thola ukuthi yini imvunulo ekwenza uzizwe unothando futhi uyenzele yona!
Dala isingeniso esifanelekayo sokwenza uthando
Lokho okwenzayo ngaphambi kovuthondaba lobusuku bakho bothando ngokuqinisekile kuyindlela yokudlala phambili, futhi kubaluleke kakhulu njenge-foreplay yangempela.
Yini enithanda ukuyenza nobabili?
I-filet mignon ne-truffles dinner e-Chateau d'Amor, indawo yokudlela yaseFrance ebiza kakhulu, noma idla futhi idilize i-Double Double hamburger, inyakaze futhi ifice ku-In-N-Out yendawo? Noma okuthile phakathi?
Zonke lezi zinketho yilokho okwenzela ukuthandana kwakho siqu.
Isimo sendawo yokudlela singangeza ekuzizweni kothando kusihlwa.
Umbono omuhle, i- umsindo wamagagasi kude, ukukhanyisa okuqondayo, izihlalo ezinethezekile, futhi unake (noma unganakile!) insiza bonke bangangeza ukuqala okuhle kobusuku bezothando.
Futhi emva kwalelo dina, kuthiwani nge-movie?
Ngenkathi i-chick flicks ihlale ithandana, kungahle kube yisikhathi sefilimu yothando ngesikhalazo somhlaba wonke. Njalo ukubheja okuhle: "Casablanca".
Thola ulimi lwakho lothando
Akukho okubaluleke kakhulu kunoma yibuphi ubudlelwano njengokuxhumana okucacile nokuthola ulimi lomunye nomunye lothando.
Okubaluleke ngokwanele, izinto zobulili bezothando zifaka ukuxhumana okuthembekile nokuvulelekile, uthando, izintshisekelo ezabiwe kanye nokuvumelana ebudlelwaneni njengamanye ama-cogs esondweni lobudlelwano benjabulo.
Kepha kwesinye isikhathi ukukhuluma kakhulu ngobudlelwano kuqeda uthando, ngakho-ke umbono uxubene impela ngokuthi kufanele uxoxe kangakanani ngempilo yakho yothando nomlingani wakho. Noma kunjalo, ezothando eziholela ocansini zenza chemistry evuthayo phakathi kwezithandani.
I-Gottman Institute, ngokwesibonelo, ithi kufanele, "ube nezingxoxo eziqhubekayo mayelana nokusondelana ngokocansi", kepha abanye abantu ngeke baneliseke ngezingxoxo ezingapheli mayelana nezocansi.
Ukulinganisela okuhle kwezihloko kanye ne-banter ehehayo kungenza i-foreplay yothando kakhulu emibhangqwaneni eminingi.
Ungayicishi le ndlela
Njengoba ukubikezela okuhle kukobulili bezothando, isikhathi ngemuva kocansi sibaluleke ngokulinganayo. Ngemuva kwalokho ngokuvamile kuyisikhathi senhliziyo eqotho ezingxoxweni ezisuka enhliziyweni.
Ngenxa yamakhemikhali athile akhishwe ngesikhathi somvuthwandaba, ungazizwa usondele kunanini ngaphambili kumlingani wakho ngalesi sikhathi.
Ngokuya ngesimo semizwa, wena nomlingani wakho ningaxoxa:
- Okuzwakala kukuhle
- Ongathanda ukukuzama futhi
- Mhlawumbe ungaxoxa ngesihloko sezinto ezintsha ongathanda ukuzama ebuhlotsheni bakho obuseduze
Vele, abanye abantu bangavele bafune ukulala, ngakho-ke qiniseka ukuthi uyabona ukuthi ngabe kunjalo futhi ungaqhubeki njengebhokisi lokuxoxa!
Ezothando emshadweni akumele neze ziphenduke, ngoba zibandakanya uthando, ubulili nobunye phakathi kwabantu abashadile.
Ukuthandana ngesikhathi socansi kungahle kungabi khona emshadweni noma ebudlelwaneni lapho okungenani omunye wabalingani engakuboni ukubaluleka kocansi lwezithandani ngokuphila isikhathi eside kobudlelwano nenhlalakahle jikelele.
Futhi, ukukhulisa isibopho sothando lwakho, futhi wandise ukufisa kwakho komunye nomunye, kungaba umqondo omuhle ukubheka lezi zikhundla zocansi ezithandanayo.
Sethemba ukuthi nobabili niyothambekela ngendlela efanayo ukuze umlingani oyedwa angashiywa elele engalele futhi ebheke ophahleni.
Ubulili buyinto ebaluleke kakhulu ebudlelwaneni futhi buba ngcono kuphela lapho uthando nesikhathi kuyizingxenye ezilinganayo ze-equation.