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- 1. Hlela usuku lobusuku
- 2. Shintsha inqubo yakho yokulala
- 3. Ungakunaki ukubukeka kwakho
- 4. Bamba iqhaza ekuzilibaziseni okuvamile
- 5. Mangaza omunye nomunye ngezipho ezincane noma ukushukuma komzimba
- 6. Ukudlala ngothando nomlingani wakho
- 7. Tshela oshade naye ukuthi kungani ubathanda
Noma ngabe ubunezinyanga eziyisithupha noma iminyaka eyisithupha (noma ngaphezulu!), Ezothando zibalulekile ebudlelwaneni.
Lokhu kucela umbuzo, kungani uthando lubalulekile emshadweni?
- Kungamandla okubasa agcina ubuhlobo buqhubekela phambili.
- Kugcina ubudlelwane buphila, bujabulisa futhi bunenjongo.
- Izenzo zothando ngumlingani wakho kukwenza uzizwe ufiswa, uthandwa futhi unakekelwa.
- Bayakukhumbuza ukuthi umlingani wakho akakugcinanga ngokukhetha wena kepha uyakwazisa ukuba khona kwakho empilweni yabo.
Manje njengoba usazi ukuthi ukuthandana kubaluleke kangakanani ebudlelwaneni, yiziphi ezinye izindlela zokufaka ezothando ebudlelwaneni bakho?
Ngemuva kweminyaka embalwa yokuphila kwasemshadweni, akuvamile ukuthi ezothando nezasasa lobudlelwano zehle zize kancane.
Kodwa-ke, umzamo omncane ungabuyisa inhlansi entsha yothando obukade ukujabulela.
Lapho usubonile ukubaluleka kothando ebudlelwaneni ungasebenzisa lezi ziphakamiso ezingakusiza uvuselele lowo muzwa omuhle wezothando.
Futhi, buka le vidiyo ukuze uqonde kungani ubudlelwane bakho bungase buye ekwehleni:
1. Hlela usuku lobusuku
Ngemuva kwesonto lezinsuku ezinde lapho usebenza khona, umcabango wokugqoka ushiye indlu yakho (nezingane) uye endaweni yokudlela enhle kungabonakala njengomzamo omkhulu.
Kepha uma wenza lokhu, uzozizwa umncane, uyaphila futhi sengathi ubuyisa ubunikazi bakho njengomuntu ocansini.
Ukudla kwakusihlwa nowakwakho esimeni sothando kungabuzuzisa kakhulu ubuhlobo bakho futhi kukusize uqonde ukubaluleka kothando ebudlelwaneni.
Izinsuku zobusuku zikunikeza isikhathi esisodwa lapho ungagxila kwesinye sezici ezibaluleke kakhulu empilweni yakho - umbhangqwana wakho.
Dwebela ukuthi kungani uthando lubalulekile ebudlelwaneni, hamba emzamweni wokuvuselela ukuxhumana nomlingani wakho futhi ugcine ubuhlobo buphelele.
2. Shintsha inqubo yakho yokulala
Emibhangqwaneni eminingi yesikhathi eside eshadile, ucansi lungaba yi-ho-hum.
Uyazi ukuthi yini okufanele uyenze ukuvula omunye nomunye, futhi isikhathi sifushane, ngakho-ke uhamba ngezinyathelo ukuze nje “wenze umsebenzi wenziwe.” Lesi simo sengqondo, nakuba sisizuzisa, singalimaza kakhulu ubudlelwano bakho bothando.
Ngamunye udinga ukuzizwa efiseleka futhi ekhangayo, ngakho-ke chitha isikhathi usebenzisa ingxenye yothando lwakho lokwenza uthando.
Buyela kuzo zonke iziqalo ozithokozele ekuqaleni kobudlelwano bakho.
- Yengana kancane kancane.
- Sebenzisa amagama akho ukuveza okuthandayo, lapho uthanda khona, kungani ukuthanda, nokuthi umlingani wakho ukwenza kahle kangakanani lokhu noma lokho.
- Shintsha iphethini yakho yokusondelana.
Ukugqamisa ukubaluleka kothando ebudlelwaneni, yethula izinto ezintsha - izikhundla, amathoyizi ocansi, ukwabelana ngamaphupho, ukulingisa.
3. Ungakunaki ukubukeka kwakho
Imibhangqwana eshade isikhathi eside inesipho sokuzizwa ivikelekile ebudlelwaneni bayo.
Lokhu kungenye yezinto ezinhle ngokushada - awusizwa isidingo sokujabulisa umlingani wakho isikhathi ngasinye lapho nibonana.
Uyazikhumbula lezo zinsuku zokuqala lapho uchitha khona amahora phambi kwekhabethe lakho, ukhipha futhi uzama izingubo ezahlukahlukene?
Khumbula ukunaka kwakho ekubukekeni kwakho ngokomzimba, ngohambo oluya endaweni yokugunda izinwele, i-splurge kwikhawunta yokwenza izimonyo, ukuthengwa kwezingubo zangaphansi ezinhle?
Ugcine nini ukuzibandakanya kunoma ikuphi kwalokho? Ngabe ukungazithokozi kwakho ekuzinakekeleni kuyahambisana nokubaluleka okuncane kwezothando ebudlelwaneni, ohlelweni lwakho lwezinto?
Letha uthando oluthile ebuhlotsheni bakho ngokubuyela emuva, okungenani kancane, kulezo zinsuku zokuphola. Naka ukubukeka kwakho.
Izobuyisa injabulo ebuhlotsheni bakho (ikakhulukazi uma ubonakala ngosuku lwakho olulandelayo ebusuku nezingubo zangaphansi zangaphansi ngaphansi kwengubo yakho entsha).
4. Bamba iqhaza ekuzilibaziseni okuvamile
Lapho kubonakala sengathi konke sekuyisicefe futhi kuyisidina ebudlelwaneni bakho, cwaninga umdlalo wokuzilibazisa omusha, umdlalo noma inselelo eningakaze niyizame ngaphambili.
Qeqesha umjaho we-10K (ukuhamba noma ukugijima), nikela isikhathi esithile kusihlwa njalo ekusebenzeni iphazili ndawonye, dlalani umdlalo wevidiyo ndawonye, nizijwayeze imibhangqwana yoga.
Umgomo ukuqonda ukuthi kungani uthando lubalulekile ebudlelwaneni, jabulani kakhulu ndawonye futhi nisondelane.
5. Mangaza omunye nomunye ngezipho ezincane noma ukushukuma komzimba
Lokhu akudingeki ukuthi kukhanye noma kubize.
Umbhalo wothando omncane nje eposini eliseduze kwesikhwama sakhe, noma i-pizza emangazayo elethwa ehhovisi lakhe uma wazi ukuthi uphuthume ngesikhathi sokudla futhi akakwazi ukuphuma, lezi zinto ezincane zingapakisha isibhakela esikhulu sothando ngoba bathi “ Ngicabanga wena. ”
6. Ukudlala ngothando nomlingani wakho
Kunjalo, ukudlala ngothando nomuntu oshade naye. Ukhohliwe ngalobo buciko obulahlekile, akunjalo?
Uma uthole impendulo eqondile yombuzo, ingabe ezothando zibalulekile emshadweni, khona-ke usuvele uyazi ukuthi kunezinto ezimbalwa ezithandana kakhulu kunokudlala ngothando.
Dlalisana ngothando njengoba nixubha amazinyo kusihlwa. (Mhlawumbe ukucindezela phansi okuncane, noma isandla esinobuqili sidla izindawo zakhe ezibucayi?)
Ukudlala ngothando lapho uhlala phansi ukuze ubuke uhlelo lwakho oluthandayo, beka isandla sakho ethangeni labo bese usikhipha kancane. Ukudlala ngothando ngokushintshana ngombhalo emini... ”Angisakwazi ukulinda ukuba seduze kwakho embhedeni namhlanje kusihlwa!”
Konke lokhu kuzokusiza ukuthi uqonde ukubaluleka kothando ebudlelwaneni futhi ukhumbule ukuthi kwakunjani ukuba seqhumeni lothando olusha lapho ezothando ziphezulu futhi wawungeke ugcine izandla zakho komunye nomunye.
Buyisa!
7. Tshela oshade naye ukuthi kungani ubathanda
Ziningi izindlela ongaxhumana ngazo ngothando lwakho nomlingani wakho, ngaphezu kokulula kokuthi “Ngiyakuthanda.” Kunganjani ukuthi “Ngiyayithanda indlela osinakekela kahle ngayo sonke”, noma “Ngiyalithanda iphunga lakho elimnandi” noma “Ngiyabonga ukuthi uyakhumbula ukukhipha kabusha iviki ngalinye.”
Iphuzu ukuthi xhumana nomlingani wakho ukuthi uyababona, uyabazisa, futhi awulokothi ubathathe kalula.
Ukugoqa
Lapho bobabili abalingani bekhumbula ukugcina ingxenye yothando iphila ebudlelwaneni, ukwenza omunye nomunye ajabule futhi azizwe ethandwa, lokhu kuguqulela ebudlelwaneni obuhlala njalo nobenelisayo.
Lapho uthando lufa ebudlelwaneni ekugcineni okubandakanya ubudlelwano obunqamukile, kunqanyulwe zonke izintambo.
Ukubaluleka kwezothando ebudlelwaneni akukwazi ukugcizelelwa ngokwanele. Ezothando yilangabi eligcina ukuxhumana nentshisekelo yabashadikazi kuphila.
Lapho ubona futhi uzizwa ubudlelwano bakho buhamba ngomgwaqo wokukhungatheka nokwaneliseka kobudlelwano, yima, bese ubuza ukuthi kungani uthando lubalulekile ebudlelwaneni.
Imibhangqwana eyenza imizamo yokugcina ezothando iphila iklonyeliswa ngobudlelwano obujabulisayo nobenelisayo.
Ngakho-ke, ungavumeli ukujwayeleka kwempilo kudlule ekubalulekeni kwezothando ebudlelwaneni.