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- Prakthiza ukuthethelela okusuka enhliziyweni yakho
- Ukuthethelelwa ngemuva kokukhashelwa
- Kungani ukuphenduka nokuthethelelwa emshadweni kubalulekile?
- Ukuphenduka nokuthethelelwa emshadweni akusoze kwaba lula
Umshado ngekhulu lama-21 ungabonakala uhluke kakhulu kunaleyo mishado eyenziwe ngogogo nomkhulu nokhokho bethu ekuqaleni- kuya maphakathi nekhulu lama-20. Okhokho bethu babenokubekezela okungcono, futhi ukuthethelelwa emshadweni kwakungeyona into enkulu emuva ngaleso sikhathi.
Imishado namuhla ivame ukubonakala ingenelwa ngaphakathi, kungabikho muntu oziqonda ngokweqiniso izidingo noma ubuntu bomunye, okungaholela ekuxhumaneni okungafanele, ukungezwani noma ukucasuka emshadweni.
Ngeshwa, lokhu kuxhumana okungaqondile, yize kungekukhulu noma kungathí sina, kungaqala ukuchitha umshado ngaphakathi ngaphakathi, kuqede isisekelo esiyisisekelo sothando nokwethembana ngenxa yokungabikho kokuphenduka nentethelelo.
Ukuxolela nokudedela kubonakala kungumsebenzi ongenakwenzeka. Ukuphenduka - isenzo sokuxolisa ngobuqotho ngezenzo noma ngamazwi akho, imvamisa kubonakala kuyindlela yokuxhumana elahlekile. Igama lesiGreki lapho ukuphenduka lisetshenziswa khona njengebizo lithi “metanoia,” okusho “ukushintsha umqondo.”
Kukangaki usho okuthile koshade naye okungenamusa noma okulimazayo? Zingaki zalezo zikhathi lapho uke waxolisa khona, noma uke wazama ukuqhubekela phambili futhi ungawanaki amazwana kanye nomthelela wazo ukuya phambili?
Ngokudabukisayo, imibhangqwana eyengeziwe ikhetha lezi zimo zokugcina njengoba kushiwo ngenhla. Esikhundleni sokuzithoba futhi siphenduke, asinaki ukulimala okubangelwe yizenzo zethu namazwi ethu futhi sivumela imizwa emibi ikhule ngenxa yabo.
Prakthiza ukuthethelela okusuka enhliziyweni yakho
Bobabili indoda nomfazi kufanele bazame ukwenza ukuthethelela emshadweni. Lokho akusho ukuthi, "Ungakhathazeki ngokwenzile, ngiyaphila ngakho, futhi sonke siyawenza amaphutha."
Impela, lokho kuzwakala kumangalisa ngokwasemoyeni futhi kukhulu kuphuma emilonyeni yethu, kepha, eqinisweni, ungumzenzisi ophelele. Ugcwele ubuhlungu, intukuthelo, ukufutheka nentukuthelo. Ukuxolela nokudedela akuyona inkonzo yezindebe.
Ukuthethelelwa ebudlelwaneni kuvela enhliziyweni yakho ...
"Angisenacala kuwe ngaleli cala."
“Ngeke ngiphinde ngilethe lokhu kuwe bese ngikubamba ngakho.”
"Ngeke ngikhulume ngaleli cala abanye bengazi."
Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukuthethelela kulandela isenzo.
Ukuthethelelwa ngemuva kokukhashelwa
Uma kukhulunywa ngokuxolela oshade naye okopelayo, kunzima kakhulu ukwenza ukuthethelela emshadweni. Kepha, ngaphambi kokuthi sikhulume ngokuxolela oshade naye, wake wacabanga yini ukuthi kungani kubalulekile ukuthethelela.
Ukuthethelelwa emshadweni kwenza okuhle kakhulu kulowo oxolelayo kunalowo odinga ukuxolelwa.
Akulula neze ukuthethelela umuntu ngokukopela. Kepha, ukubamba amagqubu kukubola ngaphakathi futhi konakalisa injabulo yakho. Kukulimaza kakhulu kunomuntu okwenze kabi.
Ngakho-ke lapho ucabanga ukuthi ungamxolela kanjani umlingani okopelayo, cabanga ngombono wakho. Cabanga ngazo zonke izizathu zokuthi kungani kufanele udedele amagqubu. Ukuthethelela umuntu omthandayo kunzima kodwa akunakwenzeka.
Uma uphumelela ekwenzeni ukuthethelela emshadweni, ungathola ukuthula kwaphezulu nenkululeko emicabangweni evuselelayo. Ukuqhubeka nokuqonda ukubaluleka kokuxolelana nokuphenduka emshadweni, lokhu okulandelayo ezinye izingcaphuno ezibalulekile eziseBhayibhelini.
Ukubuyisa ngempela ukukholwa nokwethembana komunye nomunye emshadweni wakho, ukuphenduka kufanele kube khona futhi kube ngeqiniso ngokuphelele. ULuka 17: 3 uthi, “Ngakho qaphelani nina. Uma umfowenu noma udadewenu ekona, mkhuze; futhi uma bephenduka, bathethelele. ”
UJakobe uthi sonke siyakhubeka ngezindlela eziningi (Jakobe 3: 2). Lokho kusho ukuthi wena noshade naye nizokhubeka ... ngezindlela eziningi. Ngeke umangale uma umlingani wakho ona, kufanele nje uzibophezele ekufezeni ingxenye “yezifiso zakho” noma ezimbi kakhulu bese ulungele ukuxolela.
Kungani ukuphenduka nokuthethelelwa emshadweni kubalulekile?
UKristu wafundisa ukuthi kunezikhathi lapho kufanele simane sixolele futhi sithandazele ukuthi iNkosi iholele omunye ekuphendukeni.
UJesu wathi kuMathewu 6: 14-15: “Uma uthethelela abanye abantu uma bekona, noYihlo osezulwini uzokuxolela nawe. Kepha uma ningathetheleli abanye izono zabo, noYihlo akayikunithethelela izono zenu. ”
Ubuye athi kuMarko 11:25: “Lapho nimile nikhuleka, uma kukhona eninakho namacala komunye, thethelela, ukuze noYihlo osezulwini anithethelele izono zenu. ”
Kuyiqiniso ukuthi kungaba khona ukuthethelelwa ngaphandle kokuphenduka ngomunye umuntu (obuye abhekiswe njengokuthethelelwa okungenamibandela), lokhu akwenele ekubuyisaneni okuphelele phakathi kwabantu abashadile.
UJesu ufundisa kuLuka 17: 3-4: “Ziqapheleni. Uma umfowenu noma udadewenu ekona, mkhuze; futhi uma bephenduka, bathethelele. Ngisho noma bona kuwe kasikhombisa ngosuku futhi babuyela kuwe kasikhombisa bethi, ‘Ngiyaphenduka,’ kufanele ubathethelele. ”
Ngokusobala uJesu uyazi ukuthi ngeke kube khona ukubuyisana okuphelele ngenkathi isono simi phakathi kobudlelwano. Lokhu kunjalo ikakhulukazi ngendoda nenkosikazi.
Uma kufanele babe munye ngokweqiniso, kufanele kuxoxwe ngezono futhi kubhekwane nazo. Azikwazi ukufihlana komunye nomunye. Kufanele kube nokuvuleleka, ukwethembeka, ukuvuma izono, ukuphenduka, ukuxolelwa nokubuyisana okugcwele.
Noma yini engaphansi ngeke ivumele umshado uchume, kepha kunalokho qala ukuyibulala kancane kancane ngokungabi nokuthula, ukuzizwa unecala, ukudangala, intukuthelo, nentukuthelo. Ungavumeli lezi zinto zihlale ngaphakathi kuwe noma kumlingani wakho.
Ukuvuma izono nokuphenduka kweqiniso kuyadingeka ukuletha ukuthula, injabulo, nobudlelwano obuqinile phakathi kwendoda nenkosikazi, naphakathi kombhangqwana noNkulunkulu.
Ukuze uthole ukuqonda okwengeziwe ngokuthethelela emshadweni, bukela le vidiyo:
Ukuphenduka nokuthethelelwa emshadweni akusoze kwaba lula
Akekho owake wathi umshado ophumelelayo wokuhlonipha uNkulunkulu wawulula. Uma othile enza, mfana oh boy, bakwenzile amanga kuwe! (Linda, sithini isihloko sale ndatshana? O kunjalo ... ukuthethelelwa! * Wink *) Kepha umshado ophumelelayo kuyinto kungenzeka.
Uzowenza amaphutha. Oshade naye uzokwenza amaphutha. Khumbula lokhu, futhi uqotho ekuphendukeni kwakho futhi uthembeke ekuxoleleni kwakho emshadweni. Kunokuthile okukhululayo ngokwazi ukutshela umyeni wakho noma unkosikazi wakho, "Ngiyakuxolela."