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- 1. Ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzimba, ngokwengqondo, ngamazwi nangokomzwelo
- 2. Ukuphathwa nokukhanyiswa kwegesi
- 3. IHysteria eningi kakhulu
- I-conundrum: ingaguqulwa kabusha?
- 1. Kuthatha intando enamandla ukusindisa ubuhlobo bakho
- 2. Kuthatha ukubheka emuva okuningi
- 3. Kuthatha isibindi ukuphatha amaphutha akho kanye nentando yokusebenza kuwo
- 4. Kudinga isibindi ukuxolisa ngobuqotho
- 5. Kudinga isibambiso 'ukungalokothi uphinde' amaphutha akho
- 6. Kudinga inhliziyo enkulu ukuxolela nokuxolelwa
Uthando lwenzelwe ukuletha ukuthula nokuzinza empilweni yawo wonke umuntu. Umqondo wonke wothando ugxile ekupheni nasekunikezeni. Kodwa-ke, kukhona umugqa omuhle phakathi kothando olunengqondo kanye nothando olungokoqobo.
Imingcele yothando iyahlukahluka kuye ngezithandani nezithandani. Kuxhomeke kakhulu kusethi yamanani abantu ababili ababelana ngawo. Kuya ngemvelo yabo kanye nendlela abakhuliswe ngayo.
Ngaphambi kokuthi sicubungule ngokujulile ukuthi ngabe ubudlelwane obungenampilo bunenkambiso yokuphenduka ubudlelwano obunempilo, siphoqelekile ukuthi sazi ukuthi yini ehlukanisa ubudlelwano obungenampilo nobudlelwano obunempilo.
Izimpawu eziyinhloko zobudlelwano obungenampilo
1. Ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzimba, ngokwengqondo, ngamazwi nangokomzwelo
Lokhu ukuhlukunyezwa okubi kakhulu umuntu angakuthola uma esebudlelwaneni obungenampilo. Izithandani ezijwayele ukucela ukuhlukunyezwa ngokwengqondo, ngokomzimba, ngamazwi nangokomzwelo zinamathele ebudlelwaneni obungenampilo. Lo mjikelezo wokuhlukumeza uqinisa izimpande zawo usuku nosuku uma ungalalelwa kusenesikhathi noma phakathi.
Imibhangqwana evame ukushintshana ngamazwi anokhahlo futhi engashiyi ithuba lokwenza omunye komunye azizwe emincane yimibhangqwana engenampilo edeleleke kakhulu. Ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo nangokwengqondo kungenzeka kufinyelele ezingeni elilandelayo; ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzimba. Uma zonke izinto ezine ziqala ukuba khona, qiniseka, yisipikili sokugcina ebhokisini.
2. Ukuphathwa nokukhanyiswa kwegesi
Ukuhlukunyezwa ngokwengqondo kungenye yezimpawu ezinkulu zobudlelwano obungenampilo. Ukuphatha umuntu ngokwenza lokho ofuna bakwenze kuyinkomba yeqhinga elibi. Abanye abantu bavame ukusebenzisa ukuhlukunyezwa kwengqondo ebuhlotsheni ukufeza izinhloso zabo.
Uma omunye wabalingani bobabili edlala imidlalo engokwengqondo nengokomzwelo ukuxhaphaza omunye ngaphandle kokubayeka baqagele, nakanjani kuyisibopho esingenampilo.
3. IHysteria eningi kakhulu
Uma kungekho zikhathi eziningi zokuthula empilweni yombhangqwana, futhi kunokukhulu ukushuba nokuthokomala okungokomzwelo, lapho-ke akukho lapho kusondele khona ebudlelwaneni obunempilo.
Izinto ezincane zinibangela nobabili, bese niwela ogibeni lwento yokwenza / yokusabela; ithola ubunikazi obuningi. Ukuba nomfutho kanye ne-hyper umkhuba onobuthi akekho okufanele abalingani ababa nabo.
Imizwelo yakho akufanele iye ezingeni lapho kukhona ukulahleka kwesizathu.
I-conundrum: ingaguqulwa kabusha?
Ngemuva kokukhomba izizathu ezidala ubudlelwano obungenampilo, kuphakama umbuzo wokuthi ungabuguqula yini ubudlelwano bakho obungenampilo noma cha. Kuyaduma ikhanda. Ungabutakula ubuhlobo bakho obungenampilo; noma kunjalo, kufanele uqaphele izinto ezithile.
1. Kuthatha intando enamandla ukusindisa ubuhlobo bakho
Okokuqala nokubaluleke kakhulu, udinga ukuzimisela. Udinga ukuthi uzimisele ngokuqinile ukushintsha uhlobo lobudlelwano bakho, kusuka kokungenampilo kuya kokunempilo.
Lapho kukhona khona incwadi yefa, kukhona indlela!
Uma ugcina ama-jags e-cribbing up, ngaphandle kokuba nesifiso esiqotho sokwenza ubuhlobo bakho bube nempilo, kuzoba wukuchitha amandla.
2. Kuthatha ukubheka emuva okuningi
Uma uzimisele ukushintsha izinto zibe zinhle, udinga ukuthi ubheke ikhola lakho kuqala. Akusho ukuthi bekungamele usize umlingani wakho ukuthi abone amaphutha akhe kepha qala ngawe.
Bona ukuthi uhambe kuphi futhi nini. Bamba ujule emaphutheni akho. Ungakunaki ukungazi kwakho. Zenze ube nenhliziyo emsulwa ngokwanele ukubona amaphutha akho, futhi uqine ngokwanele ukuwamukela.
3. Kuthatha isibindi ukuphatha amaphutha akho kanye nentando yokusebenza kuwo
Uyi-braveheart uma ungakhombisa ubuqhawe ukwamukela amaphutha akho. Into engcono kakhulu ukubheka amaphutha akho futhi uzimisele ukuwasebenza.
Abantu bavame ukwenza amaphutha futhi kwesinye isikhathi benze amaphutha amakhulu. Lowo ovuma amaphutha abo ungumuntu osezingeni elilandelayo.
4. Kudinga isibindi ukuxolisa ngobuqotho
Uxolo yigama elinezinhlamvu ezinhlanu elibonakala kulula ukuphinyiselwa kulo kepha kuba nzima ukulisho ngenhloso. Lapho uzisola, kufanele ube nesibindi sokutshela umuntu ukuthi uyaxolisa.
Ngenkathi uxolisa, akufanele kube ngethoni ehlelekile. Kufanele uziveze ngokucophelela. Tshela umlingani wakho ukuthi kubi kangakanani ukuthwala icala.
5. Kudinga isibambiso 'ukungalokothi uphinde' amaphutha akho
Kufanele nithembisane ukuthi ngeke uphinde uziphinde izinto ezingenampilo. Lapho usuhlele izinto ezibabayo, akufanele neze uzivumele zivele futhi.
Uma usuqedile isiyaluyalu, kufanele uqaphele ukuthi ungaphinde uchofoze inkinobho yokubhubhisa.
6. Kudinga inhliziyo enkulu ukuxolela nokuxolelwa
Lapho abantu ababili bevulelana izinhliziyo zabo futhi bemukela konke okungalungile abakwenze komunye nomunye, kubakhulula kubo bonke ubunzima. Zithethelele futhi uzithethelele ngokwanele ukuze uxolelwe.
Akunakwenzeka ugcine amagqubu ngemuva kokuzwa ukuxolisa okuqotho; ngokufanayo, ufanelwe ukuthethelelwa. Ekugcineni, yisimo sokuwina!