-Delile
- 1. Ukufuna ukuphelela
- 2. Ukuntuleka kwemingcele
- 3. Ukuzethemba okuphezulu nokuphansi
- 4. Amahloni afihliwe
- 5. Ukwesaba ukuba wedwa / ukulahlwa
Ukufana phakathi kwakho nabalingani bakho abakhohlisayo, abathandanayo empeleni bakugcina uheha omunye nomunye. Lokhu kufana kudlala indima enkulu ekugcineni ukhuluphele. Qhubeka ufunde ukuze uthole futhi uthathe izinyathelo zokulungisa uma ungumuntu onakekelayo onobuhlobo nomlingani wakho okhohlisayo. Qonda uma uqhubeka nokuba sebudlelwaneni obunobuthi obunje ngenxa yokwesaba, ukuzibophezela, ukuzethemba okuphansi noma amahloni.
Ukufana kwe-Narcissist / Caretaker
1. Ukufuna ukuphelela
Ukuphelela kusebenza ngokuhlukile kuma-narcissists nakubanakekeli. AmaNarcissist akholelwa ukuthi aphelele futhi wonke umuntu obazungezile kufanele aphelele, kanti wena njengomnakekeli ukholelwa ukuthi kufanele uphelele futhi kungumsebenzi wakho ukwenza oshade naye ajabule ngokuphelele. Inqobo nje uma ukholwa ukuthi kungumsebenzi wakho ukunakekela imizwa, izidingo kanye nalokho okulindele owakwakho, uzoqhubeka nokukhohliswa ngumqaphi.
2. Ukuntuleka kwemingcele
Cishe unemingcele ejwayelekile kobunye ubudlelwano bakho. Kodwa-ke, kungenzeka ukuthi uwe isisulu sokuhlangana nomlingani wakho okhohlisayo. Lapho uzizwa unothando olujulile futhi unakekela omunye umuntu, imingcele yakho ivame ukunyamalala. Awucabangi ukuthi akujwayelekile ukuzizwa ucwile kakhulu kothandekayo wakho. Ungakholelwa ukuthi akulungile ukuthi "cha" noma "ukuzicabangela wena", noma ukumdumaza nganoma iyiphi indlela. Noma ufuna ukubeka imingcele noma ungavumelani ungazizwa unecala ngokwenza njalo.
3. Ukuzethemba okuphezulu nokuphansi
Wena noshade naye mhlawumbe nobabili nibona ukuthi ukuzethemba kwenu kuphakeme kakhulu. AbakwaNarcissist bacindezela ukuzethemba kwabo okuphansi ngaphakathi kangangoba abazi nokuthi kukhona. Ngaphansi kwengcindezi, ama-narcissist akhungathekiswa yimizwa yangaphakathi engemihle, enobutha, enenzondo, futhi basebenzisa ulaka nokukhohlisa ukunciphisa ukulahlekelwa kwabo ukuzethemba, ukuziqhenya, noma ukuzihlonipha.
Abanakekeli basebenza kanzima ukuze baphane futhi bathande futhi imvamisa banokuzethemba okuhle. Kodwa-ke, lapho ungena ebudlelwaneni nomuntu othanda izinto ezingekho emthethweni, umuzwa wakho omuhle wokuzethemba uyaphela ngokushesha lapho uzama umsebenzi ongenakwenzeka wokuzama ukujabulisa owakwakhe ongathandani naye. Njengomnakekeli, uzizwa kufanele uhlale futhi "uzibonakalise" kumuntu obhala ngezinsimbi ukuthi unenhloso enhle, unenhliziyo enhle futhi uzama konke okusemandleni akho.
4. Amahloni afihliwe
AmaNarcissists nabanakekeli bavame ukuba namahloni amaningi afihliwe. Ukuzama ukuphelela lapho ungazizwa ngokwanele kudala ukucindezeleka okukhulu kubo bobabili. AbakwaNarcissist baveza ihlazo labo ngaphandle kwabanye ngokusola, ukuthukwa, ukubeka phansi, nezahlulelo ezilulazayo. Abanakekeli bavame ukuqala ukwahlulela okungafanele lapho oshade naye engajabule noma enganeme. Uma ukhuliswe ngumzali we-narcissistic noma okhohlisayo uzojwayela ukuzwa leli hlazo ngokuqinile. Futhi uma ukude ne-narcissist, kulapho uzoba nehlazo ngokwengeziwe.
U-Alicia wakhuliswa ngumama othanda ukuthanda izinto owayelokhu emgxeka futhi embeka phansi. Wayengazizwa enele ngokwanele, noma ngabe wenza imisebenzi emingaki noma wayenza kahle kangakanani. Ngakho-ke, lapho umyeni wakhe ememeza futhi ecasulwa ukuthi ayikho imali yokwenza lokho akufunayo, uthatha icala kalula. Uzama ukumenza alalele futhi ehlise umoya, kepha uvele awe lapho uMat emgxeka futhi emgxeka.
5. Ukwesaba ukuba wedwa / ukulahlwa
Bobabili abakwa-narcissist nabanakekeli banokwesaba ukuqeda ubudlelwane obunobutha, obuphikisanayo. Ukuba wedwa, kusho ukuthi awulungile ngokwanele futhi awuphelele ngokwanele. Ukushiya noma ukuvumela omunye umuntu ahambe kukhombisa ukwehluleka okujule, okululazayo kubo bobabili ababulali nabanakekeli.
UDavid angahle akhungatheke futhi athukuthele ngokuthi uSerena ubukeka emsizakala kanjani, kepha akacabangi ukuqeda ubuhlobo. Esikhundleni salokho, uvele athukuthele akhulume ngenkohliso ngokugcinwa kwendlu yakhe, akhononde ngokumnikeza imali ethe xaxa, aqhubeke amnikeze izindlela zokupheka — konke lokho angakunaki. Kepha uzimisele ukumqinisekisa ukuthi enze ingxenye yakhe efanelekile. Uyaziziba lezi zinto ngoba wabona kudala ukuthi akasoze amshiya. Kepha wenza isiqiniseko sokwenza okulingene ukumvimba ukuthi angadluli emaphethelweni ngoba ayikho indlela afuna ukubuyela ngayo emndenini wakhe ehlazekile.
Ukuhamba kokugcina
AmaNarcissist nabanakekeli bane-push / donsa, uthando / inzondo, abaphezulu / abaphansi, banqoba / balahlekelwe uhlobo lwe-magnetic symbiosis. Izici zakho eziphikisanayo ziyaqinisana, futhi ukufana kwakho kukugcina unamathele ndawonye. Uhlangane nobudlelwano obuhlanganayo, yize buvame ukuba nobutha, ubudlelwane bugxile ngokuphelele ku-narcissist. Ungakhononda ngakho, kepha uyanikezela ngoba uzizwa unesibopho, unesibopho, futhi imvamisa wesaba kakhulu ukuthi ungahambisani nalo.