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- Nquma ngesidlo sakusihlwa. Ngiyacela
- Suka ezinkundleni zokuxhumana. Akanendaba
- Nika uzokwamukela
- Zama ukondla ngokwengeziwe ngesikhathi “sendoda ebandayo”
Bantu besifazane, sekuyisikhathi sokuthola okwangempela. Kuyahlekisa kwangempela ... kahle, ngethemba. Iseluleko somshado singaba yisidina futhi sibe yisicefe, kanti nomshado, ngokwawo, ukude nawo. Kuyasendle, kuyahlanya, futhi kwesinye isikhathi kuyahlekisa uma uzivumela ukuthi uvuleleke kukho. Lezi zingcezu ezilandelayo zezeluleko zisalungile, kepha woza ugoqwe ngokubhuqa okuncane nobuqili. Lawula amandla akho ngokuthanda futhi ubuke ukushintsha komshado wakho kube ngcono konke ngenkathi wena nomyeni wakho nihleka.
Nquma ngesidlo sakusihlwa. Ngiyacela
Lapho umyeni wakho ekubuza ukuthi ufuna ukuyaphi esidlweni sakusihlwa, zama ukugwema ukusho izinto ezinjengokuthi “Anginandaba”, “noma ikuphi lapho ufuna ukuya khona”, noma “akunandaba kimi”. Kungenzeka ukuthi uqaphele ukuthi indoda yakho iyacasulwa yile mpendulo ngezikhathi ezithile kule minyaka edlule, futhi akukhona ukuthi bacasukile ukuthi ubanikeze ukubusa kwamahhala ngezinhlelo zokudla kwakusihlwa. Kungenxa yokuthi bacela umbono wakho futhi bafuna ukudla kwenye indawo ozoyithokozela. Amadoda amaningi (kufaka phakathi nami) azodla cishe noma yini. Indawo yokudlela ayinandaba ngoba noma ngabe ikuphi, bazothola okuthile abakuthandayo kumenyu.
Ngokuvamile, nokho, ozakwethu besifazane bakhethe kakhulu ekukhetheni kwabo ukudla. Sinikeza ithuba lokuthi wenze ukhetho ukuze weneliseke ngenkampani yakho nangezifundo zakho eziyinhloko.
Esikhundleni sokudlala lo mdlalo omncane wokuthi "Ngizoya noma kuphi, sithandwa, ukhetha," ngokuphindaphindiwe njalo ebusuku ubusuku, yenza inqubo ibe lula. Uma ekubuza ukuthi ungathanda ukuyodla kuphi, mnike izinketho ezintathu ezingafanelana nezinto ozithandayo. Kulezo zokudlela, lapho-ke angakhetha ukuthi iyiphi eyodwa ezwakala engcono kakhulu kuye. Leli iqhinga lokuwina konke ngoba wenelisekile ukukunikeza ithuba lokukhetha, futhi wenelisekile ngokungadingi ukuthatha isinqumo sokugcina.
Suka ezinkundleni zokuxhumana. Akanendaba
Uma uncika kumyeni wakho futhi umkhombise ngothando ukuthi bangaki abathanda isithombe sakho nenja yakho osithole ku-Instagram, ungamangali uma engajabule noma engenandaba nenjabulo yakho. Njengoba ubuka izinombolo zikhuphuka ezithombeni eziyizintandokazi zakho nezibuyekezo zesimo sakho, kungenzeka ukuthi uziba umuntu oyedwa okungenzeka ukuthi ufuna ukunakwa kakhulu kuye. Kuzoba kungaqondile ekuqaleni, kepha kwesinye isikhathi angahle aphendukele kuwe asho okuthile emigqeni ye:
“Kungani ungaphathi udokotela wami njengoFacebook bese uyikhombisa kancane?”
Ngonya? Impela. Kepha ngisho ukuthi akufanele umangale. Ngethemba ukuthi umfana wakho usho lokho akudingayo ukusho ngenhlonipho, kepha mhlawumbe wehlise leso sikhathi ku-Snapchat ukuthinta uma kungenzeka. Ngiyazi ukuthi kunzima ukukuziba ukusebenzisana onakho nabantu emhlabeni wedijithali, kepha ungavumeli ukuthi kufiphaze ukuhlangana okukhona okuhleli eduze kwakho.
Nika uzokwamukela
Ngabe uke uzithole ukhala ngokuthi akusekho nhlansi empilweni yakho yothando? Uma wenza kanjalo, cabanga emuva ekuqaleni komshado wakho, ngemuva nje kokuba isigaba se-honeymoon siqale ukuphela. Kukangaki ushaya isandla sakho noma wamtshela ukuthi “Hhayi namhlanje, baby. Ngikhathele ngempela ”? Yebo, ngiyakuzonda ukukusho, kepha lokho kwenqatshwa kushiye ezinye izibazi ezingazi lutho kumuntu wakho, futhi kukuwe ukuzilungisa.
Uma ufuna ukwenza impilo yakho yezocansi ijabulise ngokwengeziwe, thatha isinyathelo sokuqala. Kungenzeka ukuthi ubefuna ukwenza into efanayo, kepha unamathele kugobolondo elakhiwe ukwenqatshwa kwakho kwangaphambilini. Mnike inzuzo yokungabaza futhi uvuselele injini yakhe ngokulawula. Ngena ekamelweni ugqoke iwigi. Yehla kuye ngaphandle kwesizathu (futhi ungalindeli ukubuyiselwa noma yini). Nika uzokwamukela. Ngethembe.
Zama ukondla ngokwengeziwe ngesikhathi “sendoda ebandayo”
Kulungile, uma ungazi ukuthi yini "indoda ebandayo", thatha umzuzu bese uyi-Google. Ngizolinda. Kulungile, kuhle. Usubuyile. Ngakho-ke, njengoba kungenzeka ufunde, lapho thina bantu sigula, sithambekele ekusukeni sisuke empilweni esezingeni elijwayelekile siye embhedeni wokufa ngokushesha okukhulu. Ngiyazi ukuthi kungabonakala kuzwisa usizi. Ngiyazi ukuthi ufuna ukwahlulela ngakho. Kepha usinakekele noma kunjalo, akunjalo?
Ngingathanda ukusho ukuthi kungenxa yokuthi sinzima kakhulu ukuthi size siguqulwe ngamadolo ngezinto ezibucayi, kepha sobabili siyazi ukuthi ngabe ngiqamba amanga. Iqiniso ukuthi udinga ukusinakekela nje ngomama bethu ababejwayele. Lokhu kungenzeka kugudle abanye benu ngendlela engafanele, kepha mane usinikeze le. Uneziqu zakho namaphutha akho, ake nje sikhamise sikhale njengezingane lapho sigula. Futhi ngeke kulimaze ukusibuyisela empilweni ugqoke leyo mvunulo yomhlengikazi oyigqokile ye-halloween emuva ekolishi. Angase aphume embhedeni ngokushesha kunokuba ucabanga.
Ngiyethemba lawa macebiso akwenze waqhuqha kancane, ngenkathi futhi ukukwazisa ngezinto ezithile ongazenza ukugcina ukumamatheka ebusweni bendoda yakho. Yebo, akaphelele, kodwa nawe unjalo. Lapho nobabili nigcina lokho phezulu kwengqondo, kuzokuba ngcono kakhulu ekuhambeni kwesikhathi. Yamukela lezo quirks bese uzisebenzise ukuze uthole ukuhleka okutholile. Futhi ngokungathí sina, nquma ngokuthile kokudla kwakusihlwa. Ngiyacela.